Hey all
i came on here with the hope of getting tips from people who are very good with girls, in the sense of opening/maintaining conversations. i need to know with what mentality people make this approach.
My problem is quite unusual and i dont know whats wrong with me, attracting the hottest girls is the least of my problems, wherever i go to girls of all types, races, colors, age etc etc either come and approach me, or check me out or give me compliments, the hottest girls in the clubs turn their head to check me out, and i get compliments on my looks non stop. but the problem is i dont get any of them and i screw up all my chances because i lack the social skills and its driving me insane.
i grew up bieng very insecure of my self, with low self esteem, thought i was ugly and thought i wasnt good looking enough for girls, and i have a fear of rejection, due to bieng rejected when i was young and that problem has stayed with me. the only thing that has changed is now im very confident in my appearance, and have good self esteem and confidence.
the problems i do still have is having is the ability to put my self in the right mood/mentality when in situations with girls, and because i cant put my self in the right mentality, i get lost for words, get nervouse, uncurtainty kicks in and get shy and end the conversation quickly. Many girls proberly think im stuck up or i think im too good for them as they felt rejected by me as they made the move on me but i was too shy.
part of the problem is i think with the level of attention i get i feel like there is a great expectation on me and i get affraid to dissapoint and look like an idiot, which im sure has been the case many occasions. Girls either felt dissapointed that i didnt make a move or thought i was bieng sleezy i could never find the balance.
iv read on the internet things like put your self in a good mood, or do this or do that, just be confident and go for it, but im looking for more mental tips/skills because i believe its all about the mood/mentality you have at the time, so i want to know from the people who are very good at this how they prepare them self mentally. As in do you talk to the girl knowing you can have her, or do you talk to her as if your not interested in her and your just talking to her as if shes a friend, because i know if you talk to a girl with the mentality that you want her it usually doesnt work out. i dont mind trying and getting rejected, someone of my friends pcik up many girls and they also get rejected alot, but i just need the right approach so i have something to work with so at least im moving to the right direction, so i have the right balance where the girls isnt dissapointed that im not making a move nor does she think im bieng sleezy in the conversation etc
any advice will be greatly appriciated
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