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Have you been single your whole life? Or just maybe you wanted to take the road less traveled and wait before you get with someone. I haven't dated in 8 years and even tho I have had pockets of freedom where I knew I was happy single.....I believe I have a God drivin desire to be with someone.....I go to the singles forum on CF and I get critized by christians of all people.
Hey sexy ladies. I'm single. Come and get it. One line, no pushing, please.
Haha yep! Im single more times than not. I honestly don't think I could handle a relationship right now to be honest, although I do want one. People bug me when they feel that its necessary to always be with someone. It just takes away the whole meaning of the relationship when you are with a new guy every few months.
I've been single for my whole life (about to turn 23). I had of course those 1 week mini romances, been attracted and people attracted by me, but never had anything serious. One month after I started university, I had an "accident" which ended up changing my personality/behavior significantly, which among other problems, made it very hard to tolerate company from anyone, which resulted in pretty funny situations of me pushing anyone who tried to get closer (girls and even friends) away. I actually have some good stories that range from a girl taking me to church from other making bets with her friends over successfully "jump" me. My libido side regrets this missed opportunities lol, but it was for the best, I didn't think it would be good for people to get too close and find my dark side ^^
*raises hand* I've been in one relationship. I waited a long time for it because I was never sure what I wanted, and it turned out I'm still not. I definitely have the desire to be with someone, though. Sometimes a little too much, I think. But I'm just trying to figure out where I'm headed right now.
What is CF?
The less of a relationship I'm in, the more girls I can get to send me nudes with cat ears.
Does it really work out that way, though?Quote:
Originally Posted by slayer
If you play your cards right, yes. I prefer being single, I'm only nearly 19 (5 more days). I've been in a relationship once and since then I only want FWB/FB.
Yup, single. Can't really be bothered engaging in a relationship. Seems like a lot of work.
I just broke up with my girlfriend about 2 weeks ago..She was too overdramatic and frankly, too much work. She would get mad at me if I talked to other girls, and on one occasion I was in a group chat with two of my friends (who are girls) talking about a project that we're all partners are and she threatened to break up with me for cheating on her..*facepalm*
Wow, she sounds very need Xvaiuer. Good thing you broke up bro, you won't regret it. Whenever a woman is too needy, NEXT!
Well, my first relationship lasted about a year, and in retrospect, was primarily a result of me having been lonely, needy, and depressed for a few years. So, I jumped into a relationship for a while for all the wrong reasons.
It seems to me that tons of people have fallen into that trap, where they jump from one lover to another, driven by a fear of being alone, or because they think that they'll find happiness via another person. But it doesn't work like that, and thus people who don't realize it end up bouncing between relationships.
To be completely honest, after a lot of time and thought, and much meditation, I've decided that I am not going to pursue any more romantic relationships. I don't particularly feel the drive to have sex with anyone. Laugh if you will, but my hand and a little creativity has given me at least as much pleasure as I've had with anyone else, and its STD free and complication free. :P
With the right mindset, I've found I can be just as close with a select few friends as I could in a relationship, minus all the sex. If someone does happen to come along that seems to be an excellent fit for my life and outlooks, I'll gladly give it a chance, but I'm definitely not out there searching for "love. "
But deep inside you want to bang someone. Call me blunt, but it's true.
You do, but not everyone does. There's actually a pretty strong asexual community out there.Quote:
Originally Posted by Athylus
I honestly can't imagine.
Me neither lol. It's just like another orientation though, like how someone who's straight can't imagine being attracted to the same sex. There's not really any point in trying to comprehend it if it's not for you, but there are people who genuinely don't desire or like sex.
Each to his own Alyzarin, and no disrespect to asexuals, gays or whatever as long as you're not a pedo.
What's wrong with pedophiles?Quote:
Originally Posted by Athylus
That honestly just made my day.Quote:
Originally Posted by Marvo
sigh
I made a post and then my internet pooped and it was deleted
sigh, short version.
Single. Hopefully not for long. Not asexual, but not normal by modern terms, lol. I want a connection with a guy, an actual connection, you know? A real relationship, where we can actually talk to each other, hang out, enjoy each others company? HOLY CRAP MAYBE EVEN A FRIENDSHIP- Like-before he puts his hands all over me and calls it dating?? Its disgusting. I don't think its weird at all that I want a real relationship before physicality, but in this hyper sexual modern world its considered weird.
No, the way I am is not some deluded intellectual choice out of some christian ideals making me prudent. I JUST DONT FEEL THAT WAY HOLY CRAP ITS NOT A CHOICE!!
And please, accept my friendship, it is not an insult. lol. Apparently, this desire to have that connection first is just the way I am according to the astrological signs I was born under.
And sorry for ranting. Its just lately Ive been feeling a lot of pressure to just date regardless of whether theres an emotional connection - AND IT PISSES ME OFF
(I'm not single but am responding anyway? I need to sleep and cannot think any longer tonight)
I sometimes can't even imagine that I have a sex drive even though I do. It's like.. the only natural drive that that we weren't born with. I guess drives like hunger are weird too. When you're hungry, there's generally no actual pain. You just want to eat, and you couldn't explain that feeling to someone who didn't feel hunger. But I rarely question that since I can't imagine anything else, since I've been able to feel hunger all my life. But the sex drive came on gradually, and since I can still remember what it felt like not to have it, it seems strange somehow, like I could just lose it at any time.Quote:
Originally Posted by Athylus
Or maybe the reason is because it's a more complicated drive, compared to other strong universal drives. The desire for food is satisfied through the ingestion of the chemicals you need. Thirst is satisfied by water. Tiredness is satisfied by laying down and sleeping. The feeling of having to urinate goes away when you urinate. None of this requires much mental effort and is all quite simple. But satisfying a libido is different. The thoughts involved are more complicated. Instead of simply desiring certain chemicals to go into or out of my body (lol no that isn't the desire), it's a desire to achieve somewhat complicated psychological states. I wonder what it feels like for other animals to have sex.
It's just term confusion. Pedophiles can't necessarily help being attracted to children. Someone who actually goes out and rapes them is a children molester, and the two aren't synonymous.Quote:
Originally Posted by Xvaiuer
I haven't been in a relationship since 05. Been on plenty of dates though. Took me a years to realize that I need to get my crap together before I get into any kind of relationship. Even if it's casual.
Haven't been in one since 05 too.....and I have seen alot in myself that needed changing. Still some stuff does.
I honestly have no idea about that Dianeva... but even if I hadn't sex drive in the past I do now. And now is what counts. ;)
I'm single and have for all intents and purposes been so all my life. However I've wanted to get into a relationship for years, I'm just horribly shy and inhibited in that area. It's something I'm working on, but you can't just change it over night.
I'm pretty much in the same boat here. I'm 20 years old and have been single all my life. I'm not exactly looking for a relationship, but I'm open to the idea. Though I'm not really the sociable type. I don't drink, don't attend parties, have no friends outside family and don't go on nights out or anything like that, so I'm unlikely to meet someone any time soon. But we'll see what the future holds.Quote:
Originally Posted by khh
I don't know. I have yet to try it out.Quote:
Originally Posted by ♥Mark
I'm single, but I've had plenty of relationships in the past. I dunno, none of them really... 'felt right'. Like I would always be plagued with this awful feeling that I was making a mistake.
I don't feel like it's my calling to get married and have kids and all that. All of my instincts tell me that the last thing I need in my life is responsibility for someone else's emotional well-being; I have enough problems as it is. Well, it's not like my life is all that hard or bad, there are billions of people out there who have it worse than me, but I still feel like I need to master myself before I do anything else romantically.
Or maybe I'm just immature and fear responsibility. Maybe it's just my OCD that's giving me those feelings of anxiety. Maybe I just haven't met the right person yet.
...Well, I guess time will tell, eh? :?
I'm trying to escape the classic definition of relationship, but I have my own issues to bring to the table that make it difficult. I get jealous, and if I really like her and feel an emotional connection, I can also get a little needy. This comes down to my own insecurity and doubt in myself. I figure if I can work through that, I can engage in a healthier relationship, and then it won't have to be so conventional.
The thing is, I still dream of finding my blood-soaked wolf princess. I still dream of deep love and a profoundly spiritual connection. I'm perfectly happy waiting for that, though, and working on my own personal growth in the meantime. I want something really intense but also healthy enough to survive. That's going to take time, and I have a lot of growing to do to get there. I was never very good at settling or compromising though.
Single when I need to be
#yolo
My life looks like quote with one exception. I drink a bit too much with school mates:< If I have money ofc but with that is problem. lol in that case it's not too much.Quote:
Originally Posted by Heavy Sleeper
Princess Mononoke reference? +10,000,000 points!!Quote:
Originally Posted by Original Poster
I'm single and always have been.
60% of me isn't interested, the rest is still an anxious and socially awkward teenager with too little experience.
No, but seriously guys, what is CF?
christianforums.com
Oh yeah I used to troll there.
Single since 2010. I've only had one "serious" relationship, since then just the occasional date here and there. However I had a thing for about two months last summer with my best friend but it didn't really go anywhere (wish it had though) *cough* friendzoned *cough*, when that ended I had a summer fling in Miami for about 2 weeks. Since then, University has kept me busy. I've been on a couple of dates and met great girls but I can't take that one step to bring myself to go any further and usually just end up making a new friend, I think I'm just not over my friend yet. But I don't mind being single, random hookups at parties and clubs are also fun.
Happily single. :)
We paint this exotic portrait of what a relationship "is" through movies/media, and then we try to replicate that fantasy in our personal lives, setting unreasonable expectations. Or maybe I'm being cynical. But I lived with a girl for two-three years, and I feel like that was "enough." I have no interest in finding a partner anymore. Of course, my mindset could change, but as of now I'd rather live alone with a dog. In terms of a relationship, I think I'd get more satisfaction from raising a child. Actually, I think that's the only way I'd be interested in committing to a relationship--having a child. So since I don't want kids now, I don't want a relationship. Maybe? I'm over-thinking this, probably.
I've been single my entire life. I get a feeling I'm not lovable anyway. I don't think I'm special in any way. I'm 25...........
There is a girl I want but she doesn't want a relationship with anyone and it hurts, I cant see me ever loving someone else as much as I love her. By the way we are best friends and I told her my feelings and shes OK with it at least. She could have rejected me but I knew she never could.
8 years single and i hate every minute of it. and F you if you try to tell me that I'm better off.
I don't think there are many people who don't feel that way. But you are lovable, so stop thinking like that! :hug:Quote:
Originally Posted by Silent_Lucidity
Single. Not necessarily 'looking', but open to the right relationship, if it comes around. I've had a few failed relationships that were doomed from the start, and have gotten star-crossed with some great girls with whom I've never really had time enough to build anything solid with, before they moved out of the area. I can honestly say that I'm happily single (as an artist and musician, I have more than enough to occupy my time. And there is nothing wrong with friends with benefits), but I'd be lying if I said I wasn't about ready to find someone who 'gets me' enough dive into relationship territory. I'm really not hard-up for just jumping on the first chick smoking, though. Patience is a virtue, and I'm in no rush. :)
meet plenty of women i liked, just never one that i can develop a serious connection with.
Possibly, but my brain doesn't agree with that. It's like an inner struggle.Quote:
Originally Posted by Dianeva
Oh don't worry, that passes.Quote:
Originally Posted by jackc45
And yes, I'm single. Line up ladies.
No, really. I have lots of girl "friends" like, we don't love each other, but we're friends. Y'know? And I'm fine with it that way.
Having girls as friends, I don't know what it is but they seem to listen to you more. Well it seems that way to me anyway.Quote:
Originally Posted by GrannyPigms
single all my short life, i'm 22.
too weird to live, too rare to die hahahahahahaha! fuck my life
I've been with the same girl for 16 years. Oh how I wish I was young and single again, this thread depresses me, lol..!
wait what?Quote:
Originally Posted by Nicho
...that's exactly what I was thinking after I read that reply. The "lol !" is what really threw me off.
Looking back I see now that my past relationships were very unhealthy.
These days I prefer not to get involved with anyone mostly because it's just easier.
I'm not sure what I am currently. I tried getting close with someone but the circumstances have made it very difficult. Perhaps going back to keeping to myself would be the best for both of us.
The word love is scary to me, even though I consider myself to be a very loving person by nature. As soon as someone I'm romantically interested in uses that word, I am reminded of where that has led in the past. No thanks.
Best advice: know what you want, take your time, don't settle, and NEVER try to force something to work that isn't.
I force everything all the time, that's why I'm single.
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Fuck time.
reedit:
Fuck distance too.
^ If you fuck time and space, what does that leave?
:-? :whyme:
The birth of infinite possibility.Quote:
Originally Posted by Darkmatters
I'm single, and I pretend that my pillow is my future girlfriend while I'm falling asleep.
Oh, how sad.... :(
Being shy is annoying!
I know that feel, bro. :cry:Quote:
Originally Posted by Ekyu
Sometimes I make a wish in hope that the pillow would turn into a person and love you back no matter what.Quote:
Originally Posted by Ekyu
I'm single because Christ commands me too. I know how strange that sounds but. I have been able to get a lot of things done being single rather interested in her affairs which only complicate my mind that has been shattered by a psychosis. I don't have time for you me and God at the same time. I choose God that would never forsake or break my heart.
^Sounds exactly like my ex's mindset
Yes. One real relationship in my 23 years. I'm not too fussed about it, except for sometimes I have mini-breakdowns and fap myself to sleep.
But other than that, I feel sorry for people who basically can't function without being in a relationship, their happiness is tied to being with someone else.
I don't want to be like that. I find other interests to occupy my time and try to improve myself, someone will come along eventually that fits me well.
Or maybe they won't, either way, I'm not going out and looking for someone to be in a relationship with.
I just became single after a 4 year relationship. Like a breath of air after being buried in sand.......she was nice though; relationships can just become a too constricting with people who have different 'needs' and values, in my opinion.
I hope all of you understand. That being alone has so many benefits. I didn't realize it even when I made this thread....But for some reason I just started to forget about my ex....I care for her but I would rather God care for her then me burden her with my problems.
Being in a relationship has so many benefits. They both have advantages and disadvantages.Quote:
Originally Posted by sonicwhite
Feelings sorry for yourselves isn't gonna make things better.Quote:
Originally Posted by TimeDragon97
I'm single and have been loving it for the past year or two, but I think I am ready for a relationship again!.... Ladies?
My last relationship was 7 years ago during my sophomore year of high school. We only dated for 3 months. Best year of my life. Met a girl, skateboarded all the time, good group of friends, and started smoking weed. Your typical high school student lol. I dont think I was ready for a relationship. I want one now, but dont think I can at the moment.
Not single here, this is the longest relationship I've ever been in (4 months so far)
My shortest relationship was 4 days and second was 2 weeks (and even that one was long distance)
So technically I didn't have a real relationship till 10th grade.
I guess being single and not both have their perks.