How to prolong LD while sleeping with a restless spouse?

For the past couple of months my hubby has been sleeping on the couch due to crazy snoring. So it had been easier for me to LD. I LD by a variety of induction methods, I have done Wild a couple times, then DEILD, DILD and then sometimes I just become aware out of nowhere.

Last night, out of nowhere I became lucid. Usually I'm not very good at keeping the dream from ending because I can never tell when it's happening, and most times I know when I can feel myself in my room again, and am only getting imagery in front of my eyes but I can't participate. Well I noticed the dream was shrinking and I decided to rub my hands together, I could already feel my room, and everything was dark but I thought I would try, because I could hear the dream still. As I did it, I seriously thought I was rubbing them together IRL and would open my eyes to seeing me doing it. Well I rubbed, and I tried to really listen to the dream voices, I cautiously opened my eyes and I was back in it. So barely anytime goes by and it fades again, I grip onto a parking meter in front of me and really feel it, and I stabilize again. Again barely anytime goes by and it fades again, and again it went dark. I knelt down and felt the ground and again tried to really hone in on the feel and the voices I still heard and I was back again. I reoriented by saying my name and my address. I started saying my childhood address, and laughed and then said my current one. So I was very oriented. Once again after a very short time, it started to fade and I couldn't save it and thought maybe my REM cycle was coming to an end. However, once I oriented myself in my room, I realized that my husband was twitching. That is one thing that drives me nuts is when he starts to enter REM more often in the early morning hours he twitches non-stop and I really think that was causing me to constantly fall out of the dream and having to spend my whole time trying to keep it stabilized.

Is there any tips or tricks for this type of situation so I'm not wasting so much of my LD just trying to stay dreaming?

On a side note, while lucid I never do what I intend to do. I always fly and just follow my dream. I want to get myself more excited to try out more things, flying is addicting!

Really makes you appreciate the wisdom of our grandparent's sleeping in separate beds. I used to think it was so funny and weird as a teen, but now that I'm in to lucid dreaming, and have a spouse who sometimes snores and moves around right when I'm trying to get back to a late morning REM, separate beds sure sounds pretty good!

You may want to focus your LDing on naps perhaps? Or move to the couch yourself a few times per week. It's really important to have a quiet and still environment, especially for those later morning dreams where you're right on the edge of waking. Without any disturbances you can DEILD the morning away sometimes which is really fun.

I sleep on the floor for LDing.

Also, I have found that when the dream "shrinks," it's not necessarily that you are being disrupted. It could (and probably is?) something you are creating based on your expectation of a wake-up. Same with the fade-outs, though those too happen upon real awakenings. Something to consider.

Sleeping in separate beds could help a lot but nothing will help better than cutting off your expectations on waking up. Our brain can absorb those external inputs and turn them into the dream plot. For example, if there's a loud barking dog in the neighborhood, I will constantly see dog related stuff around and allowing it to stay there will help my dream mind to redirect any input into those figures. I had a long and nice DEILD chain while my daughter came to sleep to my bed late at night because of she got cold, I just allowed her DC to run with me inside the dream and sent her to see a fish tank late in the dream. I think it depends more on the way you think about what's happening around you, but definitively sleeping in separate beds could give a hand ;-)