Do not rush to do anything! Stabilize first.
Do not take other's experiences as ABSOLUTE truth. Everyone is different.
Do not buy into others fears or hang ups about dreams. Dreams are much more stable, long lasting, vivid, and enjoyable that reading on DV might lead your to believe. The problems get endless discussion while the successes get "good for you" and forgotten.
From what I've seen on DV, if your are female, go ahead if you really want to have LD sex. It is less likely to wake a female up than a male. If it does wake you up, just go back to sleep!
Do not submit to rampant fear UNLESS you want to face some scary shit!
Do not GIVE UP!
