I have had two crazy ex girlfriends. You need to tell them that you are not stable enough to even talk to them for a few months. Blame it on you and then refuse to even talk. |
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So lately I've been doing everything in my power to remain stress free and do whatever I have to to push my life forward and stay happy, but every day my most recent ex pulls a reason to piss me off and stress me out right out of her ass I swear. Nothing I ever do is good enough, I tried being her friend, but obviously that's not an option. She'll start a fight with me for something I had no clue about and that's not even relevant to anything. She's a paradox in every way and the biggest hypocrite/compulsive liar I've ever met. I care about her too much to just let all my emotions go and verbally destroy her world so I try to ignore her, but then she'll come out of no where acting friendly so what does that leave me to do? I'm just venting because no one person has ever pissed me off as this one has. |
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I have had two crazy ex girlfriends. You need to tell them that you are not stable enough to even talk to them for a few months. Blame it on you and then refuse to even talk. |
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I cut off a toxic on again / off again situation this way, though more permanently and more from the "I'm too hung up on you to be friends" angle (not exactly the case - she was someone who used her sexuality to control her environment and I didn't see myself developing an immunity to it anytime soon, but like sivason said, I made it about me). There were some awkward meetings later on where she would probe whether I was still serious and I would give minimal polite responses, but it effectively cut off the toxic relationship, which is more than can be said for a lot of her other exes/friends. |
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If you have a sense of caring for others, you will manifest a kind of inner strength in spite of your own difficulties and problems. With this strength, your own problems will seem less significant and bothersome to you. By going beyond your own problems and taking care of others, you gain inner strength, self-confidence, courage, and a greater sense of calm.Dalai Lama
I'm the crazy ex ! Nah, but just tell her to relax, try to be honest and gentle about it. If it's really needed i'm afraid you just gonna have to cut your connections from her, it would be in her best interest aswell.. Good luck! |
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All successful people men and women are big dreamers. They imagine what their future could be, ideal in every respect, and then they work every day toward their distant vision, that goal or purpose.
It's best to have failure happen early in life. It wakes up the Phoenix bird in you so you rise from the ashes.
OP, I don't know the entirety of your situation but I'd suggest doing something like cutting off communication with her entirely. If no relationship you try to establish works, and she only makes you feel bad, just stop talking to her. |
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I am a crazy ex |
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I've never really had a crazy ex, because everything just ends explosively with me. Now have I had crazy GFs? Yes. I had this one girl who wouldn't call me at all....she'd show up at the hospital (where I worked at), my barracks, and the skate park in that order to see if I was around. I also dated this girl who wanted me to wipe the sink down with a sponge after every time I washed my damn hands. Oh....I dated another girl who washed her face with water, but never used soap. So yeah....crazy at the end, but when it ends, it ends. Everything between us turns into ruble, and if it doesn't...we're cool later on....but we have to give ourselves space. |
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Oh man, do I have a story for you. But I won't share that now, because no one cares. The moral is WHATEVER YOU DO DON'T USE WORDS TO MAKE HER SAD OR ANGRY OR WHATEVER BECAUSE WOMEN NEVER FORGET OR GET OVER ANGRY WORDS AND SHE'LL USE THEM AGAINST YOU LATER WHEN YOU'VE GOTTEN OVER WHAT YOU WERE FEELING AT THE TIME AND WANT TO MAKE UP AND NO MATTER WHAT YOU DO ANY SCRAP OF A FRIENDSHIP YOU USED TO HAVE WILL BE BURNED TO ASHES AND SHE'LL HATE YOU FOREVER AND THERE'S NOTHING YOU CAN DO ABOUT IT. Whew. Don't do it bro. I've been there, it is not a good place to be. Just use subtle actions and mannerisms to get her to understand that you aren't interested in her crap; she'll back off eventually. And then, when you're both cooled down, you can be friends again! |
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