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      the Girl in my Head

      I recently went on a trip and became really really tight with this girl. I know that she doesn't have feelings for me as a fact, but from me thats an understatement.
      Now, she lives a province away and we're keeping in touch because were really good friends and shes coming back for school.

      I would have tried to forget her by now, but shes such a good friend and I don't think it would be fair to her. But its destroying me inside.
      I've come to the point where I don't know what to do. I could keep my mental turmoil for our friendship (which is awesome), or I could try to move on selfishly and forget about her.

      I haven't told her, because I know that it would ruin our friendship.

      I need some advice, or just comments even. I needed to get that out, I have no-one to talk to...

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      I LOVE KAOSSILATOR Serkat's Avatar
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      Your mental health and well-being are of far superior importance, compared to maintaining a friendship 50% because you're horny for her.

      And PLEASE Forget about this word "selfish". It's the burnt shit-stained rotten asshole of society's hypocrisy and Christianity-based obsession with self-denial and self-sacrifice at the cost of personal happiness and self-responsibility.

      There's no honor in sacrificing your well-being only not to hurt someone. Quite to the contrary, it will make things worse in the long run, both for you and her. It is entirely irrelevant whether society considers it "fair" to just abandon a friendship for the sake of gaining mental clarity and piece of mind. If you ask me, it should be transparently obvious that, if anything, it would be the fairest of all judgments to respect your decision to honor your own mind and your own life and the unfairest of all to expect from you to maintain a friendship only because. There are no expectations you have to fulfill, or there shouldn't be... except those you have yourself.
      Last edited by Serkat; 05-03-2008 at 10:53 AM.

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      Either be honest and tell her how you feel and see if she feels the same, or put your tail between your legs and move on.

      Holding back your feelings honestly takes you nowhere fast...

      Rarely, do people magically start to care about each other at the exact same time, it takes one party who is first interested in the other to start to woo the other into their corner. That's why I always immediately tell the girls how I feel, and if they can like me they stick around.

      Let's put it this way, if they have the potential to like you, they'll still hang out with after you confess your affection even if they say they don't feel the same way, which essentially gives you the go ahead to continue to care and try to win them over.

      If you never stood a chance with them in the first place, then they'll immediately distance themselves from you after having said it... saving you much wasted time and energy in the long run.

      Either way, you win because you instantly know your chances. There's no point in bottling up feelings without first knowing your chances...
      Last edited by Cyclic13; 05-03-2008 at 12:40 PM.


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      Just fuck her to satisfy your puny feelings. You know what you really want.

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      Quote Originally Posted by Dreamworld View Post
      Just fuck her to satisfy your puny feelings. You know what you really want.
      This is the reason that there is a "Help" forum. Where posts are moderated.

      Anyways, do what you think is best. The best advice, is the advice you can give yourself.
      You do this every fucking time.
      No sweat.
      No tears.
      No guilt.
      You do this every fucking time.


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      Quote Originally Posted by AmazeO XD View Post
      This is the reason that there is a "Help" forum. Where posts are moderated.

      Anyways, do what you think is best. The best advice, is the advice you can give yourself.
      Its true. Do you know how much your emotions for a girl disappears after sex?

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      Wow, this is a rough thread...
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