No. You're doing everything right, it seems. Don't let your parents misguided convictions determine your lifestyle. |
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Hello DV This is my first post, so forgive me if this is in the wrong place. |
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No. You're doing everything right, it seems. Don't let your parents misguided convictions determine your lifestyle. |
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The worst thing that can happen to a good cause is, not to be skillfully attacked, but to be ineptly defended. - Frédéric Bastiat
I try to deny myself any illusions or delusions, and I think that this perhaps entitles me to try and deny the same to others, at least as long as they refuse to keep their fantasies to themselves. - Christopher Hitchens
Formerly known as BLUELINE976
Obviously no one on this site will tell you there's anything even remotely wrong or "deviant" with anything you've mentioned. You shouldn't need the validation of some random internet people anyway. |
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Congratulations on escaping the grasp of a cult. Your parents are not infallible and quite frankly sound completely brainwashed. |
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You =/= parents. You and your parents are 3 completly different people. If they wont let you do what YOU want, who cares, your not living with them anymore. Shrug it off and enjoy life without worrying about what other people think. |
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You sound like a thoughtful, intelligent, sensible person with a seemingly fabulous boyfriend. |
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It's not necessarily validation I'm looking for. I'm honestly just curious. I'm only just barely coming out of my sheltered lifestyle. I'm still young, only a sophomore in college. I'd never even seen any of the things I've experienced recently until I left home. And I'm still in Utah. It's not only my parents, but friends, teachers, and other adults who tell me that what I'm doing is not "normal," assuming that rebellious falls under the category of "not normal" and I fall under the category of "rebellious." I'm just trying to figure out why exactly my parents think I'm in the minority here when I feel they, as extremely conservative Mormons, are in the minority by the world's standards. |
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Last edited by Namaste111; 07-21-2011 at 06:58 AM.
What you're experiencing is pretty normal for alot of people your age regardless of religious background. Even if your parents were atheists and swingers, they'd almost certainly have some ideas and expectations about how you will live your life. It's pretty typical for some kind of falling out, or at least distancing, to occur in early adulthood, when all either party can see are the differences, often felt as a kind of rejection, in each other's lifestyles. There's generally not much you can do about it except try not to introduce new bitterness to the relationship, and give it time. |
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If you have a sense of caring for others, you will manifest a kind of inner strength in spite of your own difficulties and problems. With this strength, your own problems will seem less significant and bothersome to you. By going beyond your own problems and taking care of others, you gain inner strength, self-confidence, courage, and a greater sense of calm.Dalai Lama
If you have a sense of caring for others, you will manifest a kind of inner strength in spite of your own difficulties and problems. With this strength, your own problems will seem less significant and bothersome to you. By going beyond your own problems and taking care of others, you gain inner strength, self-confidence, courage, and a greater sense of calm.Dalai Lama
Actually, sometimes it is. It's not healthy to have people in your life that actively try to control and brainwash you. An adult chooses who they associate with. If this person's parents are causing her misery, then they should be discommunicated (once it's financially possible). |
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It is not EVIL to not be religious. You simply have your own thoughts, rather than allowing outside human influence to determine what you believe. |
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---o--- my DCs say I'm dreamy.
From what the OP has told us so far, her parents have taken no extraordinary steps. The tone of her posts struck me less as "misery" than annoyance. By your standards, roughly 75% of all humans should declare themselves orphans at age eighteen. |
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If you have a sense of caring for others, you will manifest a kind of inner strength in spite of your own difficulties and problems. With this strength, your own problems will seem less significant and bothersome to you. By going beyond your own problems and taking care of others, you gain inner strength, self-confidence, courage, and a greater sense of calm.Dalai Lama
Maybe I overreacted to your post, but it just brought up imagery of 40 year olds that are still slaves to their parents because they can't see the simple truth that they're being made miserable by them. |
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I agree with Taosaur. My parents are agnostic and once I moved out of their home and out of State they nagged me about everything. When I became one of Jehovah's Witnesses, they nearly stopped communicating with me because *gasp* I wouldn't celebrate holidays. |
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I am a Christian and I have a 6 year old daughter. We are bringing her up in the church where we are very active and she attends a private Christian school. Some people on here will say i'm a bad parent or whatever and that is fine for them to believe what they want. Anyhow, I don't look down on people of other religions or people who don't believe at all. I wasn't raised that way. Now to get on to your question, you need to do what you feel is right. Now that you are 19 you are a young adult. If my daughter left the church when she became older, yes i would be disappointed with her decision but it would be her decision. i would still love her and i would still treat her as my daughter. It sounds like your parents are much more strict then we are. I think you need to sit down with your parents and have a heart to heart with them because they are your parents. I think you need to stay true to your beliefs as well as try to patch things up with them. I'm sure they care about you and want whats best for you and that may be the reason why they are acting this way. Show them who you have become and that you aren't a "bad" person. Really talk to them about it. It was probably a major shock to them that you left the church and they probably still need time to get over that but in the long run if they truely love you and care about you they will come aorund. |
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Live to fish, fish to live!
"Being rebellious" is when you're deliberately doing something to spite someone. Mormon parents could easily label what you're doing as rebellious, but the truth is, you're peacefully following your own path. Their disappointment in you is the "brown glasses" they look at all your actions through, and like they say, if you're wearing brown glasses, even roses look like shit. |
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