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Even after trying all kinds of techniques and religiously writing down all dream-related progress, I still can't even remember my dreams, much less get lucid in them. I'm always either too tired or not tired enough, I get too excited, or the fear of SP gets the better of me. I'm not sure if all the disappointment is worth it.
Maybe my mind just isn't built for this kind of thing. Blargh.
/endwhining
calm down. take a break. Lose some stress. Come back to it.
Lucid dreaming takes time, and it takes patience. The second it starts becoming a chore instead of an adventure, you're making it too hard for yourself.
Eventually come back to it. wake up, don't move, just think about your dreams, write them down. Read them, enjoy them. Think about em throughout the day. You'll start to become familiar with your dreams if you approach the idea in an optimistic and positive manner. You don't have to remember everything. Just minor details. hopefully that helps.
Also, how long have you been trying? Most people take a few months to be adept at lucid dreaming, some a few days, some eight years! (we have such a member) I was off and on about lucid dreaming. Just started back into it again a few weeks ago and improving dream recall right now.
You'd be surprised how easy it is to talk yourself into failure in the world of Lucid Dreams, Have some Faith.
I would honestly suggest to chill for a couple of days, When I have a dryspell I back off LD'ing for 2 days and the dreams come flowing back.
If that does'nt suit, you should really make it an active intent to be more optimistic your mind will listen to your thoughts, so make them positive.
Anyone can Lucid Dream and you are anyone... the disapointment is totally worth it, we all get down about LD sometimes when we are having no luck, but thats when you gotta dig deep and you WILL be rewarded
REALITY CHECK!!!!
Calm down, relax, meditate, and chill. I have the same fear you do and its taking me awhile to get lucid dreams. Sometimes I fear of having them sometimes I don't. You just need to relax and think positive thoughts. Then you will eventually have a lucid dream. Check out the tutorials on this site and ask around for help from other members. I'm thinking about waiting awhile until I get back into lucid dreaming. Good luck with your lucids!
2 things that really work for me is just getting into the right timing mentally, physically and spiritually - getting in that frame of mind while meditating. And I meditate to my favorite music that I like... which is kind of obscure old Spanish guitar music.
Start making a list of things/techniques that you really connect with and allow them to breathe and relax. Don't focus on yourself but rather focus on those things.
I can't say I know how you feel, I had my first LD 4 days after I started trying, I've been an LD'er for a little more than 2 months, ive had about 12 LD's, I think this is what helped, for those 4 days, every spare minute I had was spent researching EVERYTHING I could find about lucid dreaming, I forced my brain into acknowledging lucid dreams. The thing was, I didn't just force myself to keep looking up thing after thing, I HAD TO, I would be depressed until I had the chance to use the net for learning new thing about LD's, and if that still doesn't work, force yourself to take a break, within a week you will have had a lucid dream, this is because your brain directs more energy to things you concentrate on, this can be good for those 3rd eye techniques (the 3rd eye is that bump over your nose between your eyes, it has some sort of chemical that has something to do with dreams), where energy directed to the 3rd eye makes it more useful, but if you keep concentrating on dreaming, well, being relaxed is a key thing to helping you achieve your goal, I had a very vivid LD 4 days after I started my break because I had to concentrate on exams (I was also loosing motivation, but that's besides the point ). So what I'm trying to say is, be patient, level your concentrtion, and you will succeed :)
If I were you, I'd start it all by trying to improve my recall. Do whatever you can to improve it, but remember, stress and pressure has a negative effect. Set alarms that goes off when you're in REM or just after it, do some REM rebounds, lie still in bed with your eyes closed and wait each and every morning to try to remember something. Any kind of fragment is good enough. Try to put those fragments in scenarios if you don't get more than that. REM rebounds are great for dreams, also sleeping in as much as you can. Even taking vitamin supplements can make you start dreaming.
Everyone can improve recall with enough dedication. After that you should start focusing on getting lucid. It's hard I know, but the reward is worth it.
Keep on dreaming and good luck!
Thank you all for your advice. I realize that I've been beating myself up for not having success and trying too hard to do something that requires relaxation and a calm mind. I'll keep at it. : ]