But then you would also be a girl.Quote:
Originally Posted by Waterknight
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But then you would also be a girl.Quote:
Originally Posted by Waterknight
Forget the cell phone. A man speaks face to face. And what have you done with all of this advice? You are still sitting in that same chair, staring at her like a puppy. You were hoping one of us would do it for you, I suppose.
What you expected has not happened.
The more you wait, and long for it the more importance it will have. The more importance it has the harder it's going to be to perform. The harder it is the more nervous you are going to be if you EVER build up the nerve. The more nervous you are the more likely you will be to fail. So, stop putting her on a pedistal where you can never reach her, because you are only going to psych yourself out.
She's just a girl.
Girls like boys.
You are a boy.
I think he was trying to say that she is not just a girl, but a goddess. One does not approach goddess with such a lack of reverence.Quote:
Originally Posted by sloth
Why don't you tell us what she's like?
Does she have a lot of friends? She a cheerleader? Etc.
Then we'll take it from here to plan your move before someone else does.
Dude, texting helps but I find that if a guy texts me a lot instead of talking to me face to face it makes him seem like he doesn't have the balls to have a normal conversation with me. Just a thought to consider.
Just go talk to her. It doesn't have to be anything special. Just make it look like you're walking past to get something, and make a comment. Say her hair is nice or something, then ask her a question that she can answer. Have a bit of bant, and soon enough you'll be friends. Then just do what the guys said because it sure as hell works. This happens to me quite a lot when I'm single. I get a hint that someone likes me and then I get interested and start thinking of them in the same way. It doesn't have to an out of the blue invite to see a movie.
Make sure she doesn't think you're a dick. I don't know where guys got the impression that it gets girls, but it really doesn't.
I know that's what he was saying. However, she is not a goddess. She is just a girl, and if he doesn't see her as a girl he just may doom himself.Quote:
Originally Posted by Philosopher8659
Those manipulation games kind of sicken me. They all seem to require dishonesty, carefully building a trap for the girl to fall into like the guy is hunting a deer. I'd much prefer a genuine relationship built on honesty and not scheming.
Women are prizes to be won.Quote:
Originally Posted by Dianeva
duh
Well I finally connected my computer at home back to the internet so now I can get online at home.
And yes to a point that whole goddess thing is true. I put her up on this high place fully knowing myself that it is illogical. She is one of the most beautiful girls I have ever seen which is always hieghtened by the fact that she is always smiling.She is still just another girl with over a thousand others in the school. So what if in my opinion she looks better than every one of them and she seems like she is way more fun to be around then most she is still just like anyone else. In my mind I dont want to like her but there is still an attraction there that I cannot deny.
For a while I was kinda just talking to a few girls that liked me band that I kinda liked a bit but never had any plans for them. This though it is hard to talk to her because I just dont know.
I guess part of my hesitation might come from the fact that not only do I not know her but I dont know her friends either and idk why but over this one particular matter I am very self conscious when normallly I dont care about peoplse perceptions of me.
I think I made a mistake in posting this. It was just an interest before but since posting this it has almost become a priority. I have been giving to much thought to it than I should.
More advice:
It's only acceptable to talk online/texting if you also talk to her in real life
You can tell if shes interested by the way she talks, Does she keep convos going? does she ask questions to you? do you get more then a "yes" "no" "good" from her? If she doesn't talk much even after you have been persistance, move on.
Make sure word doesn't spread of you liking her, if it does, everytime you talk to her you will get distracted by your mates making comments about it, so you won't be able to keep a proper convo going
I always give subtle hints how i feel about girls and it does magic. Unfortunately the downside is that girls might put you on a pedestal on their mind and afterwards be disappointed i didn't live up to their expectations.
For instance, i might say to a girl "I like you, *PAUZE* but you gotta get rid of that attitude" . It's a lot easier to give subtle hints cus when i say hey u look pretty out of the blue i feel like an idiot and i probably look like it to . :P
only one friend knows I like her and he doesnt know her and I dont hang out with him at school.
Whenever she dyes or cuts her hair I will say something about that but it obvioudly isnt something very common. She probably knows I like her but doesnt care really.
Act a little cool, make her be interested in you? ^^
Just talk to her goddammit! :P
Seriously, if she's in your class she won't be thinking "...Omg, creepy stalker guy" which she probably won't anyway unless you start walking her everywhere and pouncing on her out of the blue (I have experience with this).
As with "how" to talk to her. Just talk about anything. Stick a bit of flirting in there and you're sorted. Maybe touch her a bit. Not like feeling her up, but just on the arm or something.
Just be nice, add some hints and that's you.
As for "manipulating mind games", I disagree since there's nothing wrong with befriending and getting to know a girl/guy before you start dating her. Plus, that's why it's called the chase.
HAHA that happened to me once with a teacher I was obsessed with.Quote:
Originally Posted by AustralianFire
Then one day she said "Why do they always laugh when I'm talking to you?"
and I said I dunno lol and then we finished our convo and she's like "I'm gonna go ask them".
:undecided::morecrying:
I think the best advice you are going to get is from the girls posting in here (Dianeva, Raspberry, etc).
But exactly how do you talk to her? If you sat next to her it would be so much easier to start off as talking, and maybe acquaintances, then find her at lunch maybe. I don't think you have to hint right away that you are interested, but maybe just start off by saying something about the teacher or how ridiculous the homework is. The fact that you sit a little further may make it more complicated, but not impossible.
Btw, FFX. Loved that game :D
I meant before that I personally dislike the 'hunting' going on, not that I think there's anything objectivelly wrong with it if both people like it, and since most girls seem to like it and expect it, it's fine. I just wouldn't involve myself with it knowingly. The friends-first method seems the only thing that could work to me. I can't imagine it working any other way. Going on a 'date' with someone I barely know would be scary.
I never really dated, I stated my goals. I wanted to get married, raise a family and do the best "we" could. I always had this hair brained idea that I could find someone by sharing ideas and goals. -- then I would drop that realizing there is no one like that. Secondly, I generally let the girl approach me because I am so off center.
So, never really dated, just got married and put words and ambitions to the test.
When you put it like that, I agree.Quote:
Originally Posted by Dianeva
My past boyfriends were all friends with me before we got together. I've never been on a date where I barely know the person... I imagine it would be awkward.
Well its kinda weird because my last girlfriend I never even really considered a friend until after we started going out. It was so much easier with the last one becausde I met her once and then the very next time I saw her I asked her out and we lasted nearly two years. It was easier with the last girlfriend because I spent the whole first night sitting up talking to her until we both just fell asleep. Then we started talking again as soon as we woke up.
This is harder I guess because there are other people around. I dont have a whole night to just sit down and talk about anything with her. I need to get over my shyness.
Dig a hole. Cover it with twigs and leaves. Wait for her to fall into it.
And then pounce
:evil:
...and that's when the chinchilla comes in.