problem with lucid dreams

im pretty new to all of this, i have done it quite a few times but it was just coincedence that i realized i was dreaming.

last night i had a lucid dream and obviously i could do whatever i wanted but i have this one problem. Whenever i want to see my boyfriend in my dream it doesnt work, and the problem is only ever with him.

if i do end up seeing him, after a minute i realize it isnt even him, but someone that looks like him, or if it is him, he turns into an object or animal in seconds and i dont know why... its only with him and it gets me so frustrated..:confused:

Hey adelina :welcome:

Well its strange that he won't appear but i have some advice that may work. Summon him and believe that i truly will be him, nobody else, just him. If he does appear but it isn't him try this, try focusing on his characteristics, look at his eyes and work your way down and wih everything into existence, if you focus on the tiny details as you wish them into existence then you will have your boyfriend right in front of you and it should help increase the dream realism also.

Also don't get frustrated because that will not help, believe me, just stay calm and remember that it is possible for you to see him in a lucid dream, you just gotta keep a positive attitude and know that your capable of it. Best of luck to you :)

Yeah it's all in your head really. The reason he changes, is because it may have happened once on accident, and then every time after that you sort of expected it to happen subconsciously so it did. Maybe try summoning your dream guide and asking them why your boyfriend keeps changing, as in my opinion your dreamguide is a direct link to your subconscious (if you so choose). Goodluck! :D

Yeah, it really is all in your head, sometimes, when you don't really focus or sort of, even a bit, expect things to change, they will. It's all about confidence.

But, as to stop making him change, maybe you should summon him [by whatever means you're comfortable with] and just be confident that he won't change. If you need some reassurance, search for something that will stabilize him, I don't know, think that you'll find a special remote control that'll keep him just the way he should be or something.

Everything takes a bit of confidence and dream control [which are really the one and the same] but I'm sure he'll stop changing soon enough if you keep a solid, sure attitude that he won't change and you know it.

PS- Welcome to Dreamviews :dancingcow: :p

ahhh
thank you
i will try that then

:welcome: to the forums!
I agree with everyone else, it's all in your head. If you can fully convince yourself there won't be a problem, there won't be.