What is the Dating World like in Today's Society, and do Women still like men?

**voByJunior2013** · 01-16-2014 04:51 AM

I've never dated because i'm disabled and thus i'm not attractive to the healthy regular mature women(i'm in my 30s) . I have speech and cognitive problems. So yeah basically i will probably never have any chance of having love. But whatever, that's life.

So anyways but according to what i've seen regarding the past and when i look at my parents and the people of their era,,, they use to date and marry. And my parents were not Business career types where the woman was doing some High Tech or company job. Marrying is something they did since age 15 and stuff back in the day. So marriage was like something everybody did. they even had large families like 10 kids in afamily.

But today, i dont really know cause i'm not out there in the dating or love world, but from what i see in TV , forums, internet and just general knowledge, it seems many young people are just playing around and having open relationships or just sx, OR others just focus on their careers and jobs and many women seem like they not interested in guys till they're in their 40s or 50s because they want to just focus on their career.

And i also hear many people are not even marrying and not even having relationships. And then i also hear Men and Women just competing with eachother and Men and Women hate eachother.

Anyways, overall, it doesn't sound like the Love/Dating world is healthy nowadays.

The only people that i see heavily dating and having kids are Immigrants. Often i see immigrant women with lot of kids. And i dont' see much of that with Americans, except for the Rich Americans. But usually on average much less than the amount of kids immigrants have.

ANyways, what's your take on all of this?

**Original Poster** · 01-16-2014 06:16 PM

No it hasn't changed that much. People are still marrying in their 20s, having closed relationships and kids. it's shifted a little but not nearly to what you've described, and it's barely shifted at all in the south. (Alabama doesn't know it lost the civil war, srs)

Online dating is growing in popularity, too. You could try that if you think it's hopeless. If you're honest and upfront about your disability and manage to score a date anyway you already know she doesn't care about that. And many women don't.

**voByJunior2013** · 01-20-2014 05:24 PM

Thanks for the answer. I've never had a single date in my life so I don't know how it is.

**Original Poster** · 01-20-2014 06:07 PM

Give it a try, make a profile page on one of those dating websites and see if you get any hits. Never hurts to try.

**Arra** · 01-21-2014 07:24 AM

That is what it seems like in some media, but the people I've actually seen strive to have significant others. It's natural to develop crushes on people and form connections and relationships. It would be hard for a society to avoid that (though I heard recently that Japanese society is like that, not sure about that though). Of course there are people who choose to focus on their careers and aren't interested in relationships at all. I do know of a few of those people. But it seems to be the exception, while the norm is to want a relationship, to get married maybe sometime in one's mid-to-late twenties.

The number of people who actually want kids might be declining. Due to careers, it seems a lot of women still do want kids but they don't want to have them yet, like they want to wait until their late twenties/early thirties until they've settled into a job rather than early twenties / late teens like it used to be.

The OP was sad to read. No one should have to be alone. =( Agreed with the dating site idea.