Hello Everyone~!

Yes, well, hello everyone (as it says in the title)! I'm Lehabim and I'm 16 and from the US.

Ahh, I seem at a loss for words, really.

Well, often enough I'll realise I'm dreaming and try hard as heck to wake up, heh. You see, as soon as I realise I'm dreaming I have this horrible fear that something scary or bad is going to happen. So, I'll usually shout profanities or "WAKE UP!" repeatidly.. And I'll usually wake up. *Laughs* I'm such a wimp.

Other times I'll be able to sort of control a dream. An example would be when these stupid-looking (read: terrifying at the time) monsters were chasing me and I threw them up against a wall and made them stick there. That felt good. :P

Anywho, I must float around the forums and read more topics.

Hey Lehabim, I used to have that same problem all through my childhood I would want to wake up from my lucid dreams, becouse I would get scared and things would start to "jump out" at me, I used to comit dream suicides to wake up :P

What I did was just let the seriousness of it go away, most fear in nightmares are of the unknown, and when you laugh at it in the face, it's not so bad.

Heh, yeah, I need to somehow train myself to not want to wake up right away. It has just become a reflex to me to wake up as soon as possible.

Not too long ago, I realized that I was in a dream and did my usual "WAKE UP!" routine, but it didn't work. My voice began to become hoarse, and into a whisper.. until I couldn't talk anymore. I was terribly afraid because I couldn't wake up! That proceeded to be the most terrifying dream I've ever had. And it's probably my fault, too! As I was expecting something bad to happen, bah. So, that only reinforced my fear, really. :P

I just have to learn how to become calm somehow.

Lehabim, welcome to DV. I am sure by practicing Lucid Dreaming you will be able to finialy get rid of these monsters. Nightmares really are not normal. Do you have alot fo stress in your life, or have issues you do no deal with? If so you should really try to get rid of some of that and the nightmares will too. On the other hand, nightmares are a great way to become lucid. If you ever have any questions feel free to PM me or any of the other dream guides :)

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Originally posted by Lehabim
And it's probably my fault, too! As I was expecting something bad to happen

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I'm afraid that I must agree. In dreams, it seems that whatever you expect to happen very likely will happen. You have to learn to expect good things, and be confident in your expectations.

I think that your desire to change this will do the best good. Right now you should try to form a plan for what you want to do the next time you become lucid. It will prevent you from having to waste time during the dream and also by having that plan firm in your mind, it will help remind you not to immediately yell out "Wake up!"

Rather, try freezing your surroundings by yelling "Freeze!" or "Stop!" and find a way out of that location. You can start spinning and picture yourself in a better place or you can walk through a door or around a corner. You can try summoning up a friend or an army to protect your or something like that. You can be as creative as you want! At this point, though, it will just take practice. If you keep it up you'll get it.

Let us know if there's anything else we can do.

-Ame

Thank you for the welcome and advice, everyone. I know it'll take practice and I hope to not have the instict to want to wake up right away.

And nightmares aren't really normal? Man, I have them so often. It's sad when a stupid dream can prevent you from wanting to go back to sleep. :P (Curse my vivid imagination). And getting rid of any stress I have is probably near-impossible.. Then again, I'm not sure what is causing any stress in my life. School would probably be a good answer.

Thanks again, guys. I'll make sure to contact ya when I need any help.

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Originally posted by Amethyst Star
I think that your desire to change this will do the best good. Right now you should try to form a plan for what you want to do the next time you become lucid. It will prevent you from having to waste time during the dream and also by having that plan firm in your mind, it will help remind you not to immediately yell out \"Wake up!\"

Rather, try freezing your surroundings by yelling \"Freeze!\" or \"Stop!\" and find a way out of that location. You can start spinning and picture yourself in a better place or you can walk through a door or around a corner. You can try summoning up a friend or an army to protect your or something like that. You can be as creative as you want! At this point, though, it will just take practice. If you keep it up you'll get it.

Let us know if there's anything else we can do.

-Ame

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I remember a dream I had were I was in a burning building and zombies were everywhere :shakehead2: (zombie's usualy were in my dream when I was younger) so I tried to summon a sword, but I couldn't because I didn't have good dream control, also I couldn't talk in my dreams either :P ,

I used to have these dreams that were neverending to, felt like I was there forever, oh and I used to get paralysed alot too, but it turns out that nightmares and stuff like that tend to alway have been lucid for me, so now I wish I wouldn't have wasted all that time doing nothing in my dream, becouse all I would do was fight agained my mind, and that felt stupid after awhile, kind of like a linkin park song lol :P

Edit: I used to have stress to but not in those days, probly now is one of the most stressful time of my life.

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I used to have these dreams that were neverending to, felt like I was there forever, oh and I used to get paralysed alot too

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Ah, yes, my most terrifying one seemed like it lasted for 2 days. Yick.

And I get sleep paralysis whenever I am on my back, so now I must fall asleep on my stomach or side. It sucks when you end up waking up on your back, though.. Especially since I experiance auditory and visual hallucinations when I get it. And no one else in my family (that I know of) has sleep paralysis. Meh.

Well, Leabim, have you been writing these down at all? I've recently been wondering just what nightmares may be connected to, besides scary waking experiences, especially with younger people. Besides the monsters, has there seemed to be a common attribute between these dreams?

I rarely have what I would deem "nightmares." Rather, on occasion I might have what I've termed an "anxiety dream" where I'm feeling an emotion that causes, well, anxiety (fear, suspicion, etc.) There doesn't seem to be anything that triggers these and they're not terrifying to me. It ususally reaches some kind of resolution before it ends or even if it doesn't, the emotions usually go away when I wake up.

What kind of stress are you facing right now? You mentioned school, but do you work or are you involved with any groups?

-Ame

No, I haven't been writing them down, but I think I'm fairly good at remembering dreams. It has never been a problem for me. And I can't really see anything connected with the dreams.. Not all of them have monsters. Hell, most of them don't have monsters of any sort.

I have those types of dreams, too, I think. I just call them 'bad dreams', heh. I tend to remember at least a dream a night, so I suppose that will be good for dream recall and hitting the lucid scene.

Heh, I'm not really sure what kind of stress I'm facing. I don't have a job, and I'm not apart of any sort of team or group. Can you be stressed for no reason? :P I'm just a very emotional person and tend to be easily affected by things. *Shrugs*

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Can you be stressed for no reason? :P I'm just a very emotional person and tend to be easily affected by things. *Shrugs*

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Ya me too, always been sensitive, but I've tried to find out where all the stress came from (being the logical person that I am) I thought it was becouse I wanted "too much" I wanted to stand on top of the world (without the drugs :P )

Basicly it's what buddha said "all stress comes from desire" or somthin like that, only problem is I didn't want to become a monk who wastes his life useing a giant shield to cover my eyes from roast chicken, and hot girls :D .

So I started using lucid dreams and stuff like that too help me, I wonder if you can actualy get to master Lding completely :?

Well, what things are important to you? What things do you strive to achieve and how much time do you put towards dwelling on them? Do you think there's something in your life that's not being taken care of or addressed, be it emotionally, spiritually, physically, intellectually?

Also, what's your routine before you go to bed? Do you find yourself tense or ever afraid to go to sleep because of these nightmares? How often do you wake up feeling stressed? Have you tried any relaxation techniques before you go to bed?

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Woah, there wasn't a single indicative sentence in there!

-Amé

Well, I'm not striving for anything, really. I don't have any real goals, either. I don't care enough about school to put forth actual effort. I just put enough effort to pass in all of my classes and get a B in 'em. And I have no idea about the second question, there isn't anything that is really coming to mind.

My routine? Stay up till 10pm and go to bed.. Toss around a little bit to find a good position. I'm usually on my computer around then, heh. Well, after a nightmare, I won't want to go back to sleep, no. I usually don't wake up stressed, I'm a real light sleeper (could be why it is easy for me to remember at least a dream a night). And I've never done any relaxing techniques while going to bed, or otherwise. Oh, one time I did some breathing exercises with some counselor and that ended up making me more nervous than before.