Originally Posted by
Nhuc
Hmm, good point deb.
Ethics are litterly a whole class in my major, and well, they focus more on the lawful side of things. and less on the morality. Sometimes however, when we deal with learned behaviors we have to take more radical approaches. For example I had a professor who worked in a team to get a boy the state rescued to talk and learn. From the age of 2-7 he was sold off by his mom to various people who would well, we all know how prostitution works. His team got him to smoke as a reward system to talk, then they gave him porn when you would learn, it wasn't the best schooling but it gave the boy incentive and rewards enough to get him to university, when they first met him he was in a state of such shock he didn't move, eat, talk, or anything.
Okay original poster,
This girl is in an abusive relationship, overall good person, attempting to get her shit together, she just needs a push. She needs a friend but doesn't think she does. I being the 'wonderful' person I am, don't care to see people just kinda crawling around. So i've been trying to be that friend she needs. I've talked with my girl about the state of where it's going and she said to do whatever I believe will help her.
But the problem is how do I get her to help herself without me helping her help herself, and without me becoming that critical, or semi- permanent part of her life.
I used sex as an understandable ( idea of how far it could go) waypoint not as a destination.
Slayer, it's been discussed, I have her consent and yes cheating will make you get an F on any test, and usually kicked out.