Bad/good lucid dreams

I've been having a series of lucid dreams through the past two weeks but its not all that pleasant as it may seem, don't get me wrong I love having lucid dreams but somethings wrong. I will go to sleep with a clear head not really thinking about anything and my dreams keep digging up people I miss and love that aren't with me anymore. When I'm asleep it's the best thing of my life sometimes, like for example this girl I fell in love with we parted ways and a couple days ago I had a dream about her and someone else being together and her being at my house with him and the guy asking me to be happy for them both. Oh course I am but imagine how that feels. These dreams are real is what I am feeling they are so horridly vivid I can't bear it. Then the next night I have a dream where it's just me and her together and were just so happy and then I wake up. It's just terrible I felt so complete and then so empty. I don't even know what to think about all this. Any help?

Ah dude I can totally relate, last night I was with a girl who I used to see, and in the dream she was with another guy, which I was cool with, but after remembering it in the morning it brought up so many past memories and emotions, leaving me kind of empty inside.

Thinking about it now though, the night before this dream I was going through some personal and quite emotional shit, I really wanted some guidance, someone to give a helping hand. Then I have a dream about her for the first time in ages, someone who I really respect and learnt so much from, just being with her made me feel good again, but then waking up took it all away.

Though I guess if you change your perspective on it, you can turn the negative into a positive, for instance I was feeling really down, needed some guidance, so my dream decided to let me see and be with someone who I used to take guidance from, someone who made me feel protected... it just depends how you take it when you wake up. I could have thought "ohh what a nice dream, I feel good now", but instead took it like "ohh what a nice dream, though too bad it werent real and im back in this shit hole without her!" lol!

But I feel for you man, it's not always nice seeing people from your past, kicking up past emotions and thoughts, and shit, but then again... is it? because you will never get to experience that again, or be with them again, or experience that exact same situation again, only in your dreams can you, I guess thats a gift we are all given.

I can certainly relate. When my dog of 16 years passed, he would show up in my lucid dreams quite regularly. It was so nice to see him again but it also made me sooo freakin sad, and I didn't have the heart to try and remove him from my dreams. I have also had many many lucid dreams involving ex-bfs, where I miss them so much in the dream, and am really happy to be back with them during that time, and feel sad after waking up. However normally, I do not think about or miss these exes at all, nor do I have any desire to get back together with them. So I think it's more of a subconscious mechanism to achieve some sort of emotional release rather than stemming from any rational thought processes, since often times these experiences may not reflect how you actually feel about a person. I used to call them bubble dreams...because they are nice while they are going on, but when you wake up...it feels like someone just burst your bubble. :(

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I do not think about or miss these exes at all, nor do I have any desire to get back together with them. So I think it's more of a subconscious mechanism to achieve some sort of emotional release rather than stemming from any rational thought processes, since often times these experiences may not reflect how you actually feel about a person.

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Totally agree with this. What I wanted to say but in better words lol

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I used to call them bubble dreams...because they are nice while they are going on, but when you wake up...it feels like someone just burst your bubble. :(

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Lol arr too true. I guess it's not healthy to live endlessly in a bubble, at some point they have to burst. You just don't realise how much you will miss something until its gone.

I totally feel you on this. Happens to me in many dreams, I will be with someone who I have always wanted to be friends with or dating or what not. Then in lucids when i try to bring the in the dream it does not work. It is weird, maybe my sub conscious is trying to tell me something?

Sadly this has happened to be as well. I wake up feeling very depressed, it ruins most of my day to say the least. There isn't much you can do about this, if lucid you can avoid the whole situation but otherwise you're stuck in a dream of utter misery. Try not to think about these people before going to bed, often you are thinking about them subconsciously and not even realizing it. More often I've heard we dream about what's been on our minds but this isn't always the case for most of us. Think about something you want to dream about before going to bed each night and eventually that will be what you dream about, hopefully there won't be any room to dream about other thoughts.