Talking Sh*T

[AirRick101]

Anybody that got "friends" who just like talking shit about you behind your back and then say things differently to you? Thanks to this, some of my friendships are being distorted,.and I just hate the people so much who enjoy hurting other people with words, people with nothing else better to do with their time because they have no life to attend to. Who shares my frustration?

[A Lost Soul]

Not anymore. I don't need friends like that. I'm not a big fan of drama or gossip. I graduated from high school, thanks.

[Roller]

Yeah, I went through four years of boarding school and trust me, nothing gives you people skills more than living with your mates 24/7. Sometimes we used to have the biggest bitching sessions about each other, but I guess sometimes you need to let it all out. We all knew it was a roundabout thing; no doubt people would bitch about us too, so it was all good. The biggest thing I learnt from the boaridng house was that sometimes you hve to just put up with shit, and sometimes you have to go out of your way to do things for people, even if it didn't necessarily get repaid.

[Seeker]

Some good advice someone gave me one time that changed my life. "If someone talks to you about someone else's affairs, they will talk as well about your affairs to someone else" I do my absolute best to never discuss the issues of another person with others. Of course I fail sometimes, but I really try. Now as to worrying about what others are saying about me. Who cares? The only people opinions that matter are those that have the power to influence my life. Mainly, my wife and my boss.

[kimpossible]

I believe it was Mark Twain that said (to paraphrase): "The problem with worrying about what others think of you is that they aren't."

[AirRick101]

Well, I kinda get it. There was also the insight that whilst we may be worrying what others think of us, they are at the same time worrying what we think of them. The problem with hanging out with this type of person is that you become like them, and some of it is rubbing off on me. But yes, it's easier being out of high school, but only because you don't have to see the people you have beef with in school.

[Ex Nine]

Oh, wow. I think I finally interpreted that the way it was meant to be interpreted after you said it, Kim. They just aren't thinking at all.

[Rakkantekimusouka]

I've never been one for gossip. People have talked about me though, I'm sure of it.

[AirRick101]

I hate these kind of people, period. They should all be tortured and die.

[Wicked]

I confront people like that directly, in a very angry manner.

[InTheMoment]

Originally posted by Rakkantekimusouka I've never been one for gossip. People have talked about me though, I'm sure of it. You should here the current rumor.

[A Lost Soul]

Originally posted by InTheMoment You should here the current rumor. We were just sharing the bath to conserve water... err... anyway... Yeah, people here seem to love gossip. Not only that, they LOVE to tell other people what to do. Apparently, according to some woman I only met once, I'm a 'lost cause' and Lucius shouldn't bother with me. She said some terrible things about me without even knowing who I am. I don't even think she knows my name. I didn't realize I left such a stain for a first impression... Jesus... I was concerned at first, but mostly because her words upset Lucius. And when people upset Lucius, Lost Soul starts busting heads. I don't give a shit what people say or think about me, especially some cunt who only met me once, but when stupid stuff like that starts to hurt the people I love, I get very angry.

[Gwendolyn]

Always do what you want, and say what you feel, because those who mind don't matter, and those who matter don't mind - Dr. Suess, Disregaurd other people's petty trivialities. As long as you are a friend to yourself, that is really all you need. Plus, I'm sure that you have some friends that are not like that; people who genuinly care about you...

[Rakkantekimusouka]

Originally posted by InTheMoment+--><div class='quotetop'>QUOTE(InTheMoment)</div> You should here the current rumor.[/b] Oh god, I thought you were serious...or are you? Did you turn the smilies off or something? Throw me a frickin' bone, here! <!--QuoteBegin-A Lost Soul err... anyway... Yeah, people here seem to love gossip. Not only that, they LOVE to tell other people what to do. Apparently, according to some woman I only met once, I'm a 'lost cause' and Lucius shouldn't bother with me. She said some terrible things about me without even knowing who I am. I don't even think she knows my name. I didn't realize I left such a stain for a first impression... Jesus... I was concerned at first, but mostly because her words upset Lucius. And when people upset Lucius, Lost Soul starts busting heads. I don't give a shit what people say or think about me, especially some cunt who only met me once, but when stupid stuff like that starts to hurt the people I love, I get very angry. She should just die. I'm the same way: if my friends are hurt, then I'm hurt and I feel like sticking it to whoever hurt them.

[nesgirl119]

Originally posted by Rakkantekimusouka She should just die. I'm the same way: if my friends are hurt, then I'm hurt and I feel like sticking it to whoever hurt them. Ditto...I will defend friends like that even if I am hurt in the process. Except, I haven't heard from some of them lately (like you)......

[Ex Nine]

I bet there's a lot of people out there who would wish people talked about them behind their backs.

[Gwendolyn]

Originally posted by Ex Nine I bet there's a lot of people out there who would wish people talked about them behind their backs. If it makes you feel better, I can talk about you behind your back.......

[Ex Nine]

Originally posted by Gwendolyn If it makes you feel better, I can talk about you behind your back....... No, it doesn't. I wasn't talking about me. But thanks anyway.

[AirRick101]

U mean in a good way? Oh no, I wouldn't argue with that.

[A Lost Soul]

Originally posted by Rakkantekimusouka+--><div class='quotetop'>QUOTE(Rakkantekimusouka)</div> Oh god, I thought you were serious...or are you? * Did you turn the smilies off or something? Throw me a frickin' bone, here! [/b] ROFL! I’m sorry! Unless we really did share a bath together and I don’t remember it, I was just kidding around. =P I don’t use smilies a whole lot. Maybe I should. lol <!--QuoteBegin-Rakkantekimusouka She should just die. I'm the same way: if my friends are hurt, then I'm hurt and I feel like sticking it to whoever hurt them. Yeah. If I ever see her again… well, I don’t know Dutch yet so I can’t tell her off. I could tell her off in English, but I’m not sure how much of it she’ll understand. I guess it’s the stark American in me that just wants to tell her off and/or punch her in the face. Either way, I’m seriously done being polite around her. Anyone who hurts Lucius is instantly on my Asshole List. Grr. I do agree with everyone so far, though. Just ignore what people say and don’t let it bother you. I guess I’m in a different situation because someone I love was hurt, but normally I could give two shits what people think of me. The only people whose opinion matters will accept you for who you are, flaws included. ^_^

[Rakkantekimusouka]

Originally posted by A Lost Soul+--><div class='quotetop'>QUOTE(A Lost Soul)</div> ROFL! I’m sorry! Unless we really did share a bath together and I don’t remember it, I was just kidding around. =P I don’t use smilies a whole lot. Maybe I should. lol [/b] Oh, no no, I was talking to ITM, sorry! ^_^; <!--QuoteBegin-A Lost Soul I do agree with everyone so far, though. Just ignore what people say and don’t let it bother you. I guess I’m in a different situation because someone I love was hurt, but normally I could give two shits what people think of me. The only people whose opinion matters will accept you for who you are, flaws included. ^_^ Absolutely.

[InTheMoment]

Originally posted by Ramu-mu Oh god, I thought you were serious...or are you? *Did you turn the smilies off or something? Throw me a frickin' bone, here! My lips are sealed...but my bone is yours for the taken. ~

[Seeker]

You know, LS, retribution comes in many forms. You don't have to confront her directly in order to exact your justice. Here is what you do: 1) Get her mailing address 2) Locate a pedophile site on the internet 3) Sign her up for the monthly newsletter

[TygrHawk]

Originally posted by Oscar Wilde There is only one thing worse than being talked about and that is not being talked about.

[Ex Nine]

That's exactly what I was thinking, Hawk. You really do kind of fly out of the sky in a deus ex machina sort of way, don't you? Originally posted by AirRick101 U mean in a good way? *Oh no, I wouldn't argue with that. No, even in a bad way. Then at least their existence would be acknowledged. Think about it. You probably don't appreciate it because you don't acknowledge that those kinds of people exist. See? That's exactly their problem!