How old is your daughter?
First let me reassure you of several things. First, and you probably understand this already, but it can help to hear it from somebody else - dreams are not literal. They're symbolic. Death in a dream does not literally mean someone will die. Your dreaming mind just comes up with symbols to represent your thoughts and fears. Death frequently represents a transition from one stage of life to another, or some similar kind of change. Parents, especially mothers, frequently dream of losing their children simply because eventually they will no longer be your children and you can't get away from that fact. They will grow up, and even before they do, they sometimes go out into the world (to school or to friends' houses, whatever) and you're not always able to protect her as much as you wish you could. This is the second thing I want to reassure you about - that these kind of dreams are very common and represent very normal parental fears and anxieties. You want to be able to completely protect her, but in reality that of course isn't possible. And that quite understandably causes a great deal of fear and anxiety.
And the third thing - the fact that frequently you wake up to hear her calling or crying. I know this can make it seem as if something paranormal is happening - as if you're both dreaming the same thing or somehow sensing each other's thoughts and fears. But there are very prosaic and ordinary reasons it could be happening - the first one that comes to mind (aside from what DawnEye already said) being that it's quite likely you're crying out in your sleep or making some kind of terrified noise that wakes her, and she understands that you're afraid and experiencing something terrible, so that frightens her. She might not know what's waking her - if you hear a nose in your seep that wakes you often you don't know what woke you, but if it was a loved one's voice filled with anxiety and terror, that understandably will make you afraid. I think this is probably what wakes her in fear. Your dreams sound like what are called anxiety nightmares, which as the name implies, happen when you're filled with anxiety. It causes terrible dreams from which you wake with a start and often an audible gasp or even short little scream or verbal noise of some kind. The other possibility that occurs to me is that she could also be experiencing anxiety dreams and waking frequently in terror just like you are. If you're experiencing this level of anxiety in your dreams, then it's also there wen you're awake, though you might keep it under wraps fairly well then. But trust me, a daughter will know if her mother is filled with terror or anxiety, and it will fill her with it as well. Just as you know when she's afraid and it makes you afraid too. So she might well be picking up your anxiety and having the same kind of troubled, frequently interrupted sleep you are.
And finally I want to explain that water in dreams can represent the unconscious, overwhelming emotions (essentially the same thing as the unconscious really), or just simply the unknown.So your daughter repeatedly being lost and drowned in water sounds like it represents your fears of losing her to the big bad world that you can't control. The great mysteries of life that lie ahead for her as she grows up, for which you can at least prepare her even if you can't always be there to protect her.
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