Originally Posted by LouaiB
Yes.
But, what if the partner wouldn't understand something, and being honest about it will only bring negative results?(Assuming you didn't do anything wrong)
Often, people underestimate what the other person is able to understand. If you don't tell them, they will never understand. If you tell them, they might and if they do, your relationship will become so much tighter. If they don't, there is two possible reasons.
1. They are not worth it. They don't have the necessary compassion/empathy/understanding. You two don't fit together on that level of intimacy and that is why you could of not told them in the first place. You're not close enough.
2. You're negative for them. For example, you cheated on your partner. They make the reasonable decision that you are a negative person and that they don't want to be with you anymore. It was a good thing of you to give them the ability to make an informed choice of whether to stay with you or not. If in this case, you don't want them to resent you and you know it's not gonna be their fault, it's your fault, then you should consider becoming the person that you want them to believe you are.
When we say white lies, we just take the easy way out. By doing this, you are taking away a moment for the two parties to live, a perhaps awkward, but deepening moment. If the two people are ready to try to sit down and understand the other person, then the relationship will become better.
Another point worth considering are unequal relationships like that of a parent and a kid. Parents are often unwilling to empathize with a kid's misconduct and will get incredibly mad for thing that aren't that bad according to the kid or society. In those situations, the parents' stance is understandable. They want their kids to make the best decisions and they don't know how to motivate them to make the best choices. Kid's should take responsibility for their actions and confess what they have done, and accept the consequences. If a kid doesn't not do that, they drive themselves away from their family creating superficial relationships. If the child, however, confesses, sure the parent will be disappointed and will get really mad, but in the long run, they will gain trust in their child, knowing that whatever they do, they will tell them. This way a strong relationship is built and once the kid becomes an adult and leaves, the relationship becomes an equal relationship that resembles that of friends. If you have a strong relationship, saying the truth, even if it creates negative results, will only build trust and intimacy.
If you must use white lies to allow a relationship to continue, then go for it. It's just a relationship that lacks intimacy and is not as strong as a relationship where there is only honesty.
Also, the people (such as parents) which might get the most affected by your hidden truth are often people who love you and will continue to love you regardless of if they have a tantrum when the figure it out.
EDIT
I want to add: people don't lie with the intention of diminishing the relationship's value. They do so by fear. But this fear of not being accepted by the other person has the consequence to separate the two parties (by this fear and lack of understanding of what the other person's life is really like)
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