discouraged... please...

*sighs and holds hand to a temple* I know I should hunt around the forum trying to find my answers before I open a new topic, but I keep getting lost around here, and I'm sorry, but...

*sighs again* Long story short, a rather nasty lucid nightmare; I can only b happy that I was lucid and forced myself to wake up after what was approximately twenty seconds percieved in my dream.

It scared the living daylights out of me, and I suppose I'm making progress by suddenly deciding that everything was wrong, that the early morning sunlight streaming into my room was too golden and almost irradescent, and the sheer ludicracy of the situation... but...

I DON'T want a repeat... This was last Sunday morning and I'm still shaken...

I'm trying to figure out if I ought to do what I did when I was young and decide to not remember anything from my dreams anymore and effectively not dream again, or if maybe I really focused on actually honing LD abilities instead of kinda half-assing it like I have been, I might do better, and... ugh, I don't know... I'm nervous and skittish and don't want to bring it up directly with my lover despite the fact that he's usually the one I ask about anything to do with LDing, because I honestly don't want to tell him what happened...

just... could somebody help me out a bit? please? I'm really kinda freaked...

Hey if you need to talk about it just pm me. I'll try my best to help you.

Can you tell me what happened in this nightmare that has shaken your intent so?

PM or here?

I'm just trying to figure a couple things out... I know it wasn't caused by a problem in my life, at least not one that affects me consciously. I have no stress to be causing nightmares in general, as I honestly have a very easy life right now. It's also the very first dream I've had where it's just like "SNAP, This is a dream, the lighting's wrong, it almost glows. And that's one of his uncontrolled dream personas, that's not him, and I don't even know if his dream-self would go so far..." I've only had a handful of LDs before, and they were when i was very young, and I just knew I needed to wake up, I demanded it of myself, I had to get out. And suddenly the light faded to something natural, pale, and he was facing away from me in bed. I was pretty sure I was out of it, I glanced at my clock and it said the same time it had when I looked in the dream, and reached out to touch his shoulder since he was facing away from me, and he rolled over and smiled at me as he woke up, and so I just said good morning.

I'm not sure what it was, exactly, but... I just want to find a way to not repeat it. From how things changed, and with me even the fact that I could wake, and gently instead of abruptly, I suspect I was halfway awake already, especially since the two clock times matched; it was the exact same setting, outside the fact that tiny details were missing and the light was odd in the dream. I've also heard some stories here and there about bad shit happening when you're caught in between.

I guess I'm also somewhat upset that my first lucid dream where I really KNEW it, and could wake up from it so I had some greater level of control, would be a nightmare.

Though if anybody read a thread I started a while ago, about proximity of other dreamers, especially lucid dreamers, inducing stronger dreams, this supports that random theory, as I was sleeping next to my love, and he's a fair lucid dreamer.

It's hard to figure out how to help without certain particulars. I'm never lucid in nightmares so I can't say I've experienced a LN (as I'll call it). I'm open to PMs if you want to share what happend.

I personally feel that if a person is lucid, nightmares often affect confidence and concentration. So, when things go wrong it's important to remember that this is YOUR dream and try to make a safe-haven for yourself. Even if it involves invisioning yourself in a box of a blank setting, it's a start and you can rebuild the dream from there. I find, also, summoning helpful DCs are affective. I managed to get over a non-lucid nightmare that way. Just my opinion.

I’ve become lucid in a nightmare and even though I became lucid the danger in the dream seemed very real. I knew that I would loose lucidity quickly and I knew that something extremely bad was about to happen. What I did was to fast forward through the dream so I would be past the point where the worst of it was over. I think I did something like imagining and analogue clock visualizing a time then moved that forward 30minutes.
I lost lucidity straight after this but the rest of the dream wasn’t as bad as before.

One of the problems with lucid dreaming is that when your recall gets good and your dreams get vivid the unpleasant ones are a bit harder to get over. Just forgetting about it is the best thing to do I think.

I don't think the solution here is neccessarly to 'fast forward'. Because Negaigoto doesn't like what was happening. I think in situtations like this, you just have to be calm and realize you are in control. Lucidity helps with that.

Besides, I'm sure that was just a random occurance. Don't dwell too much on it. :)