Always wake up after asking a question

**DreamHighlander** · 04-20-2018 07:13 PM

Hi, guys.
I have a question for you with something i don't know if it happens to you also.

I often dream about family that passed away, which i guess many people do also. Some people say that it's our own minds projecting those people, some even might say that we're interacting with their spirit. I don't know. I have an open mind. But a thing i wanted to experiment is something that i read people did, which is asking the "dream character" to tell something that we don't know for we to validate in the real world. Som as i often dream with my deceased grandmother, i ask her to tell me something that only she and his daughter (my mother) knows. So i can then validate it with my mother.
The problem is that for the third time i ask this, when she is about to tell me something, i wake up suddenly. Firstly, i often wake up slowly from a dream, with the dream fading away, not suddenly with my heart beating fast. Secondly, i always wake up after asking that question. Why is that? Coincidence? Is my subconcious preventing me to know the answer?

**Charles3** · 04-21-2018 12:13 AM

Hmm it seems like a very un-opportune time to wake up, if you want the information. Maybe your Mom wouldn't be ready for you to bring it up. For some people bringing up the past is too much. So if its your Grandmother's spirit maybe she knows this and is protecting your Mom.

(Just a guess, I don't know how open your Mom is. But for example, I have a question I really want to ask my mom about what happened to me as a kid. (More of the details) But I never get around to it because it was very horrific and she probably doesn't want to have to remember it.)

Other than that maybe just increasing your meditation might help with stability.

I think a lot of people (myself included) have trouble with dreams abruptly ending so just hang in there because I think eventually it gets better.

**DreamHighlander** · 04-21-2018 12:35 AM

Thanks, Charles3 for the answer.
My mom is very open minded. She is even more spiritual than i am. And she and her mother were very close.
I even thought that maybe it's my subconscious (or whatever controls the dream) that doesn't think that i'm ready for the answer now. But i will keep trying. Someday i will get the result that i want.

**DreamHighlander** · 04-21-2018 11:07 AM

Today in a dream, i asked "the awareness behind the dream" why is that i wake up suddenly when i make that question to my grandmother. Guess what? Before i knew the answer, i woke up suddenly.

**starsofclay** · 04-21-2018 01:54 PM

Hi, I responded to this in the other forum you posted in, so I'll copy my answer:

So I'm definitely not an expert on this, but it could be a few different things,

first, it is possible that your subconscious (ego) is protecting you, or doesn't want to hear it because it could shake your foundation. Or it could be that you actually did hear the answer, but it was scrubbed from memory and you only think that you woke up suddenly with your heart beating fast.

unfortunately the title of your thread only reinforces the idea that this is going to happen in the future. So I would do some affirmations before sleep that go something like "I NEVER wake up after asking a question." Or "I never wake up until I have heard the answer." Or "I always remember the answers." Something like that, just play around with it.

You may also want to train your ego/subconscious that it is OK to hear things that it may not want to hear, so an affirmation like "I believe it's OK to hear things I may not want to hear" might help. If you don't like repeating mantras/affirmations, then record a 10 minute audio of your own voice saying these affirmations and listen to that before sleep. In the recording, you can mix up different phrases for a fuller effect.

**Charles3** · 04-21-2018 04:09 PM

Originally Posted by DreamHighlander

Today in a dream, i asked "the awareness behind the dream" why is that i wake up suddenly when i make that question to my grandmother. Guess what? Before i knew the answer, i woke up suddenly.

Very interesting. Well, once got lucid, and I asked, "Why can't I dream forever?" And then I woke up. Within a few minutes I realized I needed the bathroom! So my answer was actually waiting for me there in waking life. Maybe in some way, your question is already being answered.

Like what do you feel when you wake up? is it, "D'OH! NOT AGAIN!" Well, maybe, "DO'H! NOT AGAIN!" is your answer

**DreamHighlander** · 04-21-2018 05:57 PM

Originally Posted by starsofclay

first, it is possible that your subconscious (ego) is protecting you, or doesn't want to hear it because it could shake your foundation. Or it could be that you actually did hear the answer, but it was scrubbed from memory and you only think that you woke up suddenly with your heart beating fast.

I'm more inclined to your first answer. I have vivid dreams and i can remember them in detail. I will know if i somehow didn't remember what was said. Maybe i'm not prepared for the answer. So, i'm preparing for the next time, make a simpler question.

Originally Posted by starsofclay

So I would do some affirmations before sleep that go something like "I NEVER wake up after asking a question." Or "I never wake up until I have heard the answer." Or "I always remember the answers." Something like that, just play around with it.

You may also want to train your ego/subconscious that it is OK to hear things that it may not want to hear, so an affirmation like "I believe it's OK to hear things I may not want to hear" might help. If you don't like repeating mantras/affirmations, then record a 10 minute audio of your own voice saying these affirmations and listen to that before sleep. In the recording, you can mix up different phrases for a fuller effect.

Those are great tips. Thanks.