Thread: So first day of high school wasn't so great..

Originally Posted by Weakamon

I experienced the same thing on my first day of High School. Had no friends, ate alone, sat at the corner. The sad part is, I'm already in my Senior Year and I still have no friends. Well technically, I do have friends. But I'm 100% sure that I'm just a "tier-b friend" in their perspective. It's not because I'm ugly or something like that. It's because I didn't accept the friendship they offered to me. That's why in college, I'm gonna be a whole new person.

Don't worry Bobberski, you'll have a decent amount of friends IF you ask them. It's not about your looks or your social status. Don't take the path I took, the path of silence...

P.S.
I view some of the people here in DV as my friend. I'm sure they also view me as their friend :foreveralone face:

Awww,

Thanks you guys for all the advice. Well I guess you should all be ashamed of me today because I went and sat alone at lunch and two guys came and sat with me there. One said "hey. What's up" in the way to be funny around his friend and I just did that thing where you tilt your head up for a second. You know, like saying "sup". But then I just got out my phone and didn't pay attention to them at all. They weren't even talking to each other. Also the person that said real life popular people aren't snobby.. The ones at my school (mostly the girls) kind of are. They're only friends with the cute and funny guys (a lot aren't really even funny) but you know what I'm saying. And the reason I wanna be friends with them more than the others is because we live in a rather small and not that wealthy... place. And so there are a lot of ghetto kids and just plain freaky ones. They popular ones are the only kind of people (not the popularity but their sense of normality... if that's the right way to say it)I've ever been friends with and the only ones in my grade that I would wanna befriend. Sooo...

You'r still paying a lot attention and making a big deal out of this, just do what you want straightly and confidently. I know that population system in your school can be hard but you got to overcome this whole ridiculous thing alright??

Seriously. Be friendlier, and give less fucks.

Appearing to be something invulnerable is not the purpose is being alive. Appearing to do anything for the sake of your reception to others is not the purpose in being alive.

I think my first day I just sort of hung out with a couple of my nerdy friends from middle school. And also felt really awkward in all my classes and nervous but that was pretty normal for me.

KIll everyone.

Originally Posted by Alric

In my experience popular people were always the nice people. TV likes to show the popular people as being bullies or snobby but people don't actually like snobby people in real life. In real life you are not popular because you are cool, you are popular because your outgoing and talk to a lot of people and when you talk to a lot of people you make a lot of friends. In fact the really popular people are usually the ones who are really outgoing and will talk to anyone, and contrary to tv if they think you are really shy, or you seem like a nerd or something they are actually extra nice to you.

People in highschool usually just go about doing their own thing. So often times you don't get invited to come do stuff with people, because they are busy and don't notice you are interested. However, if you ask people they almost always let you join in. It can be hard for shy people because they just don't ask, and they miss out.

This is all and good advice but you seem to be missing out on the fact that 'popular' people can be popular for various reasons. Some are genuinely nice people, but I personally have encountered several people in my life who will attempt to be nice to people to their face, but can often be rude and distasteful about others behind their backs.

If you don't care to know who your real friends are, go for popularity.

Well I made a couple friends yesterday. I have people to sit with at lunch. We all play basketball, we all like rap music (don't hate me) and they are part of a group and like the other half is in the lower classes lol. But I think I'm good. Thanks for all your help guys

My school starts monday and I saw some pics from them on fb, and they seem like bullies. I wanna drop out of highschool, but my parents wont let me. Even though I'm 18. I got bullied two years ago for an entire year, and I don't want the same thing to happen. My mum said if I go to high school for a month and you really don't like the class, you can always drop out. I'm so nervous for the first day D: ofoe,ado,zpf,zofoe,fp,azo,fp,

Originally Posted by Crashyy

My school starts monday and I saw some pics from them on fb, and they seem like bullies. I wanna drop out of highschool, but my parents wont let me. Even though I'm 18. I got bullied two years ago for an entire year, and I don't want the same thing to happen. My mum said if I go to high school for a month and you really don't like the class, you can always drop out. I'm so nervous for the first day D: ofoe,ado,zpf,zofoe,fp,azo,fp,

You really need to try to finish high school. Here in Belgium it's quite hard to find a good job, if you didn't finish high school.

Originally Posted by Crashyy

My school starts monday and I saw some pics from them on fb, and they seem like bullies. I wanna drop out of highschool, but my parents wont let me. Even though I'm 18. I got bullied two years ago for an entire year, and I don't want the same thing to happen. My mum said if I go to high school for a month and you really don't like the class, you can always drop out. I'm so nervous for the first day D: ofoe,ado,zpf,zofoe,fp,azo,fp,

Try your best man just don't drop out. If you absolutely have your school, and if there are other schools where you live, try one of them. Just finish high school. Everyone that I know that didn't finish always talks about how they wish they did.

Unless you can get HS equivalency. In which case fuck that shit.

Just had my first day of school. I think that i already made a connection with a girl over there, we only had eye contact for 2 seconds but it was magical! I had butterflies in my stomach!! It's been a few years since i got those, let alone on just eye contact. Maybe this is gonna be my lucky year!

Originally Posted by Crashyy

My school starts monday and I saw some pics from them on fb, and they seem like bullies. I wanna drop out of highschool, but my parents wont let me. Even though I'm 18. I got bullied two years ago for an entire year, and I don't want the same thing to happen. My mum said if I go to high school for a month and you really don't like the class, you can always drop out. I'm so nervous for the first day D: ofoe,ado,zpf,zofoe,fp,azo,fp,

I was always the chubby nerd, so I know what it's like to be bullied. I went through it from fourth grade 'til junior year in HS. I decided to change schools in senior year (more like change countries), and first day at school was shit. The girls seemed like spoiled brats and the guys were meh. I think I might've tried to be friends with pretty much everyone, but ended up with what people would consider the Emo Kids, even though I felt tempted to grab some scissors and cut those kids' hair. They were the nicest, so what-the-fuck-ever.

Anyway, it was a good year overall, despite the aforementioned spoiled girls who gave me hell after they found out I was dating our Biology teacher. I'm glad I never dropped out, because I would've if my mom had let me. Now I'm 17 and in my second semester of college, while they're at home painting their nails without an awesome boyfriend like mine and/or a future college degree.

I decided to drop out of high school, first day wasn't that bad. But I don't feel like going to school for 3 more years. So in a few days I will be working, making my own money and never ever have to deal with high school bullies.

Oh baby I'll be your friend come 2 me ;(

The ultimate strategy to make friends is to find people who look like they can take a joke and be a sarcastic asshole just long enough for your terrible jokes and incredibly offensive sarcasm to grow on them. Eventually they won't be able to have much fun without you. The trick is to stop being sarcastic and start being a decent, friendly person as soon as they accept you.

i remember on the first days of school, i would pretty much look forward towards the last.

I'm going to try and summarize all the things I wish someone could have told me on my first day of high school for you. Most of these things you've probably heard before, and I probably heard them too, and you'll probably just have to go through it yourself to really understand it, but here goes:

- ABANDON YOUR FUCKS. Stop giving a fuck what people think as soon as you possibly can. People think all kinds of awful things, especially at high school age, and they generally don't know SHIT about SHIT. You cannot, cannot, cannot be happy if you spend any amount of time worried about what people think of you. All that matters is what YOU think of you. I know it's cliche, but just be yourself. Do some soul searching and figure out who you want to be, and just be that. If people don't like it, they can shove it right up their judgmental asses. To quote a genius, "Be who you are and say what you feel, because those who matter don't mind, and those who mind don't matter." Once you start being yourself, you will naturally gravitate to people who will make good friends for you.

- HIGH SCHOOL DOESN'T MEAN SHIT. I cannot emphasize this point enough. There's a lot of miserable middle aged or old people who will tell you your high school years are the best of your life. These people are BATSHIT INSANE. Nothing you do in high school is ever going to truly matter later in life. Once you're in college, you'll laugh at how seriously you took high school, and once you're out of college you'll laugh at how seriously you took college. Don't stress too much about being popular or liked or getting lots of girls or WHATEVER. Generally speaking, you're SUPPOSED to be awkward and struggle socially in high school. The people who aren't are just fake as hell. To wit, all the so-called 'popular' kids at my high school ended up one of the following by 20 years of age: pregnant, in halfway houses or rehab centers, dead from overdoses, in the military, a single parent, trapped in a dead end full time shit job they'll NEVER ESCAPE, or just generally miserable as a result of losing their precious fame.

Seriously, just try to impress upon yourself how meaningless it all is and stop caring so much about what people think of you. I was not capable of this at the time, but if I had been I could have simply enjoyed the freak show for what it was. Don't let it get to you, and don't let it make you hate people. High school shitheads aren't evil, they've just been fucked up by bad parenting and bad societal pressure.

Do you, punch in your time clock, get it over with, and focus on the brightness of the future.

Originally Posted by ThisWitheredMan

- ABANDON YOUR FUCKS.

A contemporary Socrates.

There's alot of negative talk about highschool, but schools ending in about two months for me and there's something I will dearly miss: the free time.

You will have sooo much free time in highschool. Use it productively. Keep your body fit. Pick up some hobbies—lucid dreaming is an obvious choice . Make a list of all the things you want to do before you die, and then circle the ones that you can do while you’re still young. Don’t get addicted to video games like many kids these days (including me) do. In class most of the time you won’t be learning anything useful. Think of things you can do in class instead just sitting and doing nothing in class. High school is the perfect time to get a head start in life—be sure to make the most of it.

As Bruce Lee says: If you love life, don’t waste time, as time is what life is made of