Great article. I really dislike when people always label me as shy. If I have nothing to say, I ain't going to say anything. The small talk, I don't mind but it's awkward. Sometimes I can be very extrovert which surprises people.
Great article. I really dislike when people always label me as shy. If I have nothing to say, I ain't going to say anything. The small talk, I don't mind but it's awkward. Sometimes I can be very extrovert which surprises people.
Inside every extrovert there's an introvert.
I'm an introvert but I do enjoy socializing. Just on a lesser scale. It seems that most people in the worlds are extroverts.
Same thing here. Sometimes, because I'm bothered from being labeled shy so much, I try and make small talk. But there's nothing to say.Quote:
Originally Posted by velvet
That could go both ways. :)Quote:
Originally Posted by ClouD
well this makes me feel pretty good about myself!
I always kind of thought I was introverted, but wasn't sure because it wasn't a matter of being shy or afraid to talk to people, but more of a matter of not wanting to waste my time with meaningless small talk. This helps I guess... now I know i'm introverted, but not in a bad way :D
Another thing any extrovert should know is that introversion does not mean that one is unhappy with life :)
Atleast I've found that to be exactly the opposite in many cases.
Surely, most people on an online philosophy forum would be introverts hehe
lol that is probably true.i find i can communicate without actually having to be in contact with others....it is very peaceful.:)
Yeah there was a time when I thought that it's what I wanted, but it didn't make things better. When I have the oppurtunity to talk to someone usualy it's like why should I, it won't cheer me up or make me more energetic feeling.
Glad so many people enjoyed reading that article. :D Definitely enlightening - to both sides, even.
I am an introvert and you know what i hate? Akward silences. When you are sitting there with just 1 of your friends, usually of the opposite sex, and you try to talk to do small talk with them because they are more extroverted, and you will talk about something for a minute and then its just quiet, and you cant think of anything good to say. And whenever you do they are just short little conversations with no meaning. I hate it! That's why i have not ever had any success with women is because i never have enough in common with them to talk about. Gah! I'm not getting married
All i have to say is extroverts can be very frustrating, wanting to be pleased all the time
Awkward silences are a great oppotunity for gaining social points. Because an awkward silence is ordinarily uncomfortable for people, if you can look secure at that moment like it's no big deal at all, it makes you look extra secure. That is the type of thing women generally respond to, not how well you click with them through common interests.Quote:
Originally Posted by Hercuflea
how are you supposed to "look secure"
I would have considered myself a balance until I read that article. I'm a pretty social, talkative guy, just not very often. The truth, is, it really does last for only a short time. I always end up getting worn out. That's why I cut through the bullshit of the day-to-day and though I love talking and relating to people some find me unsettling.
I try to relate to my environment earnestly, and inevitably I come off as strange to some people, no doubt. But I come off as very cool to myself and those that choose to hang around me have a ball.
Look like you have no worries. Show zero signs of being self-conscious. Act like it "ain't no thing" and you are enjoying the moment.Quote:
Originally Posted by Hercuflea
Look at her knockers for 3 seconds, then pretend nothing happened and continue the conversation with her name and a question.
thats the problem
i always get stuck in one of those silences, so i usually end up not being able to think about something to talk about, or just get up and leave
and it doesn't help that they dont add to the convo either
I know what you mean. It's not easy. I am only attracted to the kind of women that I don't have much to talk to about, and that is a real bitch. I make great friends with women I relate to. We always end up really clicking and having plenty to talk about. But it is the rock groupie cheerleader Girls Gone Wild type that I want to sleep with. Female intellect that I relate to is a big intellectual turn on for me but, very unfortunately, it is a big sexual turn off. That has always made good relationships impossible for me. I had to teach myself how to connect with bimbos emotionally since it is completely impossible for me to connect with them intellectually. It sounds like you have the same issue on your hands.Quote:
Originally Posted by Hercuflea
What you need to keep in mind the most is that the kind of woman I am talking about is not reached intellectually. Don't ever think you can impress them with anything having to do with intelligence other than the power that can result from it. They are attracted to the signs of power and a man's ability to talk to their emtions, and nothing else. That is it right there. Body language and the the way you use your voice are far more important to them than the content of what you are saying. It is hard to see that, and they don't even realize it themselves. They think they are responding to the content of what you are saying, but it is the more subtle things that are reaching them. You have to learn how to use body language to connect with them. Like I said, it is not easy.
One way to be perceived as having a great deal of power without necessarily doing that much is to be in a rock band. It is the best magic trick there is when it comes to getting women. You don't even have to be that talented. Just get together a rock band that doesn't completely suck, have at least a touch of rebellious image, and play a few places so people can have at least heard of your band. It works wonders. Every rock star will tell you the same thing.
i get what your saying man, usually the women i am attracted to are the ones i dont have much of a chance with. AAARRGGHHH why do they have to be so illogical?
And the body language thing, too. I personally think that i have gotten very good at reading body language over the years, but i dont like it when people read me, so i sort of refrain from using it most of the time, unless at the moment i just dont care...
Good suggestion on the rock band thing, once a few of my friends and i tried to make one, but it just didnt work out because we all had different tastes, but i am an ok bass player and i could get much better with practice, i just need to find some people to get together with
That's all it takes. :lol: For real. But the betterQuote:
Originally Posted by Hercuflea
you getyour reputation for bass playing gets or the more fanship your band gets, the hotter the bimbos you can get.
kind of focused on a specific person atm
Make sure she doesn't find that out. Make her interested in you, and then act like you might be interested in her.Quote:
Originally Posted by Hercuflea
idk how to make her interested...she would be my first
Man, use your bass guitar. Start a band, play some gigs, and be known. It will work wonders.Quote:
Originally Posted by Hercuflea
can anyone else help
You will not get any better suggestions than what I told you. If this is a shallow bimbo you are talking about, you are going to have to play silly games. There is no way around that.Quote:
Originally Posted by Hercuflea