Thread: I got accepted!!!!

Originally posted by Gwendolyn
Leo, I know that your intentions are good in telling me this, but the thing is, what more is there to life than being happy? If he makes my happy, than is my relationship really holding me back? I mean, happiness is the biggest success anyone could have, in my opinion. The only reason, at this point in my life that I am even going to college is so that we can have a better life together. Sure, I have always wanted to go, and if I didn't have a relationship I would be going regardless. It doesn't change a damn thing. The thing is, now I actually have something that makes me want to do things with my life. I don't really give a damn about being poor either, as long as I have just enough to get by. I mean, I am going to seek a career in writing for crying out loud. I obviously don't expect to be raking in the dough. I will just hold his hand and wish for the best. And we will be in it together. I have been prioritizing my whole life, and my top priority has always been to do something that makes me happy. As I have said, he makes me very happy. You can't just forget about someone you truly love.

And also, in regards to the comments about him being selfish, everyone is selfish. He is no different than you or I in that area. I am damn selfish, so can I blame him if he is too? Not really......I am with him because I am selfish, as in all relationships....

I am over Sixty. I have no problem with being happy. But I have the perspective to know that what young people pursue as happiness has been found by the great majority of mature peoples as being traps of misery. Biological Urges are not happiness. Biological Urges are Biological Urges. Yes, certain neural secretions are released which make one feel happy, but these are only temporary and ephemeral.

Find any experienced adult and ask how long the happiness of New Love lasts. Yes, the feeling is very powerful... even addicting. That is often why couples stay together... it is hoped that someday the 'feeling' might come back. It never does. And here we have a far worse problem arise.... the discovery that ALL New Love is just as exciting. Why is it that you suppose that some... MOST... men cheat on their wives? It is because they are addicted to New Love -- the bonding process that causes the sucretion of this Happiness you speak of. It operates with women also. Why else would so many married couples split up because wives so often "fall in love" with co-workers and delivery men and get divorced to follow along with their new 'Happiness".

Mature people know all of this. Looking back at our lives we realize that what would have been MOST IMPORTANT would have been to position ourselves well into our Careers by the age of 30. Those who spend their Twenties being "happy" will spend the rest of their lives being miserable.

And about forgetting somebody who makes one 'truly happy'. Again, it is only New Love, and it can happen a dozen times in a lifetime. There was Betty Ann, there was Karen, there was Jane, there was Peggy, their was Laura, their was Ellen...THERE! I finally forgot a name -- the Peace Corps Girl... OH! and there was that girl I was engaged to in College -- not only do I forget her name, but I almost forgot her, and I only remembered her when I was reflecting upon how silly young people can be when contemplaing Marriage... then there was Cindy (and I almost forgot her name), Linda, Andrea, Julia, Bernadine, Sophia, Andrea, Nannette. And these were not just women I had one night stands with, but Love Affairs and Marrages. The point is not whether one can forget, but whether they are even worth remembering. Remembering former Loves only gets in the way of going out to get some new Strange Stuff. And there is no love like New Love. Tying yourself to an Old Love -- that is not Happiness... it is the very opposite of Happiness. Ask anybody.

Seek what lasts, and what lasts is your Career. Marriages fall apart all the time, but a Good Transcript and Resume last forever and nobody can take that away.

Remember that you were warned.