I think it also is a matter of distinguishing what feels good or out of goodwill compared to something that's actually beneficial and practical for a person's well-being. Usually if a person wants to find something from the bottom of their heart, it would seem reasonable that they have to learn how to dissociate the scattered brain thoughts through various forms of meditation (self-hypnosis, etc.).
If a person has a sense of love of themselves (but not to the point where it's extreme narcissism and completely egocentric; because again, the endeavor of doing that would refute that person's purpose of attracting another person or making their attraction prevalent to those who may be compatible with them).
There's also the risk of a person feeling as if they're getting a rational explanation of what they want "deep down in their hearts," when in fact it could be an ego-saturated model to imply their learning and practicing aspects of LOA. It's more of psychologically understanding how one thinks, how their thoughts form, what makes them tick and what makes them happy, etc. It involves understanding how one reacts to a certain situation, most likely to sustain a reminder that a certain habit would be a threat to their own well-being.
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You have to be able to prioritize and figure out what you really, actually want from the bottom of your heart, and what you're willing to give up to get it.
Even if a person would be able to find what's deep inside of their hearts, practically, it would just be a very diluted concept like "happiness" or "spreading love." It's not much of an impact to that person if they were to find that really is what their hearts desire simply because they're accustomed to the humanistic relation to it.
What I'm trying to get at is, usually, the endeavor of finding the "strongest desire of them all" will in fact be a conduit for other desires (meaning it's generalized ultimately). Which means that when a person realizes that their ideologies, preferences, desires, and such are likely to keep growing and branching to other desires, when they have the core (the same conduit) acknowledged, they will feel less worried about what they have to do right or do wrong. Because even if you prioritize what you really want, I doubt people would be able to sustain that mentality for very long, especially if they are prone to being attracted to more things they're being aware of; things that they never thought would exist or could be formatted into their schemata pertaining to understanding LOA and such.
If a person is really trying to practice LOA, it wouldn't be so much of a sacrifice, but more of a motivation or an inspiration to acknowledge that we are likely to change our preferences, etc., and that wanting someone/something/etc. shouldn't make ourselves feel bad.
Which brings me back to your "have your cake and eat it too" type of deal." That same notion implies of course that you can't have it both ways, that it's a trade off. The most plausible association for this is obviously materialism, or having or imposing possessions towards making concepts like LOA/people/etc. like objects. I think that mentality would make one more selfish in seeking closure with someone they think can be there until their time comes.
I wouldn't say that it's just pure tradeoff, because that sets predispositions to it. It's also plausible in a way that I'll mention below,
A person can still mix in both to some extent when they let go of the guilt that they have to "stop having the desire to want more and more." They see that just blocking off parts of it that make it incompatible with the other isn't going to be as bad as taking risks with complete tradeoffs.
They start to realize that it's a never-ending goal (wanting more), that to keep going towards learning LOA or things related to it like happiness, etc. is understanding your potential in constantly finding new ways to know yourself and learning how you reaction to certain things.
If the presumption that a person is set on a tradeoff, it's not really LOA in terms of soulmate, etc., it sort of sets up a resistance or even an authoritative matter, will can lead to being bitter and self-loathing because a person feels they have to do this or they won't "experience" or empathize aspects of LOA.
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I think if a person just focuses on learning themselves, not having the desire to desperately seek closure in finding anyone that looks compatible to them, they will realize the actual discovery/finding of that soulmate is to simply sublimate one's love for themselves, and seeing how sharing it with others is more rewarding; they see it as a learning tool in understanding themselves and others around them; they see that part of (not as a whole) of finding yourself in making yourself attractive to others is how you attempt to empathize and try to imagine possible reactions to people acknowledging your presence.
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