How can I tell what my husband is dreaming about?
I apologize if this has been discussed before in a previous thread (and if anyone would be kind enough to point me in the direction of related threads, I'd appreciate it more than you know.)
I am SO curious as to what my husband is dreaming about. I don't think he is cheating on me at all, but I definetly know he is dreaming of someone other than me. He talks in his sleep sometimes, and between the things I can make out that he has said, and his sleep-actions, I know they are of a sexual nature.
The rational side of me is (trying hard not to be so damn) jealous. I myself have had dreams of this nature as well, so I know better than to be a hypocrite, but...
does anyone know how I can get more info out of him?
Last night, he was sleep talking, so I tried staying up to see if he would continue.
I tried touching his arm gently enough not to wake him, and I noticed it did (appear to) have some effect.
I have asked him about this (in a non-confrontational manner), and he has denied remembering any such dreams.
If he is being dishonest, I am sure it's only to save my feelings, as I mentioned I do not think he is beng unfaithful, but it's almost like I need to know if it's like Jessica Alba or someone we know.
thank you in advance for any advice or suggestions
Re: How can I tell what my husband is dreaming about?
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Originally posted by thecleric
I have asked him about this (in a non-confrontational manner), and he has denied remembering any such dreams. *If he is being dishonest, I am sure it's only to save my feelings, as I mentioned I do not think he is beng unfaithful, but it's almost like I need to know if it's like Jessica Alba or someone we know.
Ummm... look, I hate to have to be the one to point out the obvious, but, here's my take:
He's telling the absolute TRUTH. He DOESN'T remember whatever sex dreams he has. It's entirely possible, if not very, VERY likely, that your husband has bad dream recall and just plain doesn't remember whatever dreams he's having, be they about you, somebody else, Jessica Alba, or whoever.
Prior to coming to DV, I went months without remembering a single dream. My recall was awful. Your husband might be the same. Dreams from one REM cycle, to the best of my knowledge, get wiped when the next REM cycle comes around. So, my guess is, whatever dreams your husband is having are just getting erased from his memory throughoiut the night, and when the morning comes, he doesn't remember them. Noit cos he's trying to repress them or anything, but simply because they ain't there.
So, I reckon he's telling you the truth. He may be having these dreams, but he doesn't remember them.
If you really, ABSOLUTELY must find out what his dreams are about, or who, next time you hear him talking in his sleep, wake him up. Tap him on the colllarbone. That's a good way to wake somebody up. THEN ask him. You might piss him off because you woke him in the middle of the night, though. :rolllaugh:
Hope that's of some help.