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      Am I bisexual?

      I posted a thread a while ago where I mentioned my huge attraction for girls who are noticeably taller and stronger than me.
      However, I actually feel the same way for guys of that sort as well, and probably even stronger.
      One of my dreams is to meet a towering beefy guy who has a protective side and finds me small and cute and whatnot, and who is a natural leader type who wants to take care of me and hold me.
      Alright, so I know that this desire probably tells you that I am "obviously" bisexual, but the confusing thing is that I am only attracted to this specific type of guys - they have to be exactly that kind of guys, like, very tall, very muscular, dominant (but kind and sweet at the same time) and have a natural protective side to them.
      If I spot a guy like this, and I know he is attracted to guys, then he is extremely interesting and exciting and I will repeatedly give him a shy once-over to try and tell him (you know, that "oh I think you are so cute, but I'm too shy to approach you" type of look), but unfortunately the few guys I have seen so far who are like this have turned out to have a relationship, or I simply never get a good chance to talk to them.
      But if a guy doesn't live up to all these qualities then I am simply not attracted to them; he must be dramatically taller and beefier than me and be dominant and protective if I am going to feel attracted to him at all.

      What would you say about my sexual orientation?
      Of course, this isn't really "important" to know or anything, but I am pretty curious.
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      Kinsey scale - Wikipedia, the free encyclopedia

      You basically rank between 1 or 2 on the kinsey scale, where 3 is bisexual and 6 is gay. That's all based off what you're saying though. As you explore your sexuality, you might find you are closer to a 3, or maybe a definite 2.

      How old are you?

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      Quote Originally Posted by Marvo View Post
      Kinsey scale - Wikipedia, the free encyclopedia

      You basically rank between 1 or 2 on the kinsey scale, where 3 is bisexual and 6 is gay. That's all based off what you're saying though. As you explore your sexuality, you might find you are closer to a 3, or maybe a definite 2.

      How old are you?
      I am 28 right now, but I have felt this way for at least ten years.

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      Oh ok neat. But yeah, you probably place around 2 on the kinsey scale, perhaps even bordering on 1.

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      Personally I think most people are probably bisexual to some degree or another, and it is mostly people just being uncomfortable with them self that makes them not want to really think about it. I would say it is whatever you want to call yourself. I would say that calling yourself heterosexual isn't a problem, since you have a strong preference in that direction, but also calling yourself bisexual is also fair since you are attracted to both genders.

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      I agree, I think the rigid gender conformity we place on men is related to homophobia. There's a stigma against homosexuality to the point where it's easier to accept someone else as gay than accept a droplet of bisexuality within yourself. Because you can always marginalize others, but you can't marginalize yourself.

      Attraction is a very complex thing, there are multiple scales to consider regarding the desire to be intimate with others. It's probably more common than not that one of these scales tips ever so slightly off its edge. But if it's not tipped off its edge close enough to the middle that you find yourself crushing on a dude, then what's the point in admitting it? Girls admit to it all the time, and find themselves free to explore exactly where they reside on each spectrum of attraction. Men have no such luck, step into the gray area at all and you're instantly marginalized by others, or at least you perceive that you will be.

      I'm not even talking physical connections, either. As an introvert, I form intimate bonds with both genders. I form "bromances" which is to say deep rapport and kinship with other men on a one and one basis. I have no interest in anything physical, not foster any romantic desire, but when I form this kinship with a gay or bi dude they feel like I'm "friendzoning" them. And something equally as creepy, girls have thought I was gay,secretly trying to steal their boyfriend, because I built rapport with him and not with her. I don't get along with everyone, a lot of people rub me the wrong way. I'm cordial with people but I'm selective and committed to my real friends, and this is threatening for some reason. I have "bromances" with females, too. And yeah, if they're single I'll probably try to kiss them eventually. But if they're not single, their boyfriends don't usually feel threatened by my presence even though the sexual orientation actually lines up for it. Ugh, I'm rambling, but yeah, the thoughts that go through the minds of insecure women...

      Everything works out in the end, sometimes even badly.


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