I Have A Boring Life.

A good friend of mine talking fondly about all of his crazy, amazing high school memories just made me realize that. I'm incredibly jealous of his life, the people he's met and the experiences he's had. We're both aspiring filmmakers, but obviously he has infinitely better material for movies. I'm so shy that I've hardly had much of a social life, ever, and he's had whole groups of friends that have done crazy stuff.

I guess now that high school's over and it was never much to remember at all, I should start being more outgoing, break out of my shell and try to make an interesting life for myself to make up for it.

Wow... just the phrase "break out of your shell" used to enrage me being logic or description, but now I'm a lot more comfortable with it. People used to talk to me about breaking out of shells all the time, and I hated how they condescended by saying that and how they expected me to change according to their expectations like some cheesy princess Disney movie, where I magically roll over and change at the end. Ughhh....

But now I've practically accepted it.

So I guess my point is, anyone got some tips for making the most of my post-high school life (besides my career goals, which i already have planned out)? I've got literally no money, but tonight I just applied for a part-time job, so hopefully that will pan out. By the way, this friend of mine is also online, I can only talk to him on webcam, so technically I have no real friends. How can I remedy that? Anyone else going through the same crap?

I have Social Anxiety disorder, so you have a better chance at a social life then I do. My life is pretty boring, too. I have no goals, my self esteem is low due to my Social Anxiety, and I don't generally relate a lot to people of my own age. I attempted to explain to my 'best' friend and basically 'only' friend last night what Social Anxiety was. Baaadd idea. She's really outgoing and happy-go-lucky- I'm the opisite. She didn't understand it at all, to the point where she told me that it's a stupid disorder that isn't serious and I shouldn't complain about it. I never complain about it, in fact that is the first time I mentioned it to anyone other then my mum. I confided in her, and she completely ruined my trust and friendship for her. But I have no other choices, I can't not be friends with her; because having no friends at my school serves you nasty names and b*tching. And it is serious. Serious to the point that I pass out from fear of trying to ring someone on the phone. That basically leaves me no career options or job options because I can't act correctly around people if you get me... I just get scared and nervous and inevitably pass out. :\
Don't worry. You have a good chance of making friends and having a good time... I, on the other hand probablly don't. :(
Good luck. :)

Sorry. I just needed to vent. xD

EDIT: Now she's talking to me and acting all happy-la-de-da... Gosh I hate that. When someone says something really nasty and then they act like they never said it. -_-

EDIT 2: While I'm in a venting mood, I guess I'll talk about how she thinks Lucid dreaming is stupid, as well as my disorder.
I told her about LDing and she laughed and told me not to be stupid. I gave her the link to this site and she called me a nerd.
Yes, a nerd.

Wow, that sounds pretty bad. Do you see a psychiatrist or get any good help? I'm sure you could have a good life as well, don't give up.

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Originally Posted by DeeryTheDeer

Wow, that sounds pretty bad. Do you see a psychiatrist or get any good help? I'm sure you could have a good life as well, don't give up.

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I used too, but they don't seem to help me. They tell me a lot of stuff I already know, and they don't seem to understand it very well. It's like trying to understand what someone with an illness is going through. You never really understand until you have it too.

Thanks for your support. :)

I'm slightly like this except iv'e been to parties and stuff and have a few good friends, but I always feel like theres something holding me back thats stops me from relating to people. My parents know this and always give me advice about calling people up and arranging stuff, but tbh that only makes me feel worse. My mum said I'm slightly autistic the other day. Not sure if its true but i took a test on the internet and I came out fine. I also have self confidence issues even thought everyone (my moms friends two of my art teachers, family freinds and people on omegle) say that i'm good looking (sometimes I think I am and sometime I think I'm really really ugly).
I just want to break out of my shell as well. Dosn't help that I havn't had a proper gilfriend either (like one I mean not from year 7or 8, which is 13 and 14 years old)

well, it's funny because it's been kind of the reverse for me.

all the way up into the middle part of my college years i had a good social life. i had a handful of really good friends, girlfriends, a number of acquaintances, jobs...

then i moved back home and since then i haven't really cared about these things. the economy is pretty bad and hardly any places are hiring, so i'm out of work, and i just haven't been able to meet anybody. i've been caring less and less as a defense mechanism. i'm pretty happy with myself as an individual, i enjoy the solitude, and instead of feeling bad about my situation i just don't really give a fuck.

right now i can definitely relate to you regarding the boredom. for me it's manageable because half of the day i'm bored out of my mind, but the other half i'm outside enjoying nature or listening to music. for example, i love to mountain bike and i get a chance to do that every once in a while, and i go hang out at the beach sometimes.

i also have no spending money, which makes things difficult. i don't like alcohol so i don't go to bars, and i haven't had a weed connection for almost a year, so that cut out a portion of my ability to hang out with people with similar interests -__- and i've cut out some parts of my old life on purpose; i stopped doing anything that could get me into trouble just so i don't have to deal with any dickish people or worry because of it (like driving any more than is required or possessing drugs or whatever).

so i guess i've pulled away from the world a bit at the expense of having a more interesting life. for the time being maybe try to just accept it and be content with it just so you're not making yourself miserable. just get through this period of your life and it'll turn around somehow.

my social skills are fine, i just don't really try or care anymore. for me, i think the turning point will be when the job market improves and i can finally be employed again. having had both a boring life and a not-boring life i can see the advantages of both. just be aware that things change over time.

I'm still a quiet person, but I'm completely comfortable with that. Basically getting a part time job in a social environment helped me quite a bit with striking up conversations and getting to know new people, and then I was pretty much plunged into being social when I started university, where I ended up in a rather outgoing and loud social group somehow; I've retained my personality but I've learned to adapt it to social situations.

You are an aspiring filmaker, yes? Have you considered going to a good one-two year film school? They are all over the American countryside. Mind saying what state/country you live in? And that is a cool experience in itself. People that feel disillusioned after high school frequently go off to college and that's a great place to meet friends of similar interests. Plus, you may learn many important skills for your career choice

I will probably be going to one next year, actually.

Just my recommendation.

There are a number of pretty decent ones that cost somewhere around 5000. I don't know if you could do that or not, though.