Is it a gift?

Hello all,

I'm Lennard and just found out about this site, since I suddently thought I would like to control my dreams (Well, I can control them, but not when I want too... Let me explain later on).

I'm quite good in remembering multiple dreams a night (sometimes I forget a few, and sometimes I just don't dream - really -).

Once I realize I'm dreaming, I can do everything till someone wakes me up, think of:
- Flying
- Acting like Spiderman
- Taking multiple bullets in the chest
- Be eaten by monsters without dieing
- Having sex (with everything on it...)

I never actually tried spawning things, or recreating a scene, since I only get a 'get-in-control-dream' 4 or 5 times a month (and at such a moment, you just like to continue your dream without doing anything weird).

I know my cues, like being naked at school, seeing people I haven't seen in millions of years, being somewhere I've never been.

The only problem is, like I sad, that I only realize I'm dreaming 4 or 5 times month (and at the moment I do, I can do everything).

Is there actually a good way to realize your dreaming, mostly that thought just comes sudden (after seeing a cue), but like last night, I had another dream, and even though you can remember the cues that were in, I didn't became Lucid....

Since it looks like I'm quite good in retaining control, retaining in sleep etc... I'm not good in actually starting realizing I'm dreaming in the middle of a dream.

So my question after this long (but perhaps nice) story, how can I train myself to realize I'm dreaming quicker? or What do I have to do to start thinking on my own in dreams?

Best Regards,
Lennard Fonteijn

Well let me be the first to congratulate you on finding out that much by yourself, most people dont, well i didnt anyway.
But the only way you are going to train yourself is practice, try telling yourself before you sleep
"I am going to have a Lucid Dream, I am going to
know it and control it"
Keep telling yourself this and hopefully after a few times you do this it like makes an imprint in your unconcoius mind and when you go into your lovly dream land you can have an adventure.

It might also help if you havnt seen it, but have a watch of the movie "Waking Life" its a kinda weird animation but for me it was worth the watch, but hopefully this should help there are many ways you can train yourself, but have a read of DreamViews main site, they have plenty of ways that will help you if you are just starting out.

Start doing reality checks. Reality checks are certain actions or signs that behave one way while you're awake, and an entirely different way when you're asleep. If you get in the habit of asking yourself if you're dreaming many times a day, and then doing a reality check to find out for sure, the habit will carry into your dreams, and the number of lucid dreams you have will increase drastically. Read this guide to see a list of the major reality checks, I reccomend reality checks one and eleven on the page I linked to, since they're the ones that most people find to be the most reliable.