Originally Posted by
Shady
Ok, now Im going to say now that there is a good chance this post will babble on and on.. as I tend to do so when explaining things :). Feel free to check the bottom for a simple recap though.
I guess first of all, WILDs are different for everyone. There are some striking similarities, but there are so many alterations to all the methods that you really just need to play around to find something that works for you. WILD's are kind of an acquired skill, I used to find them next to impossible.. and now its strange if I dont have several a night :).
If you really believe its going to be hard, it will be. The best thing I can say is really dont over think what your doing for the first few times.. Simply get a feel on how you can get into a very calm, relaxed state without going through a wall of text in your head. (Aka, dont run through 10 different tutorials on how to WILD when you try to fall asleep. Commit to something, do it.. or do nothing.)
Also before I get started on my personal experiences, relaxation is one of those things you just cannot force. Trying to relax contradicts the very thing you are trying to accomplish :p. Best thing you can do is lay as still as possible, and focus on something consistent, or unchanging. I have several methods that I've picked up from all over the boards that seem to work for me, plenty dont though. Usually I do use a 4/3 breathing method.. Focus on nothing but that for a few mins, then begin to contract and relax my muscles during the inhales/exhales.. I'll get into that in a sec though.
1 - Clear my mind: The first thing I do like I said is just take some nice deep breaths, and focus on that alone. Random thoughts from the day are still going nuts in my head when I first lay down, so I always take a few minutes to just let them go away before I get started. The 4/3 Breathing method is just basically inhale for 4 secs, hold it for 3 secs, exhale for 4 secs, hold for 3. You may need to adjust it a bit. but personally I believe the time doesnt matter.. It just takes breathing to a bit higher level, requires slightly more concentration. This will help you stay aware much more then "natural" breathing would.
2 - Relax my body: Once I feel like my mind is beginning to calm down, and my body is already starting to cool down.. I will begin tensing a whole bunch of muscles from the feet up. Its very important to synchronize your breathing during this I find. (Still doing the 4/3). It basically goes like this.
Inhale - Begin tensing my right foot during the 4 seconds, should be fully flexed before you stop inhaling.
3 In - Hold the flex and your breath for 3 secs.
Exhale - As you exhale release your muscle, and really FEEL that part of your body relaxing. Think of it like a liquid, oozing down as you relax.
3 Out - Dont breathe in for a a few secs. Then rinse and repeat.
*Optional* During the few secs after you exhale, feel free to visualize your body reaching down to your foot and turning a light switch or something alike from "On" to "Off". You dont really need to do this, but I find if it only helps further. Its sorta incorporating tactile and motion sensations into relaxation if you can manage doing both at the same time. Btw, when I say visualize.. I dont mean watch. Really feel your "dream body" reaching down and grasping the switch, and moving it. Feel your body sitting up, then laying down. As you lie back down try to will the feeling of sinking to help you even more.
Continue this for both feel, calves, hammys, butt, abs, chest, shoulders, biceps, forearms, hands, neck, jaw, forehead. Im sure you can do more or less, do it untill YOU are relaxed.
Err, didnt mean to post this yet, still finishing it so check back in a few lol