Thread: How soon should you ask a girl to hang out?

Go for it, man! Ask if she'd like to go to a movie or maybe mini golf

But is that like a date? I don't want to ask her out on a date because I only seen her once. So how do I do it so she doesn't get creeped out. I mean she seemed interested but it might just be an illusion. And there's still the probability that she has a boyfriend. Damn can any one sooth my troubled soul lol.

Maybe you should find out first whether she has a boyfriend or not.
If she is not, then go for it

FFFFUUUUKKKK!!! Why is it so technical when it comes to girls???!!!

Just tentatively assume that she doesn't have a boyfriend. If she does, she'll let you know, and it really won't be a big deal.

send a friend with a note, be sure to draw lots of hearts on it write her a poem, she will be unable to resist

Spoiler for spoiler:

I'm kidding

For real though you could try to find out if you have friends in common and organise it that you go to the movies as a group or something

The thing is that I don't know even this girl before, I don't know anything about her at all. I'd love to wait and slowly become her friend but I don't have that kind of luxury since I might or might not have another chance to see her, so I gotta snatch my opportunity. But yeah I'd probably follow Dub's advice and just ask her next time. Maybe I'll shoot Jeff a message since he's a pro on this sort of stuffs.

Hand her a nice piece of decorator rope.


I never have. Because I believe that a woman has more to offer, I have always waited until they ask me. I then show them the work of my mind, hoping to share not only a physical future, but one of mind as well.

Obviously my technique sucks, as I have been through 4 marriages and been through a hell I would wish on no one. However, I am not ordinary in any sense of the word, and will always use that method. Let her choose, it is her right.

lol what?

sorry, I read should for soon,

soon, is a relative word.

I think differently, for example, I could never imagine "hanging out" I know what I want, I do things, constantly, all related to an end. I ask her to join in the adventure, dull as it is.

LOL WUTTT?? Sorry bro I can't understand what you're trying to say.

Don't worry about it, I also failed in Latin.

Ask her on a date next chance you get. I ask women on dates when I first meet them sometimes.

Did you get rejected?

I would maybe try to know her a little better next time you see her. Try to have a decent conversation for a few minutes. When you see the conversation ending (her saying she needs to go somewhere or w/e excuse), casually ask, "Would you like to do lunch sometime?" If she wants to, then give her your number ( I'd feel that her calling you would appear better than you calling her, if that makes sense, but if she gives you her number, no problem [unwritten law is wait 3 days before calling, lol])

If she has a BF, then she may tell you when you ask. Don't get discouraged by this because you're not the only person who'll have been shot down by the phrase, "I already have a BF." It's all a part of the experiance unfortunatley

As per Philosopher, most girls don't ask guys. It's a social characteristic that the guy asks the girl to date, so I wouldn't cound on having a girl ask you out

Ok I'll make sure to wear diaper just in case I piss my pants. Lol but I'm gonna be so nervous. But now it's entirely up to fate that I'll see her again or not.

show her, stud

Hmmm. You guys are more encouraging than most people I know in real life. And I'm beginning to doubt myself. My first impression was that she might have thought I'm cute and showed interest, but after hearing from these doom and gloom friends of mine I almost wanted to give up. Negative thoughts started to go through my mind like; she has a boyfriend, she's not interested... I agree that I'm over thinking but I don't want to look like a dumbass when I asked her to hang out and she said she has a boyfriend or she politely refused.
I also don't want to appear desperate even though I might be a little bit.

Don't over-think, it's screwed me over many's a time! Just try your hand, and if she declines it's no big deal. At least you'll have an answer rather than wondering what might have happened if you'd asked.

Have confidence. If you appear meek, it doesn't appeal to girls

You don't want to put in a lot of time trying to get to know her, because that might give the impression you only see her as a friend. Ask her if she wants to go to lunch and take it from there. If things seem to be going well by the time you finish lunch, ask her right there. If you're still a little shy, maybe ask if she'd like to hit the movies sometime

I agree with JD. If you don't ask, you'll always wonder "what if?"

I think I just need to stop over thinking and wait for that time to come. But I just don't know how, my thoughts are directed toward her all the time. I only met her and I felt like I've been in love with her for centuries and this is the weirdest thing ever.

Send her a vial of your blood and tell her she's your soul mate, also tell her that you have intimate lucid dreams about her and ask if you can have a lock of her hair. Once the restraining order kicks in you will realize that you are too good for her...

seriously though just go for it dude, you have nothing to loose, your friends are probably trying to discourage you because they wish they had the courage to go for it.

Originally Posted by scrumpy

Send her a vial of your blood and tell her she's your soul mate, also tell her that you have intimate lucid dreams about her and ask if you can have a lock of her hair. Once the restraining order kicks in you will realize that you are too good for her...

Or you could cut off your ear and give it to her as a present like Van Gogh did.

Back to serious now. Go for it. Always better to be turned down than wonder what would have happened.

Originally Posted by bonthan

FFFFUUUUKKKK!!! Why is it so technical when it comes to girls???!!!

It's really not that technical. Don't worry about pointless things like whether she has a borefriend. You'll find that out when you ask her anyway. Don't delay the moment because of things like that, because all you're doing is cheating yourself. It's just an excuse to hide from the real thing that's holding you back: yourself.