Things I've Learned

In the last week I've learned that I should put my priorities first, instead of other people's. One thing is being empathetic, another completely different thing is over-commiting to discussions, explanations, and feedback from others. I actually noticed that in the past month I barely made any progress towards goals that I wanted to do, because I was either distracted learning non-essential things other people wanted to teach (with no relevance to my goals), or I was letting myself be dragged to an array of problems, scenarios, talks, that honestly, don't concern me. While I care for those around me, I want to get busy with myself, doing what I think I should be doing, and not wasting energy pursuing other people interests.

So I decided to take 2 weeks off work next month, which will be not used to relax, but to completely focus on studying.

Today I learned that I really need to pay more attention to my surroundings when I'm in a rush. There isn't ever a school day where it's worth hitting a kid in the face with a door handle just because I'm in a hurry to get my kid to class on time. :(

Today I learned that from yesterday, I will never record a drawing for 4 hours straight that is 4GB in size and expect it to compress properly without it distorting and going out of synch, especially when I'm converting a loss-less codec video into another format. There's nothing worse than trying to record my drawings so I can go back to them and see what I can improve on only to have it lost completely and not accessible.

I also learned that free source programs that can be flexible with other codecs can never compare to developers that have people paying for their products that can constantly update their programs so that it doesn't become a hassle to work with.

Torrents. Thank goodness for torrents.

I have learned that it's not easy to tell a parent what they need to do, even when it's in their best-interest.


I have learned that I really function better (in regards to cleaning and chores) when I am on a schedule.

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Originally Posted by melanieb

I've learned that most of my online friends are easier to find common ground with than people I know face-to-face.

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I've learned that all of my online friends are easier to find common ground with than people I know face-to-face.

Bigger :(

I've learned that most of the beginnings are hard.
I've learned that inner counts way more than how we look like, even thought that also counts.
I've learned that age is just a number. Don't expect to know something about someone by a number.
I've learned that there are barely impossible things, and that rules are bendable. It's just our damn lazy mind, laziness is our limit and our biggest obstacle.
I've learned that you need to adept to the world, no matter the difference between you and anyone else.
I've learned that imaginations and dreams can actually save people from various things.
As I missed so many, I've learned not to leave out any more chances and not to be shy.
I've learned that for working out a gym is not necessary, and that it gives way more than just muscles.
I've learned that sometimes acting confident counts more than being confident.
I've learned that I never want to stop learning.

I've learned that while they say the meaning of our life is survival, it's probably happiness. Why the trip if you don't enjoy it?


I'VE LEARNED THAT IF YOU WANT TO ARGUE, PRESSING SHIFT FEELS WAY BETTER THAN SWITCHING CAPS LOCK ON.



Finally, I've learned to say "Why not?" instead of "Why?".

Things I've Learned:

- When you're being brutally honest with people, they will either:

1. Find any means to make you look like a hypocrite to compensate for the lash you gave them, while they pretend that they're saints.

2. Are too indolent or incompetent to admit their perspective may be just as wrong as yours, but they rather gravitate in trying to see yours as shit.

3. See you as a jerk for being honest, and prefer that you sugar-coat, when they know they'll still know what you're trying to get at and assume you're just self-censoring yourself.

4. Assume you know everything, when they lack any competence that it's about being resourceful with what you know and building upon it instead of thinking it takes all the knowledge of the universe and beyond just to tell them that they're wrong. And even with that, just admit there are times you'll be wrong yourself (but still double-check before submitting to that realization) , and not be intimidated with people who use ad hominem, straw man, other argumentative fallacies, because once you filter out their emotionally-driven logic, they're really just helping you see something completely new without you having to make mistakes only to come to the same realization they came to. But it will always be a game of win or lose to them, and them thinking you're trying to just induce their emotions on purpose.

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- When people get bothered with how others tend to think their friends can be replaced, and how they try to defend themselves with "everybody is unique," it almost feels like it's just a hopeless statement in the long run. Especially with first loves, first friendships, etc. that are generally hard to die, people just want to deny themselves that if they never met that person before, they'd probably find someone to fill whatever necessity another person can easily give them after getting to know them better. Even though throwing away the memories of those people is not an easy thing to do, if it gets to the point where you're not making any good changes for yourself, that you're so burdened with guilt over what you didn't come to terms with those people, you're really just pathetic. There are just some memories to keep and some to just forget happened altogether and get over your pity party at some point.
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- Even when you talk with older people and learn so much from them so you can get the underlying meanings and concepts on how to cope with life and how to live a decent life, it seems people prefer that you decayed (have to be older)for many years to see you as anyone credible. They tend to disregard implicit knowledge and how experiential learning just adds on to make the implicit knowledge more valid. And really, the older people and how they reached solace and learned their lessons will most likely be the same for younger people eventually becoming old like them. But they still want to believe that there's going to be something new or thought-provoking if the younger person lives out their lives and ages, but whatever they learn is just going to be the same underlying concept in a different perspective. There's huge difference with aiming for the betterment of society while taking full consideration of the life lessons in advance while you're young vs. recycling obvious concepts and feeling you need to live a bit more to get them just wastes time when you could've gotten the bigger picture from the start.
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I learnt nothing lol :D

honesty is highly overrated. in fact i've seen many people use honesty to degrade, manipulate, or humiliate others to make themselves look superior. they say "well, at least i was honest," but yet they still lacked any sense of maturity.

I've learned that we only live now, right now, and we shouldn't waste our time. ;)

I've learned that friends are only there for so long, and all that's left in the end is your family.