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      Long distance relationships.

      Discuss.
      Anyone in one? How do you cope with the inbetween times?
      good, bad or indifferent?
      Does the distance make you stronger, or does it chip away at the fragile shell you build up when you get time together?

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      I had to say no because I already tried it once. Me and my g/f moved from florida to georgia. Because of my temper, I got removed (state troopers) from our house and the only way they would not take me to jail was if I moved out. With no where else to go, I came back to florida while she stayed there. Since I was a control freak ( still am sorta..) and she was week minded, we stayed together for like 2 months 'till I made her quit her job, leave all her friends, and move back to j-ville, then about a week later, we broke up. And yes I know I'm an asshole, but its ok, there is always 2 sides and you only read 1.

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      Hey, i'm not going to judge you, i just wanted to see what people thought!
      If it didn't work out, it didn't work out.
      I posted this because i'm in one...
      And i do find it hard, it's very difficult sometimes to stop yourself feeling insecure about it all, and unsure...
      When he's here with me, i know that all that's there is real but when he has to go back home, after a little while, i do sometimes get down with missing him. And then if he doesn't email me i begin to think he's not interested.
      to conquer that i sit and remember all the good times we've had together, and that seems to help a lot.
      It does seem to make the time we do get together a lot more precious. Also, with only being able to talk on the phone and email when he's not here, i find you have to communicate a lot more than you would in any normal day to day relationship.
      Any positive stories out there?
      'all of the moments that already passed/
      try to go back and make them last.'

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      distance

      People who are "natural" loners tend to do better at long-distance relationships than others. They just don't get into the same type of social trouble/circumstances that extroverts get into. That doesn't mean that the relationship wil last - it just means that introverts have a better shot at it than most folks. If you throw in a plan to bridge the distance - working toward that goal will make the relationship stronger also. Generally speaking, most introverts lead the same life whether someone significant is in it or not.

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      Well, seeing as I've been in about three...

      As much as I hate to admit it, black lion's right. Of course, I am working on establishing a close (RL) relationship at the moment, so...
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      I don't do it, I tried it with 2 or 3 girls and it's just not the same as it is in real life, it's much better when you can actually be with someone.
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      Re: distance

      Originally posted by black lion
      People who are \"natural\" loners tend to do better at long-distance relationships than others. They just don't get into the same type of social trouble/circumstances that extroverts get into. That doesn't mean that the relationship wil last - it just means that introverts have a better shot at it than most folks. If you throw in a plan to bridge the distance - working toward that goal will make the relationship stronger also. Generally speaking, most introverts lead the same life whether someone significant is in it or not.
      I agree with this statement. I'm not yet ready to have someone 'in my pocket' if you like.
      To me, it's a great way of exploring a relationship with someone, but without them necessarily annoying me all the time. I'm not saying we haven't had our little misunderstandings, because we have.
      But i think both of us respect the fact that we each like to have those little pockets of time to go and do our own thing, and live our lives, which is why it makes it great in one way.
      What's hard is when one of us is going through a bad time, and we can't be 'there' for each other to get through it in the physical sense. sometimes, when something bad is going down, no matter how much you care for this person, their voice on the end of a phone line isn't enough.
      'all of the moments that already passed/
      try to go back and make them last.'

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      Didn't work for me...

      Guys follow their penis around. Their penis tends to be lazy. So it doesn't like to go very far.

      I don't want to hear about the brain from someone that doesn't have one.
      Nor do I want to hear about evolution from someone that hasn't evolved.

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      I had one and it was wondeful in my oppion. I mean i relaly hated not being abel to be with the person, but everythign worked out perfectly. Love is love, not matter how far. Its something you hold in yoru heart not yoru hands. there is this great quote form a poem that i regret that i forget that says how true lovers can lvoe fomr a dictance and last, while non true lovers fall apwart as soon as they are out of thier hands reach. Wlel anyways, everythign wnet well but It had ot be ended for reaosn unrealted to the longdistance. It ahd to do with other lfie factors that woudl of been in the way even if we lived next door. It was amazing whiel it lasted, and i wont ever forget it

      EDIT: she was about 2000 miles away btw
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      The meaning of "long distance" kind of changes as one grows up. If we include living on the other side of a major metropolitan area while in high school as long distance, then these are the only relationships I've had.

      I am neither for nor against them. If you're thinking in that way, you don't belong in a relationship at all, IMHO.

      Kim, whatever irrational part a woman follows around, it doesn't like to go very far either.

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      Originally posted by Ex Nine

      Kim, whatever irrational part a woman follows around.
      That's technically called "a guy" aka "the irrational part a woman follows around"

      I don't want to hear about the brain from someone that doesn't have one.
      Nor do I want to hear about evolution from someone that hasn't evolved.

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      Originally posted by kimpossible
      That's technically called \"a guy\" aka \"the irrational part a woman follows around\"
      Part of her mind-body system, then.

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      Well, we women are strange creatures! I'm forever misinterpreting!
      At the moment, i'm all for it. If there's one thing i've learned, being long distance you have to work a lot harder for it, which means if it really means something to you, you are going to expend the energy on it.
      'all of the moments that already passed/
      try to go back and make them last.'

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      How far away does your significant other have to be before it is 'long distance'. My fiance lives about an hour and a half away, and I only get to see him on weekends.....That's as far away as I can handle. It's hard enough as it is. It's worth it though.
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      Personally, I'd class it as "anything really _needing_ an airplane involved in the relationship" An hour thirty? That's shorter than my daily commute. I do that twice a day pretty much every day.

      I don't want to hear about the brain from someone that doesn't have one.
      Nor do I want to hear about evolution from someone that hasn't evolved.

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      Originally posted by kimpossible
      An hour thirty? That's shorter than my daily commute. I do that twice a day pretty much every day.
      no wonder you're so god damn grumpy all the time
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      Long distance relationships can work as long as you can get together for some quality time once a month or so.

      There is only so much that can be communicated over the telephone or a letter. You miss our on that meaningful touch, or that look silent understanding that passes between you when you look into each others eyes.

      I've never been in a long distance relationship, but know that it is quite a strain when i am away travelling. It feels like more communication happens in the first 5 minutes I am back with my wife than occurred through the hours of phone conversations and emails.
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      Originally posted by kimpossible
      Personally, I'd class it as \"anything really _needing_ an airplane involved in the relationship\" An hour thirty? That's shorter than my daily commute. I do that twice a day pretty much every day.
      Yeah, I agree. It seems like a long way away, but it isn't....I'm still in high school so I can't see him too often.

      Anyway, if you love somone, it can work I'm sure. You do need access to one another sometimes though, or else you'd become too disconnected.
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      Yeah, mine is two hours on a train, and he can only really see me once every three weeks, because that's when i get a weekend off. That's what i get for doing the admirable job of caring for old people.
      But we have lots of phone calls, lots of emails. We handwrite letters to each other, send each other silly presents.
      And when we get together it's amazing, there's always something new to be doing, a place to be seeing.
      it's still hard though, when you miss them and doubt and insecurity comes in. You know they love you if you can pile a heap of crap on them and they go 'okay then!' and then say 'I don't care, i love you anyway!'
      'all of the moments that already passed/
      try to go back and make them last.'

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