I agree that hate only hurts you and everyone around you. Being upset and angry can be a good thing and can force you to act in productive manners, however hating people and holding grudges doesn't help you at all. If someone makes a mistake, and they admit it and take steps to prevent them self from making the mistake again in the future, what does holding a grudge do?
I think what is really required to solve our problems is understanding. With understanding we can tell why people do what they do, and we can correct the problems we face together. I truly believe in forgiving everyone for anything without exclusion. Even if a person commits murder, if there is a way to ensure they will not harm anyone in the future, I will forgive even them. That is not to say we should let people run free and do anything we want, because we shouldn't. We should defend ourselves but we shouldn't defend our self out of hate, which leads us to committing our own crimes against the people we hate.
Violence and things like jail are things we resort to when we have a break down of communication and understanding. It is what we resort to when we have given up and have nothing left to do. Since we can not currently solve all issues, we rely on them way to often. However we also resort to those things even when we do have understanding, like how we throw people with medical conditions into jail. Ideally we should never resort to violence no matter what, and we shouldn't have jails at all. All problems in the world can be fixed through communication and understanding where the other person is coming from.
So when you can forgive and try to solve differences of opinions, and things people do to each other on purpose, forgiving mistakes and accidents should come even easier. If a person did something and they didn't even mean to do it, then why punish them, why hurt them? They didn't mean to do it, it was just a lack of understanding. If a kid lights a fire and burns down a house by accident, what does throwing them into jail solve? Nothing. They know they are wrong, and teaching them the dangers of fire can be done. If they now understanding their mistake, and there is no chance of them doing it again, the only reasonable thing is to forgive them.
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