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Well, I recently found out that my crush doesn't like me. I've been trying to get over him as quickly as possible. I've been wearing a rubber band on my wrist lately and snapping it at my wrist whenever I think of him. Is this smart or stupid? It seems to be working. It stops the thought instantly and I'm using it less and less. I am starting to feel uncomfortable when I'm not wearing it because it ends the thought so well. Is what I'm doing bad for me? |
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Dreaming permits each and every one of us to be quietly and safely insane every night of our lives.
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i think you need to listen to the man |
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you can't do that on the internet!.... wait yes you can do it again!
Well you would wanna keep the rubber band on for too long, depending on how tight it is... maybe pinching will do the trick too... As long as it doesn't progress to serious self-harm it's ok, but I don't suggest that technique for getting over someone. For not eating chocolate or quitting smoking, maybe, but I don't really think you should use it for getting over someone - if you are that lovesick that you hve to use a rubber band to stop thinking about him, then the chances are that your emotions etc will be really complicated, and you may end up relying on the rubber band, or a form of pain. |
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I think that only you know the ansewer, but I think that if it is just a crush, than you can over come it. But just fellow your heart. |
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I think the rubber band is okay, but I think it'd be better to replace it with something else. Make a list of things you'd rather think of than your ex-boyfriend. So, whenever a though of him pops into your head you can switch topics and dwell on something else. That should keep you from relying on something physical. |
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MAYBE THERE IS MORE TO IT THEN YOU THINK IF YOU FEEL YOU NEED A RUBBERBAND |
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I wish I could help you with getting over crushes and infatuations and shit, but I'm kind of there myself and none of what I have tried myself has worked... |
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I know it probably seems pathetic that I'm having trouble getting over him, but I do know him. We're in almost all the same classes. He's not just some random guy I never see and doesn't know I exist. I don't think the rubber band is too bad either. I think I just got attached to wearing it. (I'm weird like that) I still wear it, but I don't use it. It's not self-mutilation. It does not leave a mark. I don't enjoy the pain and when I did do it it was only when I thought of him. It's loose on my wrist so it's not too tight. As for my emotions being complicated... you couldn't be closer to the truth. Serval years ago I went out with a guy who broke up with me. I was only like ten so I was in denial. Since he never said why, I thought he might still like me and I kept liking him for a few more years. Turns out the a$$hole only went out with me because he didn't want me to feel bad. The whole incident has not had a positive effect on me to say the least. I guess one reason I'm so driven to get over this guy is I'm afraid it will happen again. Stupid I know. If I could be over him in an instant I would, but it doesn't work that way for me. |
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Dreaming permits each and every one of us to be quietly and safely insane every night of our lives.
-William Dement
I say feel what you need to but do not wallow in it. To get over anything you need to let feelings penetrate at some point. Just don't dwell too much. Its ok, you will find one out there that is right for you. As for the rubber band thing maybe its just a negative reminder too every time you look at it you think of him? |
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"One good thing about music, when it hits you, you feel no pain.
Hit me with music now, oh now, hit me with music, harder, brutalize me". Bob Marley.
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Ignorant bliss is an oxymoron; but so is miserable truth.
Relationships only get worse and more complicated as you get older get over it now and it will help you get over/sort things out in the future. No regrets! |
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^^yes..they complicate you're life so much more..sometimes i think its not even worth it untill like after college |
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Curiosity killed the cat but at least it didnt die an ignorant bastard
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Chinchilla, really, don't worry about it. Eventually the rubber band will just make you think of him, as you'll associate it with thinking about him. Just find something that will keep your mind occupied. Also, know that you've got friends here |
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"If there was one thing the lucid dreaming ninja writer could not stand, it was used car salesmen."
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Ignorant bliss is an oxymoron; but so is miserable truth.
kids that young dating is just unnatural, imo... |
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If I hadn't made me
I'd be more inclined to bow
Powers that be would have swallowed me up
But that's more than I can allow...
They already do do it. "Going out" with somebody was around in Year 1 (when you are like, 5 or something). |
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HAHA love in high school is so stupid the only reason high school kids are going out is for sex ( that excludes me im mature for my age ) i have people telling me to " hit " my girlfriend is just change the conversation to the weather or Donald Trump's hair. but most of my friends have had sex and i don't discredit them for that i just don't want to get into a serious relationship until like after high school and maybe after i get a good job |
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ok first of all I'm fourteen not ten, this happened to me when I was ten. Going out means being bf and gf basically. Didn't you guys have crushes when you were ten? I remember people other people who "went out" when they were ten. Your age only affects how you make your decisions because you don't have as much experience, but not much else. I mean you still have the same feelings and stuff. Are you trying to tell me that if I like a guy and he likes me we shouldn't be bf and gf just because we're not old enough? That's crazy. I know high school relationships don't usually last, but so what? Being in a relationship is like walking on air, it's one of the most wonderful things in the world. Shouldn't we get to experience it? The mistake I made when I was younger was not "going out" with him. It was with not accepting the truth. I do know the guy I have a crush on, we're friends. As for getting over the guy I like now I can't just snap my fingers and make my feelings go away. I want to stop liking him that should be obvious, but I know it's going to take time. |
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Dreaming permits each and every one of us to be quietly and safely insane every night of our lives.
-William Dement
I did have many, many, many crushes when I was younger, especially in 6th grade. As we all know, "love" is a topic that is so difficult to understand, namely because there are so many ways that it is used. In the context of b/fs and g/fs, it is something where the full impact of what it means doesn't happen until later in life. I'm not saying that having one in middle school is necessarily a bad thing, it can just be misunderstood. In middle school there's only so much two people can do (within the boundaries of decency) and, I mean no offense, people of that age don't need to be so focused on having a partner. Go out and enjoy life! (while you still can) |
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"If there was one thing the lucid dreaming ninja writer could not stand, it was used car salesmen."
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