Thread: "I'm sorry, you're just not my type."

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Physical:
brown hair
thick hair
cute smile
usually around the ages of 25-35 lol ( or anyone who doesn't look like a stupid girly teenager)
exotic/unique in some way. I love women with faces that are so interestingly beautiful. something you don't find on anyone else. I suppose I mean a woman who is beautiful because beauty is a physical manistfesation of a persons inner personality most of the time. Its different from "hott" which i really don't go for. I love love love beauty.

Personality:
intelligent - there's nothing more then I love then a women i can have a worldly deep conversation with.

funny- not in the sense that they are comedians, but someone who just can tell stories in such a way that they are captivating and hilarious.

wise- a girl who knows how she feels about herself, and generally how her world works. She knows what she has to do to get what she wants. so they have goals and love of share them and achieve them.

loving- i love love love love love when a lady is loving and open. I don't mind if it takes a bit of work to get them to open up, but as long as they have the capacity to show lots of affection, its wonderful.

creative- a person who sees beauty in the every day world in a way others would not. Also, someone who loves to create things, weather its writing, music, singing, or any other artsy activities.

So yep, that's my type

Well-organized description, there, bizzle!

Physical: Looks really don't matter to me. I mean, really, they don't. I do insist on a guy who's taller than me, though. And I like intense eyes and short hair (these are not necessities, just preferences).

Personality:

Intelligence: I'm a writer, a storyteller, a scholar. I value intelligence. I want to be able to have a civilized, intelligent conversation every once in a while, and that means a range of topics.

Honesty: self-explanatory. I need to be with someone who will tell me how it is even when I don't want to hear it. I tend to respect a guy that can do that and still make me feel loved.

Affectionate: It's been shown that women who are not shown affection are 3 times more likely to have an affair, not for the sex, but for the attention. It's so important. Hold my hand, put your arm around me, brag about me to your friends!

Witty: I love a guy who can make me laugh, but stupid humor rarely does it. I like sarcastic, sardonic humor.

Mature: I have a daughter; there's no getting around it. Finding a man my age who doesn't run screaming at the sight of my daughter has proven difficult. I need someone who is mature enough to handle the situation without, in essence, freaking out.

There are many, many more I could list, but we'll leave it at that!

Physical: I dont' care, as long as they are healthy (they look like they halfway give a shit about their bodies.. )and have good hygeine.

Personality: Intellegent- I cannot stand a guy that is plain stupid (luckily mine isn't).
Loving-a big must. Accepting of me and other people- this is also uncompromisable.

There are a lot of different appearances and personality types that I'm attracted to, but the literal girl of my dreams is something like this:
Appearance: Brown hair, preferably with highlights (natural of course). Tan skin, healthy color and skin tone. Freckles are a must, but there can be too much of a good thing. Unusual or brightly colored eyes, preferably some variant of green or a striking tone of blue. A rounded, natural-looking nose so as not to make the face look too sharp and unfriendly. A tendency to smile and laugh, especially at my cornier jokes. Good at holding eye contact and halfway decent at speaking without talking.

As far as personality, I like people with all sorts of different personalities so what I'm looking for are more like virtues. Honesty is a big one, along with practicality. A deflated ego and loving personality are pretty important, and above all she must be very empathic and open-minded. Must not try to change me or necessitate that I change myself in order to get along. Most importantly I just want someone who can make me feel wanted and appreciated in a genuine way.

Originally posted by Barbizzle
So yep, that's my type

i.e. OpheliaBlue. *mutters to self* No wonder Barbizzle is threatening, he likes the same type I do.

Seriously take Barbizzle's physical attraction and Dangeruss' personality attraction, and that sums me up pretty good. Oh what the hell, I'll put it in my own words. I am basing this off two people, Girl 1 and Girl 2 from one of my posts in the Help! forum, and it's becoming more confusing. I am much more attracted to one of them, but the other feels like "Mrs. Right". It's like I already have the answer though, so I don't need any keywords to search.

Physically
A tall mexican lady with long curly hair and bright blue eyes. The hair comes up then falls down her back behind her, giving her the illusion of being even taller and more powerful. The woman is reminscent of a tree with a solid trunk, legs, and spanish moss, hair, that dangles down freely.

Of course, brunettes do the trick too. Generally, the darker the hair, the more attractive. No harm in smelling good either.

Personality
Not completely opposite, but some similarities and some differences. A common ground of a strong spirituality, but differences that enable the two of us to grow and learn from each other.

She does not worry or have an ego and is not materialistic, confused, or ignorant. Ideally healthy all around, a positive thinker, peaceful, true like a mirror, selfish, able to help others, radiates warmth, forgiving bordering on unconditionally loving.

Edit: Almost forgot. She should be able to find humor when needed, including laughing at ignorant insults.

Looks Being honest, looks don't really matter to me. But I admit, I'm very attracted to guys with sortah longish hair (but not much longer than ear length.) Usually brown-black. Although, sometimes blonde...but only if it's natural. I love eyes, I have no preference really, although bright eyes are the best, especially if they make eye contact alot! I don't really mind clothing. As long as they know how to somewhat dress themselves and make it sortah match, it's good. And they have to shower/bathe frequently, lol.

Personality I like guys that are sweet (doesn't every girl?) But not that "fake-sweet" You know, the "I'm-only-acting-this-cute-because-I-want-in-your-pants" deal. But guys that are genuinely nice are cool. Honesty's always good. And not being overly perverted is necessary. I like it when guys don't move super fast, and don't overdose on the PDA. I usually have nothing against guys that drink and do drugs, as long as they do it responsibly, and don't drag me into it. And aren't constantly drunk and or stoned. It really depends on their situation in that area. And guys that like animals and outdoors stuff are always awesome. I really don't like it when guys say something to your face, and another thing to all their friends behind they're back (hence the Honesty thing..) Basically, I just like guys that are loving. <Edit: Yeah, and I'm a musician myself, so any guy with any musical skills definately get bonus points>

Distant Clone

i.e. OpheliaBlue.
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haha, wow thats so weird that you noticed that. Its true though

Ummmmm... okay... what do I look for in a girl?

Personality:
In real life, I'm actually a really quiet guy, and quite shy around girls. I'm an introvert... I don't like crowds. So, in a girl, this is a big thing for me: I like a girl who is quiet like me, but on the flipside of that, I like a girl who I can sit down with and talk for hours on end, about a whole load of stuff. Superficial, or deep and meaningful, whatever.

Intelligence is also a big thing. The "right girl" doesn't have to be a Harvard graduate or any stupid shit like that, but she's got to be intelligent, and have a lot of substance.

Emotionally deep, too. I'm kinda one of these suckers who's looking for a relationship that's emotionally deep... absolute love, absolute trust, and absolute openness, absolute honesty. Personally, I'm not exactly a very trusting guy. I basically never open up to anyone, except a few select individuals. I don't mind if the "right girl" is the same... actually, I think that might be good... because, if you don't normally open up easily, when you do, that's really quite deep, and something special... so, I guess, I want a really deep, meaningful, satisfying relationship.

Physical:
I don't want to sound cliché, but this isn't exactly a big thing for me. *shrugs*. It's hard to isolate exactly what I like, or define some general pattern. In general, my perception of a girl is kinda coloured heavily by her personality. I'll find her physically attractive, if I'm attracted by her personality.

Hmmm... there's heaps more stuff too, but that's all for now.

Personality:

Funny. Big must here. I've dated girls with senses of humor before, but that's just not enough within itself. They've got to be really...crazy. Willing to do something totally out there just 'cuz it'll be fun to look back on it and laugh.

Not Clingy. I've been with girls that insist on calling me three times a day and if I don't call them twice a day, I'm suddenly the root of all evil. Now, I'm all for being a close couple, but when I see you for three hours at school, then go hang out with you for an hour after school, that classifies as more than enough for me. To talk on the phone for four hours afterwards is pointless. And annoying.

Not Depressed. Almost going along with the funny one. I can't be around people that are depressed constantly. I understand that people are down sometimes, but its hard to enjoy somebody's company if they're so far down all the time that they drag you with them.

Athiest. There's wiggle room here, but not much. I'll date a theist with no problem, but when it comes to getting serious, I just can't. To marry some one who's theist, while I'm atheist, would cause major issues.

Intelligent. Not just witty, they've got to know their stuff in one field or another. Ignorance bothers me.

Looks

I'm not enormously picky about looks, but I wouldn't date somebody enormously overweight. Also, big breasts really freak me out. It's just...ew.
Hair color isn't an issue. Skin tone, not an issue. I do love odd eyes (Gone out with one girl who has dark brown spots under her pupil that makes it look like she has cat eyes, and another who had one blue and one green eye), but that's not anything major, either.
Tall girls are a plus, but not a major factor. Mostly I just don't like having to get down on my knees to be at an appropriate hugging height. Makes things awkward...

There is no such thing as my type. I do not need the solace of another. Some may see this as a cause for concern, but I am content with this.

Originally posted by Tsen
Also, big breasts really freak me out. It's just...ew...

I've honestly never heard a guy say that before. You're my effing hero, Tsen. Lol.

Celoude [5:43pm]: I like my women like I like my beer.
Celoude [5:43pm]: Dark, and stout. [/b]

My "type" eh? Well, I don't really know. I have a couple of ideas, though.

Pysical:
This is also not a big deal for me. I'm usually superficially attracted to tall guys with longer hair and a mysterious look to them. My two prerequisites, though, are a guy who is taller than me (I'm about 5'11"), and can beat me in a fight.... I probably wouldn't fight a guy, but I'd know if he could or not.... or at least if he would give me a run for my money.

A guy with a Russian or Irish accent would be a plus as well

Personality:
1. Christian - I know a lot of people who aren't and I can have a great time with non-Christians, but in a person I would consider spending the rest of my life with, this is a must. I want someone who I can have a theological discussion with. I also want someone who's morals coincide with mine for the most part, and will hold me accountable for my actions.

2. Honest - I want someone I can trust, and who will also be honest with me about who he is. I want a person who's not afraid to (lovingly) point out my faults and tell me if I'm doing something wrong, especially if I don't realize it for some reason. I also want to feel comfortable telling him the truth in whatever situation there may be.

3. Humor - I want a guy who can appreciate both a stupid joke and an elaborate scheme I like movies like Kung Pow and Young Frankenstein, so I want someone I can laugh with on a regular basis. I have a habit of one-uping people when it comes to jokes, so I think it would be fun to have someone who can successful do that to me as well.

4. Comfortable - I like to be cuddly sometimes, but mostly around other girls. I obsessed with hugging and I love to feel people's hair. However, I want a guy who I can feel comfortable around and will ask for permission before he tries putting his arm around my shoulder... or at least can read when I'm feeling uncomfortable.

Other than that, it really just depends.

Originally posted by Tsen
I'm not enormously picky about looks, but I wouldn't date somebody enormously overweight. Also, big breasts really freak me out. It's just...ew

Here, here my friend.

As shocking as it may seem, I'm not a big fan of "clown boobies" myself. Perky and petite all the way...besides if they're too small to suck you can always blow on them. ~

Originally posted by Ame
4. Comfortable - I like to be cuddly sometimes, but mostly around other girls.

Now you're speaking my language sweetheart! ~

What the heck was that about, InTheMoment? Did you even realize that you posted the exact same thing three times? A little repetitive, even for you...

Anyway, I agree with Tsen. I think big breasts are scary. Who knows where they came from. And besides which, I hear that if they're too big, they can cause problems for the woman. I'd rather have a comfortable wife with small breasts than one with big breasts and a bad back (let alone the fact that I really wouldn't want a wife with big breasts anyway).

I took care of the triple post.

....and somehow I knew that someone would comment on that.

Personality: The most important thing, and the one that I found, thankfully, is kindness. I'm an asshole sometimes, and it takes a lot to put up with me when I'm in a real crippling mood.

Also, cleanliness and common sense are big ones for me. Taking care of yourself is major importante'. I can't stand someone who is destroying themselves in the name of some sociopathical end. (For fun, to feel more comfortable, etcetera) Tobacco drives me up the walls.

Physical: A willingness to take care of onesself. This includes getting rudimentary amounts of exercise necessary for avoiding health problems, as well as just general hygeine.

Other than that, not really anything. There is one thing though, that you would probably think is cliche', but they are cliche' for a reason. The person has to be in love with me, and has to know that otherwise unknowable level of forgiveness. Thats what I have with Gwen, and thats what allows us to be human, and together without driving each other apart. Call me old fashioned, but thats the specs. If you can't forgive someone (this would be the worst kind of trust to betray, knowing someone would forgive you, so you do whatever you want anyway...oh damn, what would happen then would go down in the history books. ) then I don't think you'll last. I'll be with Gwen forever, on that very foundation. I love her and trust her, and we know that about one another.

Sorry for the rant...I miss her.

Aw, that was very romantic, LS.

As for the rest of you...

/me looks down at her boobs and sighs.

I guess you can't please everyone.

Well, i'm biased, cos i already have my 'type'. My boyfriend!

I always had a blueprint. Blonde, fair skinned., 6'3. Clean, tidy, humourous. Looks were never important, but i was always a sucker for a pair of eyes. He's got those. And long legs. And BIG FEET. Don't ask me what that's about.

I met him on here last April. He's Mystical_Journey, but he doesn't come here very often...But i see enough of him in real life... lol

Pretty simple actually:

1. Tall
2. Athletic
3. Great sense of humor
4. Motivated
5. Neat (as opposed to dirty/disorganized)
6. Compassionate and considerate

And there's something to be said for "meshing well together." Someone people just don't feel a "spark" with one seemingly perfect guy, but can feel the connection with the less than perfect guy. Weird how things work sometimes.

Smell is also a big factor, whether people realize it or not. Our olfactory glands will tell us instantly whether we are attracted to someone or not. Most of this is done subconsciously. Same thing with women who are always together - their cycles start to sync-ing up. It's all due to smell.

Anyway, I'm married so I already have my ideal mate

Originally posted by Burns
Smell is also a big factor, whether people realize it or not. Our olfactory glands will tell us instantly whether we are attracted to someone or not. Most of this is done subconsciously. Same thing with women who are always together - their cycles start to sync-ing up. It's all due to smell.

That's very true for me. My sense of smell is fairly acute, and I hate going into places that could potentially smell bad, such as bars or somewhere where people have been smoking (including just outside of buildings). I also have a habit of smelling people when I hug them and I complement them if they smell good.... or sometimes I'll be honest and say something like, "You smell like Jessica," (if in fact the girl I'm hugging is named Jessica).

That's one pet peeve I had with my former boyfriend, though. His house smelled funny and ergo, so did he.

Originally posted by Lucifer Sam


Other than that, not really anything. There is one thing though, that you would probably think is cliche', but they are cliche' for a reason. The person has to be in love with me, and has to know that otherwise unknowable level of forgiveness. Thats what I have with Gwen, and thats what allows us to be human, and together without driving each other apart. Call me old fashioned, but thats the specs. If you can't forgive someone (this would be the worst kind of trust to betray, knowing someone would forgive you, so you do whatever you want anyway...oh damn, what would happen then would go down in the history books. ) then I don't think you'll last. I'll be with Gwen forever, on that very foundation. I love her and trust her, and we know that about one another.

Sorry for the rant...I miss her.

I heart you too, very, very much.



Yeah, smell is a big factor. You wouldn't think it, but it definately is. I mean, I notice smells right away. One of the first things I noticed, other than his beautiful eyes, was Bob's smell when I hugged him. He smells so good.

When it comes to big breasts, call me Fearless. 8) I don't necessarily prefer them to small breasts, but let's just say that carrying around two big deposits of the softest material known to man right below your face is almost never a bad thing.