I have to agree with Ryan and Leo that technically, racial preference is not hate. Calling it "hate" is very much in vogue right now. It's a populist kind of thing. Don't get me wrong, I think it's wrong-headed, destructive, dangerous, and idiotic, but hate is an emotion. We're not discussing an emotion, but a cold opinion.
Now there are different degrees of racism. Someone can have the vague impression that their ethnicity is the best, they can have an outspoken and articulated view that their race is the best, or they can have that opinion coupled with an emotional loathing directed toward some or all people who are not of that ethnicity (or of a larger tableau of ethnicities. "White" isn't really an ethnicity. "Polish," "French," "Welsh," and "German" are ethnicities.) What with the tatoos and insignia, Emily has obviously decided that this stance figures prominantly into her identity. That may be caused by strength on conviction, or it may be that it is the thing she thinks separates her most from the rest of society. A lot of people, espescially young people, honestly don't think they exist unless they are as different from other people as possible.
What if I DO agree Whites are superior? [/b]
Why are you holding your cards so close to the vest? Do you, or don't you? This isn't a poker game, and it's not the debate club. You asked us our opinions, and if you want informed opinions, you should be straightforward about the situation.
Ryan, whether you agree with her is very relevant to your initial question. If you are, in fact, a white supremacist yourself, then I say with all due respect that I think you are wrong, at least on that score, but there is no reason you two couldn't have a comparatively healthy relationship.
If you're not, then you need to be honest with yourself about whether you want to be in a relationship with someone who is. Assuming that you're not, you're being overly romantic about this. I use the word in the literary sense, that you are imagining "love" to be something it isn't. Romantic love isn't a magic spell, it isn't a sacred contract that forms the instant two people share eye contact for the first time, and it isn't, I promise you, the end-all and be-all of human existence. If you break up with someone you have strong feelings for, because of irreconcilable differences, the Earth will not fall off of its axis.
So many people your age, and I know because I was one of them, have this idea that they are obligated to God, or to each other, or to themselves, or to society to stick it through as long as the other person doesn't make them want to vomit. This is not a fully-formed consious idea mind you, but a vague impression that colors your perceptions from the quieter corners of your mind. But it's wrong.
The thing is, I know you aren't going to listen to me about this. You're either capable of realizing it at this point in your developement, or you're not. Maybe you are, after all, you did ask us what we think, but let's not kid ourselves here. If we had all immediately said "Dump her, run as fast as you can," you would have dismissed us as "not understanding." Ask yourself, are you really open to advice, or are you just spoiling for a debate?
Now, if you aren't a white supremacist, or weren't, but you feel you are starting to become one, my advice is simple. Dump her, and run as fast as you can.
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