Strange dream...

Hi, I am new to this forum. I registered for a reason, i've had a dream recently that i found disturbing. Let me just start by throwing down some background information. I've been having a difficult year, hasn't been the best of times but my dreams are relatively ok. I've been hurt alot in terms of relationships and all that. I think this dream reflects those emotions. I'm just looking for alittle confirmation, considering i couldn't find any info on such dream symbols. My dream begins in my home (of which i have lived my entire life in) and I am preparing for a shower. As i am showering, i hear banging on my front door. Someone has burst inside, they are looking for me. I peek outside the door to find it is an x boyfriend (no suprise there), he forces his way into my bathroom. I am feeling shocked, and question his presence in my bathroom. He grabs me and claims he wants a relationship, I have a feeling that something is suspect. But i follow along, we have a moment of "cuddling". Then he says "ok, this is going to be great, i can't wait to bring my wife into the picture." I felt insulted and i guess invalidated (only because i'm not sure if i'm using the right word, hehe). I said that he was disrespecting his wife and family. I decline the offer politely (Get the F*** out of my bathroom!) and the sick dream ends... strange isn't it? I kinda woke up on the wrong side of the bad that morning. Anyway, I believe this dream screams of low self esteem issues, does anyone else feel the same? or can anyone provide any further insight? For a while i thought there was a polygamist theme but upon reviewing the dream, i have since scrapped that notion. I apologise in advance if i posted this in the wrong place, or broke any kind of forum rules or etiquette (and any grammatical slips ups), I'm bad for that. Thank you.

Im not sure if im right because..well im also new to this site. But you may want to post this in the Dream Journal, or the Dream Sign Forums. not sure :| . anyway good luck finding a awnser for your dream because i have no clue :P.


Best of luck,
Volcon

I disagree with you about the low self esteem. In fact, I think it's more of an affirmation that you've become a stronger person as a result of these bad relationships you've had.

It seems that he entered your "house" when you were at your most vulnerable. I mean, about to get in the shower is about as vulnerable as you can get other than sitting on the toilet. So he finds you at your most vulnerable moment, and because of that it seems likely that you are willing to accept him there and hold him. However when he mentions his wife...you are quick to throw him out. Oh and I don't think the "wife" really represents a wife, but rather...infidelity...or a symbol that causes you to realize this person is a creep.

To me...it almost represents a transformation for you. From a vulnerable person, likely to be hurt...into a strong independent woman.

Just my take. ;)

I agree with much of what Aquanina said - it does seem like you're able to access some inner strength in your dream in kicking your ex out of the bathroom.

For me though, it was really interesting that you told your ex that he was disrespecting _his wife and family_ and not _you_ - especially when you were feeling so insulted and angry. Are you someone who has trouble feeling justified in calling out another person, even when they have blatantly disrespected you? Do you feel more comfortable framing an issue so that it's not about you and your feelings, but rather about other people (the wife and kids) or some principle or ideal (marriage or fidelity)?

Again, I can definitely see Aquanina's POV about empowerment - and if that's the interpretation that resonates with you, it's a good one to run with. But, given your own feelings of discomfort and concerns with self esteem issues in the dream - maybe this is a representation of how you deal with conflicts with others in a more general sense.

Thank you all for your responses, they have provided new perspective. You both brought up very valid points and I do agree that when it comes conflict resolution I could stand to be more assertive. Though, I did tell him to f*** off, that counts for something right?

Volcon, Aquanina, ReaLIllusion thank you very much!