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      How do you really soothe yourself?

      Sometimes I really need to feel peaceful, I really need that feeling of security and relaxation. But I'm always worrying about something. I need something that really works, some way I can just loose myself in tranquility. I don't even care if it's a false tranquility (whatever one of those is) just so long as it keeps me sane. I have to have a sort of 'time out' state.

      Meditation usually just presses the reset button, so that I can focus on something I need to do, but it hasn't so far given me any deep feelings of relaxation. I'm starting to feel like I need it, because I'm just too paranoid all the time. Nothing else: computer games, music, socialising, bathing, reading, sleeping, cannabis or alcohol... none of it does the trick properly because although it can make me feel somewhat good there's always that little nagging guilt in the back of my head that there's something fearful I should be thinking about. I think if I don't get these peaceful time-outs I could go a bit off the rails like I did earlier this year.

      What do you guys do to really 'put yourselves out', if anything?
      The starz...
      The planets...
      The intricate and dynamic machinery of nature...
      Are you saying,
      that all of this was created,
      BY A MONKEY??????

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      Sexual healin'.

      I just face reality. Not so 'soothing', just peaceful/nothing.
      You merely have to change your point of view slightly, and then that glass will sparkle when it reflects the light.

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      Ah... you see, that was one worldly pleasure I completely forgot to mention!

      Yeah, nothingness is cool...



      No seriously; just getting on with it is the most desirable tactic. However, I am talking about general paranoia. It's not actually 'addressable', you just need to find a way to calm those fear sensors in your brain. Smoking pot helped at first but that's just for appreciating my sensuality. But it doesn't help get rid of the guilt associated with it (I fear that this means I'm becoming 'dependant' on sensuality).

      All the same I could feel guilty being too relaxed; but the idea is that I recognise the guilt as being fake. So if something can just sedate me, I wouldn't mind it because logically I know I need it.

      Oh, and; my sexuality is probably the last place I would turn because that's sensual just like the rest.

      But so is simply relaxing... oh goddammit I'm so confused.
      The starz...
      The planets...
      The intricate and dynamic machinery of nature...
      Are you saying,
      that all of this was created,
      BY A MONKEY??????

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      Masturbating with a cheese grater while listening to megadeth.

      Meditating by a flowing stream after drinking some green tea.
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      First, an explanation of why you feel worried or anxious.

      In our minds, we are never present. We are either living in memory of the past, or we are living in anticipating of an imaginary future. There is a time gap between the present moment(now), and the past and future, and it is in this time gap that pyschological fears arise. Guilt, remorse, regret, bitterness, is a result of too much past. Worry, anxiety, stress, is a result of too much future.

      Be present, close the time gap, end past and future, and you will be free of psychological fear.

      The meditation techniques I've presented in this thread, will help you to become present.

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      masturbation with anal stimulants.

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      Quote Originally Posted by grasshoppa View Post
      masturbation with anal stimulants.
      That's not very relaxing.
      You merely have to change your point of view slightly, and then that glass will sparkle when it reflects the light.

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      Quote Originally Posted by ClouD View Post
      That's not very relaxing.
      oh...was it a good try at lest?

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      Quote Originally Posted by grasshoppa View Post
      oh...was it a good try at lest?
      The example is a stimulant of an experience, not a peaceful one.

      Or at least it would be if my prostate gland worked properly.
      The starz...
      The planets...
      The intricate and dynamic machinery of nature...
      Are you saying,
      that all of this was created,
      BY A MONKEY??????

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      A coffee, and apple with a quiet fan and music... the only thing that keeps me sane any more.

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      Quote Originally Posted by Idolfan View Post
      The example is a stimulant of an experience, not a peaceful one.

      Or at least it would be if my prostate gland worked properly.
      TMI my friend, per usual.

      Seriously though, Tai chi is great for calming down and relaxing.

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      not sure

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      Tai Chi helps me relax and helps clear my mind. I also do Yoga. ^.^

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      Pillow hugging.
      Hugging or caressing my dog.
      Lying down on the floor and looking up at the sky.
      Heavy (as heavy as possible) metal.
      Making sculptures with any objects I find around me.
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      Resting my head on my cat like a pillow is soothing. He's like a warm heat generating, furry pillow, and the purring is so loud up to your ear that it's all you need to think about. I try not to rest there too long or be too heavy on him, though.
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      Firstly I try to face the problem and see how I can resolve it. If it is unclear what makes me worry and feel anxiety I speak to a friend about it and have a time together; that usually resolved the problem. A consolation and soothing words from a close to you person is priceless and irreplacable. Or else, I listen to the music, and I really concentrate on it. You can also watch some funny videos @ utube...

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      masturbation and music can be very soothing

      especially when mixed.

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      Music can get me back from a bad mood, or just w/e

      I like music
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      Video games.

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      Quote Originally Posted by Kromoh View Post
      Pillow hugging.
      Hugging or caressing my dog.
      Lying down on the floor and looking up at the sky.
      Heavy (as heavy as possible) metal.
      Making sculptures with any objects I find around me.
      Expressionist dance.
      Expressionist dance.
      Expressionist dance.
      Yoga.
      Youtube for deep music.
      Staying underwater for as long as I can (sea or pool).
      Drinking a full bottle of soda in a gulp.
      Masturbating properly (taking more than just 2 minutes).
      Lol, so you're a metalhead as well! \m/

      Not exactly soothing though...

      You'll have to pitch me up on what 'deep music' is.
      The starz...
      The planets...
      The intricate and dynamic machinery of nature...
      Are you saying,
      that all of this was created,
      BY A MONKEY??????

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      Meditation, of course, the simple breathing exercises we all know and love . Gets me less anxious, for sure.

      Then there's the practice of mindfulness, in which I just try to let things come and go as they are, without predicament. Emotions are there for a reason, they're your body's alarm system, so to say, so I never try to completely ignore them or try to get rid of them, as I think that'd be counter productive. You always hear of severe traumas and heart-related problems to the stresses you face when you do that, so in stead, I just accept whatever I'm feeling as they are.

      Then there's myouuuuusic ^^, the awesomest thing in the world. The problem I get sometimes is that I just get too depressed that no music can cheer my up, and I actually get pissed when I listen to happy music XD

      Oh, the irony...

      That's when I just let my emotions flow, and I just try to surf on my emotional waves as much as I can, so to say.

      And then, of course, there are the people I love and like. The people that quite literally make you "forget your troubles". I have the suspicion that being social really could be the cure to all stress. XD


      Have a great day! ^^

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      Quote Originally Posted by Idolfan View Post
      Lol, so you're a metalhead as well! \m/

      Not exactly soothing though...

      You'll have to pitch me up on what 'deep music' is.
      Lul yep.

      And by deep music I mean ambient music, videogame music, some classical or electronic music. Stuff you could meditate to.
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      Saying quantum physics explains cognitive processes is just like saying geology explains jurisprudence.

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      Quote Originally Posted by Kromoh View Post
      Lul yep.

      And by deep music I mean ambient music, videogame music, some classical or electronic music. Stuff you could meditate to.
      You like trance?

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