Can i be helped?

Hello,

I am new to lucid dreaming but before i delve deeper i wondered if it was possible to learn to control myself in dreams and to stop or at least control my constant vivid nightmares.

This may sound ridiculous but i really feel i need help, i am not looking for dream interpratation or anything like that but here is a bit about me:

I have been having bad, bad dreams almost every other night. These are often quite terrible and horrific. I am 21 years old. I often wake up in cold sweats, crying or shaking with a lump in my throat and often feel like i shouldn't be here or alive. Sometimes i am so frightened i have caught myself unconciously holding my breath. They usually stay with me throughout the day they have make me feel very depressed and anxious. I just want them to go away i am afraid to go to sleep.

I have been to my doctor who tells me they will eventually go away. I am not on any medication and i don't have anything to be stressed out about. So now i am trying to find my own soloution to this problem.

I know lucid dreaming can take a long time to master but does anyone think it might help or am i just wasting my time?

Sorry for the random post or if you feel it doesn't belong here but i need to do something about it, it really is effecting my day to day life.

Many thanks.

Best thing to do is find out why your having these nightmares. Think of every detail and how it could relate to your real life, you could have bigger issues bothering you.
Otherwise, you could try to tell yourself that you're going to have happy enjoyable dreams. Keep saying that to yourself as you go to sleep. That same method helps me remember dreams. Not sure if that would help in your case though.

Best thing i can say dude, and you have to fight it, these dreams are NOT real, you must tell yourself that when you get into a nightmare, look at those monsters dead in the face and laugh, "you can't hurt me, but i can hurt you!"

There nothing but your mind playing jokes on you, i remember when i was 12 i had nightmares for a week stright, i started fighting back on 3rd day cause i was getting sick of being pushed around in my dreams! MY DREAMS! i TOOK CONTROL AND BEAT THEM ALL F%%K UP!

so my best advice is this, go to sleep with Pride, and cofidence, make sure if they come back, you will laugh at them. tell them to there face, your not real!

Thankyou :)

Yes i'm sure going to sleep worrying about what might happen isn't going to help me and i just keep working myself up. I guess i need to relax a bit more beforehand and think more as to what could be causing them.

My dreams are very vivid and feel very real. Often including myself and people i know just in bad situations. I am not sure i will be able to fight back as such as i am often not aware and have no control until i wake up but you both make very good points so ty.

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Yes, Ladyhawke, you can be helped ;)

The great thing about lucid dreaming is that you decide what happens on a conscious level. Nightmares can happen because of deeply buried thoughts in the subconscious mind that are negative and perhaps suppressed. Not that that's necessarily the particular case with you, but it's a possibility.

It doesn't necessarily take a long time to master, and I know it will be able to help you greatly. I don't normally adopt people (I think I've been in the adoptions forum like once) but if you would like some more one on one help with learning to lucid dream, please PM me asap. You will be able to benefit from lucid dreaming, and I am positive that it will reduce the terrors you're experiencing every night. Rather than helping people learn to blow up things and turn into dogs and fly, I would very much like to provide any assistance possible to helping you overcome your nightmares.

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Originally Posted by Rainman

Yes, Ladyhawke, you can be helped ;)

The great thing about lucid dreaming is that you decide what happens on a conscious level. Nightmares can happen because of deeply buried thoughts in the subconscious mind that are negative and perhaps suppressed. Not that that's necessarily the particular case with you, but it's a possibility.

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Thankyou it is nice to know that lucid dreaming could be a soloution. I think you are most probably right in regards to thoughts that are negative/suppressed as i tend to try and forget about my worries, concerns etc and not automatically deal with them head on, so there could be a build up in the subconcious although i am not entirely sure. I look forward to learning about LD'ing and maybe putting some of the teqniques into practice. Hopefully i will be able to overcome this whilst being able to learn something extraordinary in the process :) thanks again. All this has given me hope.

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Originally Posted by Shift

It doesn't necessarily take a long time to master, and I know it will be able to help you greatly. I don't normally adopt people (I think I've been in the adoptions forum like once) but if you would like some more one on one help with learning to lucid dream, please PM me asap. You will be able to benefit from lucid dreaming, and I am positive that it will reduce the terrors you're experiencing every night. Rather than helping people learn to blow up things and turn into dogs and fly, I would very much like to provide any assistance possible to helping you overcome your nightmares.

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:bowdown: Thankyou so much, you are very kind! I appreciate your help greatly :) I have sent you a PM, look forward to hearing from you!

People think those nightmares are unavoidable and will just terrorize you in lucid dreams but since it's all in your head there are many ways around it people just tend to think it's unavoidable. I'd really talk to Shift or someone else (can give you some advice as well) before just giving up or "trying to stop dreaming" like so many people seem to want to do lol.

Hey guys,

My girlfriend is also having nightmares that are seriously affecting her life. She fears to go to bed, and is experiencing depression during waking life. I myself am a lucid dreamer, but I'm not very experienced. If anyone could help out that would be so great. I have laid down the basics for her telling her to use her nightmares as a dreamsign, and told her to perform reality checks anytime anything reminds her of the dream, or whenever the thought of the dream comes into her head. Any advice or help would be great! Thanks.

Step 1: have her join DV? I'll forward you what I sent LadyHawke so that you can forward it to your friend.

Lucid dreams are a great way to end these nightmares. They can even be used as a dream sign to help you get lucid. I am sure Shift will be giving you all the information needed.