Off and on lucid dreaming.

I love dreaming, it's the one time I'm able to live any fantasy I desire. Lately, i've become rather good at dream recall. Before I sleep I try to focus on a subject i'd like to dream about, but it usually fails horribly. Luckily i'm able to recall the dreams i've had, which i've always been good at, now the next step is controlling them. I've had dreams where i've controlled the situation every now and then, but never anything drastic.

What's been happening recently is that, whatever I hope to not happen during my dream will then happen. I've most recently dreamed of a guy I have feelings for and I'll wish him to be with me in the dream and not with some other girl present and then all of a sudden, they will be all over each other. I guess all I can do is practice to control my actions, in which case i'll probably physically attack the other girl. Lol.

Anyone have any suggestions or insights on as to what I should do or how I should go about stopping the opposite of what I wish to happen from happening? My mind is playing cruel jokes on me. ;x

xoxo
Caitlin

Caitlin, it's possible that your mind is not playing cruel jokes on you at all, but simply responding to your thoughts. perhaps by focusing on what you want to have happen and not on what you don't want to have happen, you may have better results. as i understand it, the subconscious is very open to suggestion and by thinking about what you "don't" want to have happen, you are telling your mind to create that experiece. it doesn't hear the "don't". you are attracting that experience because you are aligning your energy with it. this is one possible explanation. im sure that there are many. maybe it's not so simple as this.
sweet dreams!