Originally Posted by Mario92
Bullies are IRL trolls. The only reason they continue to pick on you is because you react exactly how they want you to. If you put on your best stoic persona, they'd get bored pretty quick once they fail to entice a reaction. There are easier targets out there. Remember, folks...do not feed the trolls.
But then again, if they pick up on the fact that you are trying to appear stoic but are internally irritated, they will continue. There is no easier target than one which offers no defense. If you can actually manage to not be bothered by what they do and say, then you have won. They will be looking for signs of irritation and they may pick up on even very small ones. Merely pretending to them won't likely work, as even small hints can betray your bluff.
An effective solution, if you can manage it, is to acknowledge their taunts for what they are. They're just mindless taunts. Probably no one will even remember tomorrow. Probably no one really cared in the first place, even if they did laugh at you. But that can be harder than it seems. Even the most inane comments can be very frustrating, either in spite of their inanity or because of it. People will tell you to ignore it, but that's not a good solution. If it were that simple, you'd not have a problem. So I suggest that you should accept their insults. Not that you should believe them, or give in to them, but rather take them and file them away with all that other stuff you heard and didn't care about. They're just insults. It's easy to allow yourself to be insulted by them. It takes some work to think about it and realize what they mean and where they come from. You see, you're making it easy for them to antagonize you if you allow even very simple, stupid things to affect you. But they don't have to.
So to summarize, I'm not saying ignore what they say and offer no defense. Your defense should be a passive one which renders their attack ineffective. Consider the source and consider the content and decide if it's really a valid comment and respond based on that. The response you will have upon recognizing a petty insult for what it is should naturally be one of apathy.
I don't reccommend violence unless they physically attack you, in which case do what you have to.
|
|
Bookmarks