Hello All, Newbie here!

So I first discovered LD browsing through an off-topic forum on a website, and what the user said intrigued me. He mentioned that he was having a nightmare, but halfway through he realized it was just a dream and "sunk" into himself and everything became realistic.

That very day I discovered Stephen LaBerge and researched everything I could about him, short of checking out his books at my local library. I have learned about WILDs and DILDs and been going at DILDs on/off for the past 3months, and WILDs just recently (this week to be exact). I have had a total of 3 lucid dreams, all DILDs.

What disappoints me is that all my DILDs seem accidental. All scenarios go as follows:

Dream 1: I went home late from work, and went directly to bed. In my dream my shirt was blue and I thought to myself "I went to bed with a red shirt. I must be lucid dreaming" And at that point I DID feel myself sink into my mind, it's a very enlightening and exciting experience. I then recalled that I should not be too excited and calmed myself down. My first LD lasted 10 minutes and all I did was test out all RC's in the dream. e.g I flipped a switch to find the room I was in change, tried looking at myself in a mirror only to find nobody there, and rubbed my hands and spun in a circle to stabilize the dream when I could feel the dream "slipping" away. I woke up eventually too excited to go back to bed. Sadly, all I did in the dream was enjoy it and go around telling people that I was LD.

Dream2: I was in a bar, but I looked to my right and saw a locker room full of girls from my school. It was a half-bar half locker room thing and I was like... what? I must be dreaming. At that point, I became lucid and the dream lasted a mere minute because I tried having astral sex and woke up 15 seconds in. (shame on me :shadewink:)

Dream3: I was running through an obstacle course, a rather deadly one. I set off an alarm in which robot dogs started attacking me so I had to kill them with my superpower. Which resembled spidermans web blast, but instead of webs it shot lasers. And in order to recharge the laser I had to put two fingers on the wrist of my arm. During one of the recharging moments the dog bit my hand and a red ball came out. I thought "What the hell? You can't bleed red balls. I must be dreaming again" And I became lucid. This is my most disappointing LD for I tried to control it, but nothing was working. I turned corners imagining that I would be on the moon, and I tried jumping to fly, but nothing was working. And as the dream was slipping away, I even rubbed my hands and spun which only saved me for mere seconds before I completely woke up in slight disappointment.

It seems I have been getting lucky, for I have never RC'd in a dream and became lucid. I have dreamed of RC, but everytime I do a RC in a dream, it doesn't register as a dream and I wake up frustrated hours later. Are there any tips the experts out there can give me? I would very much appreciate it, I have read most of the tutorials on the site, and will be reading the rest of them shortly. I appreciate any help I can get, and will stay an active user.

P.S I think I have insomnia (not really, it's just hard for me to sleep.) It takes me like 45 minutes to sleep on average.

TL;DR I'm new. I've had 3 LD which I think are all accidental. All 3 were DILDs and I want to WILD atleast once. Also have trouble sleeping. Would appreciate tips.

Welcome to DreamViews, LucidTeammate!

I'm not exactly an expert, but I'll give you some advice I've picked up along the way:

The most important thing is keeping a dream journal. Do you write down your dreams every morning? That's crucial to the whole thing.

If you keep up with the RCs, you'll start getting more eventually. Just keep it up! It seems like you're doing everything right. No one can become a master at lucid dreaming in one night; it takes lots of practice. Just keep working at it and you'll gradually start to get more.

Congrats on the 10 minute dream! It's pretty awesome that you were able to stabilize it for that long, so you're definitely doign something right! :) Keep up the good work!

With your second dream, it's easy to see why you woke up so quickly. ;) Most people do wake up immediately when trying dream sex, so maybe you should try out some other stuff in dreams first. There's so much to do in dreams that you can't do in real life!

With control, try opening a door/portal and imaging the place you want to go on the other side. If you're having trouble with powers, ask DCs to help you out. Eventually you'll find a Dream Guide who will help you out in your dreams and teach you the stuff you want to do.

Taking 45 minutes to sleep isn't bad - I have that too. I'd say that's about normal and nothing to worry about.

If you have any more questions, feel free to ask. Good luck getting more lucid dreams!

Interesting dreams, each one shares a common problem. You are getting way to far ahead of yourself, you need to slow down and stay calm. Don't rush into things, take it as it goes and do your best to control the situation. There are a lot of great guides here that can help you control your dreams. As GMoney said, keep a dream journal and record everything that occurs within your dreams. Dream journals help remarkably. If you need help with anything feel free to send me a private message, I'm more than willing to help. Good luck!

Thank you all for the quick replies! I will keep you all posted. I have tried replying 3 times now, each time my thanks get shorter because the site keeps telling me that I am posting links in my reply. *sigh* Thanks again, I'll keep this one short in hope that I don't include links by any chance.

RE: LD's feeling accidental: Don't worry about it. It might always seem that way. Dreams have a logic of their own that rarely matches our waking logic. It doesn't matter though. Consistent effort will give you consistent lucid dreams, and that's all that matters.