Originally Posted by Dianeva
What would the difference be between "adapting personas" and "changing personalities"? if adapting personas involves temporarily changing one's way of thinking, I don't know what more extreme change personality-altering could bring.
To be fair, there is a constant personality in my head while not interacting with people, and I suppose the fact that I change it while talking to someone is the 'consideration' even though very little of it is done consciously.
I think you already answered your own question, but I'll add some more anyway:
I don't think a healthy person ever changes her core personality. That core is who you are, based on a unique mix of genetic, intellectual, spiritual, emotional, and environmental factors that together equal "you." Call it your identity. The baseline of this identity really does not change much, even though you might add wisdom or behavior to it, as Woodstock notes above. No matter how elaborate the personas you affect in order to communicate with others might be, you will still "know," ultimately, that they are personas. You might go through life never "being yourself" in public, but ultimately you know -- sometimes after more than a little introspection -- that there is still a core "self" that differs from your projections.
I think that the only people who truly do lose touch with their core personalities tend to land in psychiatric care, with diagnoses like schizophrenia or psychosis.
All of this has made me realize that 'independence' wouldn't work, not unless you wanted to be disliked by almost everyone, and I doubt many people practice it fully. For example, someone brings up a subject which you honestly don't care about. You tell them you don't care and change the subject (if you did otherwise that would be 'consideration'). That person will be upset. If you're meeting the person for the first time they'll probably never try to talk to you again, and even if they're an established friend they'll gradually start to dislike you. Even that specific example probably happens regularly in any conversation between two people. The only exception might be in close relationships in which brutal honesty is important, and even then it would just be kind of mean if you care about the person.
Correct again, I think. I also think that human interaction depends on the "consideration" of projected personas or, at the least, things like tongue-biting and feigned interest. We are all incredibly complex individuals, and to expose that complexity immediately upon strangers without some sort of buffer would likely put a real damper on establishing relationships. Hell, that buffer of consideration even needs to be present in the most established of relationships.
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