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I keep having reccuring dreams of my ex-husband! They are so real! Help !!!?
I have been having this dream for about two years now. I dream I go to my ex-husbands house and he is crying. His girlfriend is going to be home soon and I try to help him by cleaning his house, cooking for him etc. The dream usually ends with me and him hugging and crying. I tell him I can help him and he tells me there is no help. The dreams are so real that now when I have them he already knows I am coming and we both know that I am dreaming. The dream changes some but is always at what use to be our house and he and I are so sad. Thing is......I haven't seen him for about 5 years now and have no contact with him. This has been going on for about two years now. When the dreams start...they last for about a month, go away then come again after a few months. After the dream..I cry all day and I wake up missing him TERRIBLY. Normally I don't even think about him. Not until the dreams start. What does this mean and can ANYONE HELP ME?????? PLEASE!!!!

These dreams are so real. Last night in the dream we even talked about how glad we were to "meet" in our dreams!!!! I KNOW that is NOT possible so what is going on!!! I loved him more than the air I breathe but thought I was over it. AM over it. This is freaking me out because they are becoming more real and I know I am NOT crazy. He has a girl friend and I am remarried and haven't talked to him in 5 years! What is going on? Has this ever happened to anyone else???? Help!!!

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Originally Posted by joanie

I keep having reccuring dreams of my ex-husband! They are so real! Help !!!?
I have been having this dream for about two years now. I dream I go to my ex-husbands house and he is crying. His girlfriend is going to be home soon and I try to help him by cleaning his house, cooking for him etc. The dream usually ends with me and him hugging and crying. I tell him I can help him and he tells me there is no help. The dreams are so real that now when I have them he already knows I am coming and we both know that I am dreaming. The dream changes some but is always at what use to be our house and he and I are so sad. Thing is......I haven't seen him for about 5 years now and have no contact with him. This has been going on for about two years now. When the dreams start...they last for about a month, go away then come again after a few months. After the dream..I cry all day and I wake up missing him TERRIBLY. Normally I don't even think about him. Not until the dreams start. What does this mean and can ANYONE HELP ME?????? PLEASE!!!!

These dreams are so real. Last night in the dream we even talked about how glad we were to "meet" in our dreams!!!! I KNOW that is NOT possible so what is going on!!! I loved him more than the air I breathe but thought I was over it. AM over it. This is freaking me out because they are becoming more real and I know I am NOT crazy. He has a girl friend and I am remarried and haven't talked to him in 5 years! What is going on? Has this ever happened to anyone else???? Help!!!

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Try to think as you go to sleep that you will recognise you are dreaming when you see him. If you see anything throughout the day that reminds you of him, then use that time to do a reality check.

This should carry over into the dreams and you should begin to recognise these dreams. In the dream, if you truly recognise you are dreaming, you should remember to carry out the following task.

Try speaking to him and asking him why he keeps talking to you and reappearing in your dreams. Ask him to stop giving you these dreams.

There are many cases, especially in EWOLD, where those who are subject to recurring nightmares are 'cured' by conversing with the source of the fear.

You might not consider this to be a nightmare, but using this method you should stop being subject to this recurring dreams.

Hope it helps.

Hi joanie,

I don't know much about re-occuring dreams, but, I do know that they are a common thing, so don't worry too much.

You could try reading up on re-occuring dreams in this section of the forum:

http://www.dreamviews.com/community/...splay.php?f=46

And you'll probably get some good advice here.

Thank you. I honestly know in the dreams that I am dreaming! Weird, Huh! Anyway, since I know that the next time I WILL ask why I am here. My Mom who is definately not into Psychics told me I need to see one!! (she was joking) I am going to try that. I thought just writing this all down could maybe stop the dreams. We'll see, Thanks, J

I think either he didn't get over you, or vice versa. If you know its a dream, then try getting rid of him so you can actually enjoy your dreams instead of having this depressing environment.. When I have sad dreams, it usually reflects of how I'm gonna act the morning I wake up.. Hope you find possibilities that can get rid of this grudge