Failure dream

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10-04-2009, 08:19 PM
sammidearest

Failure dream

Hi, so I'm Sam. I'm new here, but I figured I try this out.

So the other night I had a dream that I was dating my best friend (that's a guy). My best friend has an ex-girlfriend that just recently broke up with him.

I've never liked her and I've always been trying to get them to break up for the four years that they were together. I will admit that I was jealous. But not because I liked him. Just because he was always with her and she never let him hang out with me because she also hated me. Her and I had gotten in a fight last year and ever since then her and I never got along.

On Monday she broke up with him (this time for good), and I had the dream while I was at my boyfriend's house on Friday. In the dream I was sitting with my best friend, between his legs, just relaxing, and his ex was there. She was obviously jealous, but was trying to hide it.

When they were together I had been in that situation many times. It only made me hate her even more. The relationship that I have with him is very close. We can cuddle and talk about anything and he's given me a few massages in which my shirt was off. But we've decided that if we were ever in a relationship then our friendship wouldn't be as strong.

His ex still talks to him because they used to fight all the time and break up a lot but they would always get back together, but this time he isn't taking her back. She's off at college in Maine and he lives in New Hampshire. I'm going to college in Boston. Him and I talk all the time about everything. I'm going home to see him next weekend.

So yeah, I'm not really sure what to do now.
10-04-2009, 08:52 PM
Maria92

Wow...um...I would say to give it a shot with this guy, and if it doesn't work out, just remember that there are millions of fish in the sea. You'll find someone, eventually. I'm not so sure I support the notion of trying to break two people up on purpose...

Not quite sure what this has to do with lucid dreaming, but good luck!
10-05-2009, 12:10 AM
gameover

It seems obvious that you in fact do like this guy but you've restrained yourself. Life's too short. I'd say just go for it and expect to have your heart broken. It'll torture you either way.
10-05-2009, 03:44 AM
sammidearest

Oh, I didn't realize this was in the lucid dreaming section.

But like, I don't want to screw things up because he is my best friend and I'm afraid that a relationship might get in the way of the friendship.
10-05-2009, 03:48 AM
gameover

Or the friendship will get in the way of the relationship. If there's sexual tension now then it will only grow. I've been there myself and it will drive you insane if you don't try to act on it. Of course it will change your relationship and you can never go back. Part of life. Play with love you will get hurt. No way to avoid it. So I recommend diving right in.
10-05-2009, 04:14 AM
sammidearest

There isn't really any sexual tension. Like, he'll give me back massages and I'll be half naked. It doesn't bother either of us.
10-05-2009, 04:17 AM
Maria92

Life is short-if you don't act now, you may regret it for the rest of your life. You'll always wonder what could've been. If you choose to act on it and the relationship goes sour, at least you'll be able to look back and say, "Hey, I gave it a shot, right?" I say jump on it. Believe me, if he is like 75% of guys out there, he'll be thrilled.

A half-naked massage? He totally digs and/or wants you. Don't let this fish get away, especially if he is the decent sort of fellow you make him out to be. :D

Good luck!
10-05-2009, 04:20 AM
gameover

I'm sorry, I find it hard to believe that. At least one of you has got to be feeling it. Im very skeptical of male-female plutonic relationships. Someone's always feeling something more. There's no chance a part of you wants more? I might be way off base here but I doubt it. Of course if you feel nothing like that with him then....what's the problem?
10-05-2009, 05:31 AM
sammidearest

Well like, I don't know if I like him or not. He's an awesome friend and because of that, I'm kind of considering talking to him about it. Because him and I are so close so I wouldn't really have to worry about what was going on inside his head. But the main problem, I guess, would be that he just got out of a four year relationship and I don't want to push anything
10-05-2009, 05:38 AM
Baron Samedi

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Originally Posted by sammidearest

There isn't really any sexual tension. Like, he'll give me back massages and I'll be half naked. It doesn't bother either of us.

Uh... anyone else see the contradiction here? :lol: Liar liar, pants on fire! What was the dream?

Just a note: I would be extremely jealous if my girlfriend was hanging out between the legs of another guy, and giving each other sexy massages... because that means you like each other.

Well, at least now you can admit your true feelings! That's why you had that dream, silly.:)
10-05-2009, 05:41 AM
sammidearest

The dream, WakingNomad, was that I was dating him and cuddling up with him while she was there. It's basically the same situation that I've been in many times, cept I was her and she was me.

but what i was trying to say with the no sexual tension and me being half naked is that we're so comfortable with each other that I can be half naked and it doesn't get him aroused at all.