I've noticed that when I first returned to this forum after my absence, I was much better at dealing with people. As time went on, I lost my grounding. Now, in order to protect my ego, I've found myself sinking to the same level as the sad, substandard posters that think their ridicule and flaming is somehow funny. Only by reading through an old post of mine did I even become aware of how badly my attitude had been warped over the last 6 months. |
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Everything works out in the end, sometimes even badly.
I'm one who believes ignoring something and turning to ignorance is never the best answer, and that's what I would advise you to do. It takes an incredible amount of patience and cool-headedness (if that's a word ) to deal with the vast majority of the internet. Personally, I've noticed this deterioration that you mentioned, but only really in the extended discussion forum where people are naturally talking about topics which are often debated. When I first joined I was incredibly happy that I had found a forum full of people with an IQ over 80, and who have very little, if any, need or want to flame someone else for having different ideals. Coming from somebody who often reads the majority of comments on site such as youtube, this site was a massive intellectual relief and still is. |
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So what does this thread have to do with "peace"? Is "peace" code word for "agreeing with me"? |
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Previously PhilosopherStoned
Maybe a hiatus is in order. I feel like DV deserves better. But then again, participating in a petty ego match against another member is already handing them victory in the first place. They succeeded at what they wanted. And if I can't refrain from that, then DV deserves better than me, too. I suppose this thread is not just about asking for advice on how to keep myself grounded in the face of sophistry, it's also a warning to others. I love the liberation I have obtained from the need to be right, but because people's egos get intertwined within the debates here, I end up getting attached to not being proven wrong, despite the fact that I arrived at most of my conclusions by relating different issues and finding commonalities most people would not see. I can't exactly blame people for not thinking the same way I do, I think in a very unique way. But I get hindered by the fact that some people have no respect for different modes of thought. They think their concept of the universe is the only one that matters, and everyone needs to process information the same way they do. And it gets really frustrating. This is not a problem that will go away with hiatus, nor a problem I can solve. People are who they are. They will respond to ideas as is dictated by their nature. I cannot force someone to respect an idea they do not feel inclined to respect. I cannot force someone to become humble of their own place in the world and learn to appreciate the different positions of others. All I can do is present my position as honestly as possible and allow the crucifixion to take place. |
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Everything works out in the end, sometimes even badly.
PhilosopherStoned is a perfect example. Do I just ignore him? Do I attempt to come up with a clever quip in retort? Do I attempt to correct his vague misconstruction of my statements, so that we can reach common ground? What action would not leave me feeling deflated? What action would not derail the thread? What action would teach him that he's coming at this from the wrong angle? |
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Last edited by Omnis Dei; 01-28-2012 at 03:25 AM.
Everything works out in the end, sometimes even badly.
No, you definitely shouldn't ignore me. You should probably flail pathetically on your cross while waiting to be crucified in the hopes that a sympathetic mod decides to ban me... |
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Previously PhilosopherStoned
To answer your question seriously, you have a bad habit, which I'm tired of pointing out, of misconstruing any attack on your rather large ego as "flaming" or "trolling". This is compounded by the fact that you tend to view attacks on positions you take as attacks on your ego. |
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Previously PhilosopherStoned
Let's try this |
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Everything works out in the end, sometimes even badly.
Yes, of course you should. |
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Previously PhilosopherStoned
I am trying to learn from these view points but it's difficult when they aren't constructive. It's difficult to learn from a view point about my position on extra dimensions when the person criticizing my viewpoint believes I am defining dimensions as different universes rather than spatial axes, for instance. I cannot learn from someone who's not responding to my claim, but is responding to a different one. I cannot learn from someone who is trying to feed their ego by bashing someone else without responding to their ideas. I cannot learn from someone who classifies me as deluded when I see them as equally deluded. |
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Everything works out in the end, sometimes even badly.
You cannot learn when your ego is too big to be wrong |
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Previously PhilosopherStoned
But what makes you think my ego is too big to be wrong simply because I ask you to try harder to understand my position before responding presumptuously? I cannot learn from something unrelated to my claims. |
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Everything works out in the end, sometimes even badly.
Wow, actually Omnis Dei, seeing as I have only recently joined this forum I feel the same way you used to. I was grateful of the intelligent people who actually want to help others. PhilosopherStoned, I would like to kindly ask you to treat this environment as one of peace and harmony. I'm also hoping that the environment of this forum doesn't travel 'downhill' because I just want to be able to talk to intelligent and interesting people who are actually attempting to help others, not make fools of themselves by putting others down. |
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I think the main problem, at least with this thread, is that people are interpretting the same thing differently. Philosopher, the "peace" he is talking about is the peace of being detached from the world, the peace of being ignorant. "Ignorance is bliss." He's asking if he should accept this knowing that he is being ignorant, yet being a happier person because of it. |
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I have trouble because it doesn't appear enough to people that I clarify myself better and find common ground. If I need to clarify myself better, suddenly that means I have to admit to being wrong. I don't believe in right and wrong. I believe in growth and stagnation. You cannot prove me wrong, you can only help me grow. |
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Everything works out in the end, sometimes even badly.
Sounds like your ego being hurt. |
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I have never known OD to ask me for clarification. I like explaining math. OD simply asserts that he knows. He may know now but he had no idea when he started the dimensions thread. |
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Previously PhilosopherStoned
I for one have enjoyed our discussions over the last week or so becuase we have a mutual respect for each other even at times when we have had differences of opinion. I am a lot more tolerant here than I was a year ago. I can still be highly susceptible to resentment because the other day I nearly replied to another member's post, 'Fuck off you twat' but I didn't because I know that pride is my enemy and tolerance is my friend. Regular meditation has really helped me to become more tolerant towards other people and to dampen my pride. |
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Then you should pay more attention. |
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Last edited by Omnis Dei; 01-29-2012 at 02:50 AM.
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I was naive, but I certainly wasn't predatory. I was taken advantage of, manipulated by people that are supposed to stand for justice. You could say it is my fault for not seeing the wolf through the sheep's clothing. It is my fault for assuming this world had standards. |
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Everything works out in the end, sometimes even badly.
"Being disrespectful of ideas and differing points of view cannot exactly be banned, now can it?" |
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