Thread: Should "we" Tell If We Are In Love

Tis is the dumbest question ever[/b]

so don't. please.

Okay.

In theory, if you were in actual love with "X" and she was really your "soulmate" as you described. Then I don't think you would have fallen "in love" with the other woman.

I mean.
You could be attracted to her.
You could have fallen "in lust" with her.

But if what you had with X is actual, true, honest-to-goodness love, then you wouldn't have fallen in love with the other girl...

Although, my opinion will probably differ greatly from that of a guy's...


But anyway, if you actually have strong, legitimate feelings for another woman, then yes, you should tell her. She deserves to know. (especially since you labelled it as "love")

If you just have fantasies, lust, or a schoolboy crush for another woman, then no, you shouldn't have to tell her.

Originally Posted by Scar

Hey. Quick question. This one is to all the girls.

say I am in love with some girl(X) and we have been dating for about a year and after a while I meet another women(Y) that I fall deeply in love with. I know I love X and i will never leave har. She is my soulmate!!!! Should I ever tell X that I have got feelins for Y? remember, I will never make a move on Y, because I love X too much. the reason why I ask is because women want to know everything about there partners. Do you realy want to know when we fall in love with someone else? I say we should not tell you. We should keep it secret. That way we won't hurt you. Remember that the other womwn is not an option. We love our partners.

Now that I think about it. Tis is the dumbest question ever, but what the hell. I want too see what everyone says
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firstly, how old are you?

Sounds plain stupid to me. Would be wiser not telling if you don't want to risk losing her.

Originally Posted by Sarabande

firstly, how old are you?
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Birthday 21 July 1989

17 0.o

But ya...... pick one or the other. If you want your soulmate then just ignore the other person for a while and your feelings will go away.

I think you can only love one person at a time

Say nothing, or tell her you are having some problims

but not like that

First off... if you consider someone a soul mate I don't think there is anyone else out there that would steal your love away from said soul mate.

That term soul mate refers to someone who is perfectly suited to you. If you find that perfect person I can't see how you could fall in love with anyone else. I'd think that perfect person would have your entire heart, not just a portion of it. Either X isn't really your soul mate or you don't really love Y. I know... people say they can fall in love with more than one person. And I believe that's true. But to claim someone is your soul mate and then fall in love with someone else isn't making any sense to me.

Since you had to ask a forum of strangers what to do about your situation instead of going to your girl and being honest with her... I'd say don't tell her. Obviously you or she lacks the maturity to work through this little snag in your relationship.

I say wait for sometimes to see if you are stil in love with Y, like maybe a few months, And then ask your self the same question.

I think you should totally tell her, because if she doesn't know everything that is going on in your mind then you are totally lying by omission to her. You should tell her you are in love with this girl, then let her know her ass looks fat in those jeans, then that's she's having a bad hair day, her left boob is slightly larger than the right and that her face is asymmetrical.

That is the only way that you can truly be honest with her, by telling her everything that is in your mind that she truly doesn't want to know. It sounds weird, I know, but it's just plain logical, sweet and super effective for staying with your soul mate forever!!!!

I've got to agree with the ladies here. It is true, you might feel attraction for Y, but it should not be at a level where you are struggling with it.

There is also the matter of friendship to consider. Is it possible that Y is just a good friend?