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      Self Confidence?

      anyone know any ways to build self confidence?


      im good enough talking with normal people but when i try and talk to girls(to get their number)

      their good looks make me freeze up and mumble and stuff

      tonight i went up to 3 girls by myself and attempted to make conversation

      i managed ask their names and school and how old they were

      i also said some things that didnt make much sense even to me

      i just need help being able to talk casually with girls that have good looks

      because im not getting much luck when i wait for girls to talk to me and initiate the conversation

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      You can try self-affirmations. If you say something enough times, such as "I am confident in front of girls" it will pass from your left informative side the processes information of the brain to your right beta side of the brain that process ideas (it's something to that effect, I am pretty sure I am completely off, but you get the idea!).


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      Alcohol helps too

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      Well you can try doing it more often, then you will get used to it. Just start walking up to random people, if you can walk up and start talking to a random person, thats like half way there.

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      weed!
      a child's rhyme stuck in my head
      it said life is but a dream
      i spent so many years in question
      to find i known this all along..

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      Some random advice:

      -Believe you are equal to everyone you talk to. You have a right to interact with girls.
      -Believe you are a nice guy who girls want to get to know

      -Expand your comfort zones in all walks of life in order to improve self-confidence.

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      I think out of all those replies, Neil has the best answer. Just speak what is on your mind. For all you know, these girls could be having the same problem you are and you would never know it. I used to be horribly shy and very bad about talking to girls until I realized one day, that it doesn't matter what they think of me. If I get shot down...BIG DEAL, its one time, one girl, and she wasn't worth it anyway if she didn't care what I had to say. Once you come to that realization, you will do yourself a world of good. AND you will have no problems talking to girls. Take it from me, this advice got me my girlfriend, and lets just say I am MORE than happy it did
      Its hard to dream recall when your starin' down the barrel of a loaded Thnikkaman.

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      yeah im definately going to work at it

      id say im decently outgoing at the start but unless someones asking me the questions i dont have much to say to the person

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      beer. a couple drinks in your stomach and you'll be so self confident you might even overflow with confidence.*

      *in the case of an overflow find a toilet as soon as possible... then bend over and hug the porcelain, then just let the overflow come... drink a lot of water after the overflow... also be sure to eat a lot of bread.
      clear eyes. strong hands.

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      One option you could explore is the caveman approach: sneak up behind her and bash her head with a club. Then just drag her back to your place.

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      At least in a bar atmosphere, the girls that are there get hit on so often that if you get rejected you can't take it too personally. The succesfull guys won't bat an eye & go on to the next. Guys who get a lot of dates may seem smooth but believe me it is not because they haven't got turned down a but load of times. They just have the numbers in their favor.
      Of coarse it helps to not act like an idiot. But once the ice is broken you will find that most all of us (hot women alike) are all very similar. So there is nothing to be afraid of. Good luck!

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      Good looks and good personality helps. Namely the personality.

      umm, if you don't know how to dance, then learn to. From my experience, a lot of girls like to dance. Be nice and flattering. Flirt with them.

      That's probably not gonna help you at all, but everyone already said what I was going to say.

      Curiosity killed the cat but at least it didnt die an ignorant bastard

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      dancing is useless because the music associated with it sucks. Take up drumming, or guitar. Or look like a cult celebrity

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      Originally posted by baconmastermind
      dancing is useless because the music associated with it sucks.
      No. Dancing is useless. Period.
      If I hadn't made me
      I'd be more inclined to bow
      Powers that be would have swallowed me up
      But that's more than I can allow...

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      i think the best way to build your self confidence is to simply train, like someone said, get used to it.

      im having problems with girls too... What is the best way to start a conversation? do you just go over and say "hey, whats your name?" or what?
      and by the way, pcmsurf looks like a pretty good dancer already

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      yeah thats what i say


      just whats up

      hows it going

      how are yall doing tonight (replace yall with something else if you are from the north)

      a few questions after this and i begin to lose my train of thought


      which either results in them asking questions or awkward silence

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      Often, building self confidence depends partly on luck. If you meet the right girls, it can help you be more comfortable around them. Practic makes perfect.

      Self confidence is really just believing in yourself. Practic building confidence in other areas, i.e. sports, scary rides..., and it will help you feel better about yourself on the whole (which includes talking to girls). And remeber, chicks dig confidence. Not stupidity or bragging, though.

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      My approach to chicks it that some chick like insanity, someone who is really insane and will keep the busy during the last years of their life. That is my theory, at least.....though, now that i think of it, it doesn't seem to be working that well...perhaps I should tone the ol' schitzo down a bit
      If I hadn't made me
      I'd be more inclined to bow
      Powers that be would have swallowed me up
      But that's more than I can allow...

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