Different Kinds Of Love

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10-28-2006, 08:40 AM
Rav1

Fatherly love, motherly love, friendly love, brotherly/sisterly love, love for god, love for patria...

Why do we divide Love into so many sub-love? Don't we misinterpret Love with a :
1. pure addiction to something (e.g. dreaming) - I adore dreaming...I feel so relaxed
2. feeling of obligation (e.g. parents) - they have brought me up...I must care of them
3. enchantment and desire (e.g. boyfriend/girlfriend) - you body is so perfect...it turns me on
4. ...

What, is there one Love or several of them? Any suggestions?
10-28-2006, 10:20 AM
Keeper

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Originally Posted by Rav1

Fatherly love, motherly love, friendly love, brotherly/sisterly love, love for god, love for patria...

Why do we divide Love into so many sub-love? Don't we misinterpret Love with a :
1. pure addiction to something (e.g. dreaming) - I adore dreaming...I feel so relaxed
2. feeling of obligation (e.g. parents) - they have brought me up...I must care of them
3. enchantment and desire (e.g. boyfriend/girlfriend) - you body is so perfect...it turns me on
4. ...

What, is there one Love or several of them? Any suggestions?
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good question. Well, there ARE different kinds of love. Do you feel the same way about your mother as you do your girlfriend? Your brother/sister(s) as your dog? You love them all, but in different ways.
10-28-2006, 11:43 AM
Neruo

Love is kind of relative. If I have a good conservation with someone I hardly know, I probably would feel bad if he got killed by piano right before my feet. Is that friendship? Is that love?

If some silly girls get all freaky over some boyband? Is that love?

If I like my favorite chair, is that love?

Or if I love it to hate someone I dislike, what is that?
10-28-2006, 11:47 AM
Merlock

There is only one true love - for the one and only person in the world that you care for more than for life. For the one you would die for without a single thought and care for always, no matter what.

The other types of affection are simply that - care. Parents care for their children, friends care for each other. But it is not love. For the most powerful feeling in the world is only shared with one special person.
10-28-2006, 01:43 PM
Slight

I am with Merlock.
There sure are emotions/feelings that could all go in the category of love. But the true love, the real true love - if you find it - is the only thing that can really be called love.
The rest - relation to parents and brothers/sisters - is extreme care. Not just care how people would talk about it, but extreme care.
The problem is that people refer to too many they know as friends and loveable partners - even though that wouldn't acutally be the true definition of their relation .. they just didn't grind deep enough.
That's why there's often not a big difference between a partner and a friend ...
10-28-2006, 03:58 PM
Keeper

I dont know ... I would die for the One I Love, but I would also die for my sister, mom, dad, friends, extended family, and someone who is about to get ridden over on the street. I Love them all, and each one is special.

The greeks even gave love different names ... Eros, Agape, Philipho (not right spelling).

I sapose it breakes down to weather you think "love" is only a atraction between men and woman, or something we all expreience.

What IS Love?
10-28-2006, 05:02 PM
ExoByte

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Originally Posted by Merlock

There is only one true love - for the one and only person in the world that you care for more than for life. For the one you would die for without a single thought and care for always, no matter what.

The other types of affection are simply that - care. Parents care for their children, friends care for each other. But it is not love. For the most powerful feeling in the world is only shared with one special person.
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I strongly disagree.

I have 2 of my closest friends, that I have litterally known since birth. We are so amazingly close its unexplainable. We would each die for each other, we would kill for each other. The bond is so amazingly strong, so unexplainable... I truely do love them.

Its a feeling you have to know to understand, it must be experianced. Its just not possible to explain otherwise. Its such an intense feeling, such a strong feeling, its overwhelming.

Even when we are apart, we can feel each other's pain or emotions. Happyness, sadness... its like a sixth sense to us.

I cant really say anymore, its far too difficult to explain.
10-28-2006, 05:09 PM
Keeper

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Originally Posted by ExoByte

I strongly disagree.

I have 2 of my closest friends, that I have litterally known since birth. We are so amazingly close its unexplainable. We would each die for each other, we would kill for each other. The bond is so amazingly strong, so unexplainable... I truely do love them.

Its a feeling you have to know to understand, it must be experianced. Its just not possible to explain otherwise. Its such an intense feeling, such a strong feeling, its overwhelming.

Even when we are apart, we can feel each other's pain or emotions. Happyness, sadness... its like a sixth sense to us.

I cant really say anymore, its far too difficult to explain.
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You dont need to. Though I can never really recall experiancing, I know what it feels like. Dont ask me how, but its like a ... a half forgoten memory. That kind of bond is spiecial, and very enviable.
10-28-2006, 10:52 PM
Slight

That's probably the point .. you have to know those kind of things by experience to understand them. Not everyone made the same experiences .. for one the love of/to a partner gave him everything - so much more that has ever been given to this person by a friend .. and the other way around .. so views are different on the whole topic of "different kinds of love" just because of experience..
10-29-2006, 11:57 AM
jacobo

the word love is tossed around too much.

in all my life i've only loved two things.

-my mother.
-my sister.

in my opinion the word has been used so much that it doesn't retain the same meaning as it once did.

love is what happens when you know (beyond a doubt) that you will kill and dispose of a motha fucka if he/she messes with the one you love... anythign else is bullshit infatuation.
10-29-2006, 12:53 PM
Rav1

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Originally Posted by jacobo

the word love is tossed around too much.

in all my life i've only loved two things.

-my mother.
-my sister.

in my opinion the word has been used so much that it doesn't retain the same meaning as it once did.

love is what happens when you know (beyond a doubt) that you will kill and dispose of a motha fucka if he/she messes with the one you love... anythign else is bullshit infatuation.
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Infatuation...maybe you're right about it. So is it useless to look for the Love...?
10-29-2006, 02:44 PM
Howie

Wow. Love.
When you put it into context to yourself and the many different situations it really makes you think.
Is love unconditional?
I suppose in our deranged development of a mind, each person can define love differently. Can you love an inadament object or a game more than a person? I think some do. It seems some people love a cause/purpose more than an individual.
Love can be segmented in so many ways.

I think it is true when it was said that it is tossed around too much.
There is even arguments for a love<>hate relationship. I have seen this myself (from other people, thank god.)
I don't understand it, but I also don't understand an obsession either.
Where does obsession and compulsiveness begin? When are you an addict and not just a user?
:?: :?: :?: :?: :P
10-29-2006, 04:02 PM
Rav1

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Originally Posted by Howetzer

Wow. Love.
When you put it into context to yourself and the many different situations it really makes you think.
Is love unconditional?
I suppose in our deranged development of a mind, each person can define love differently. Can you love an inadament object or a game more than a person? I think some do. It seems some people love a cause/purpose more than an individual.
Love can be segmented in so many ways.

I think it is true when it was said that it is tossed around too much.
There is even arguments for a love<>hate relationship. I have seen this myself (from other people, thank god.)
I don't understand it, but I also don't understand an obsession either.
Where does obsession and compulsiveness begin? When are you an addict and not just a user?
:?: :?: :?: :?: :P
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As I have gained from my own experience, and not only, the line between love and hatred is very thin...is that ok? I don't think so, something is missing in our world.
10-29-2006, 05:12 PM
shark!

im with Keeper. maybe we should go back to speaking greek? instead of saying love, love, love or love...we could say agapo, eros, philia or storge. that makes it all so much easier!

agapo is the "true love" thing yur talking about...the kind of love you have that youd die for the person you love. "Eros" is the passionatelove type, of your g/f or something. philia is the friendship one, and storge is the parents to kid type love.

Idont know what love for a chair would be though?
10-29-2006, 05:52 PM
Rav1

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Originally Posted by ;329994

im with Keeper. maybe we should go back to speaking greek? instead of saying love, love, love or love...we could say agapo, eros, philia or storge. that makes it all so much easier!

agapo is the "true love" thing yur talking about...the kind of love you have that youd die for the person you love. "Eros" is the passionatelove type, of your g/f or something. philia is the friendship one, and storge is the parents to kid type love.

Idont know what love for a chair would be though?
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I beg you pardon...Love for a chair wasn't my invention anyway.