I understand what you are saying, VinceField. |
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There are two aspects of this forum which seem cool and fun, but may actually be detrimental to the members' overall spiritual development. These are the "like" feature and the "achievements" feature. These two elements have the potential unfortunate side effect of bloating a person's ego. I do see a degree of usefulness to these features, but at the same time I believe this usefulness is countered by the risk of inflating the ego. I myself would initially sometimes find a feeling of pleasure arising when my posts got "liked," and although luckily I have developed the mindfulness to understand the source of this unskillful pride and am able to quickly eliminate it to the point where it no longer arises, I'm not sure everyone here is capable of this, or even sees the benefit in doing so. I'm willing to bet that some members actually feed off the likes and achievement awards. In this way, these features are not conductive to spiritual growth. |
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I understand what you are saying, VinceField. |
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I agree with gab. And getting likes doesn't have to make someone prideful. For example, if I made a post that got likes, that means what I said helped some people, which is great, helping people feels good by itself, there's no need to be prideful about it. |
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I use the 'likes' feature as a reminder of where I am: if I get wound up in fruitless, and very heated, debates about something, I will generally not receive any likes (because likes are normally not given in battle), and so my ratio of posts to likes goes the wrong way. If on the other hand, I help people out by giving useful and friendly responses, this ratio goes the right way. |
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So ... is this the real universe, or is it just a preliminary study?
That's right, it doesn't have to cause pride. It's a matter of belief and perspective. |
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In a long or ongoing thread, I sometimes use "likes" as bookmarks so I can remember how far I've gotten when I come back to the thread later. Otherwise I can end up re-reading a lot of the same posts without remembering I've already done so! |
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Last edited by Verre; 03-17-2015 at 07:58 PM.
Yes, I agree that there is a degree of usefulness to these functions, and I myself use the "like" button. Of course, I never use it to make a person feel special in some way, as that is just instigating a false sense of pride for the recipient. I use it to express agreement, as I believe this provides evidence to the person that their view is correct and beneficial. |
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I think some positive reinforcement is not such a bad thing. Provided that the "good" thing we are rewarded for is truly good in universal sense, not just a narrow cultural thing. How else would a child learn what is righ and wrong? |
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I don't view things as "good" or "bad" either, but rather as "skillful" and "unskillful." That which is skillful leads to the further development of wholesome and pure states of mind, whereas that which is unskillful leads to a further defiling of the mind, or in other words, encouraging the development of attachment, aversion, and/or delusion and thus increasing the mind's harmful egoic tendencies. The concepts of good and bad are irrelevant from this perspective. |
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I forgot to mention the "LD Count" category under the member's profile pictures can also foster unskillful attachments. One could easily develop identification issues surrounding this, becoming attached to a fabricated sense of a self who has had x amount of lucid dreams and the rest of the labels that go along with it, or developing a desire to increase the number of lucid dreams they have simply to give the impression of being a skilled lucid dreamer. |
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Last edited by VinceField; 03-18-2015 at 03:46 PM.
^^ I don't know. I've found some value in the "LD Count" field that does not include an ego boost. For instance, it is a real time-saver when responding to a posted question, as I will tend to answer a member with a very low count differently than a person with a very high count, because I have a feel for their experience. It also lends a note of credibility to a post (i.e., if someone asks, say, a difficult WILD question, and a member with little to no experience responds, there is a good chance that that response might be lacking -- and it often is). Yes, all this depends on those counts being honestly posted, but to date I've encountered very few members who inflate their numbers just to impress (their inexperience is invariably betrayed in their posts, BTW), and no, I've never gotten the impression that the majority of members are doing this for an ego boost, though I am sure that happens. |
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Last edited by Sageous; 03-18-2015 at 07:21 PM.
Yes, I agree that there is some usefulness in all of these features. All the same, the risks I speak of are real and can go undetected if one is not mindful. |
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I think it's probably a moot point on this forum. I'll also say I've joined a couple of forums dedicated to meditation when I first became more serious, and it doesn't take Likes, Achievement Icons or any other such thing to bring out ego. Even in some very hard-core and well-versed practitioners. |
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So if people who diligently train to eliminate their ego are still so easily swayed by it, imagine the potential influence of an ego with no imposed restrictions or monitoring. |
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My understanding of ego (self) |
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Very interesting! I'm glad people are taking the time to think about this stuff. It's healthy to know why we do things and why we respond in certain ways. |
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It can but doesn't have to. There are lots of shades of gray between total attachment & aversion and total lack of attachment and aversion. I don't think there's anything particularly wrong with likes and dislikes, so long as they aren't controlling and acting against our best interests. |
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There is nothing intrinsically wrong with the "likes" system, or the achievements, or the LD Count. It is our relationship to them which determines their benefit or detriment. If we allow this information to get to our heads and construct a sense of self around them so that we begin to identify with the amount of LDs we've had or our Posts to Likes ratio, then this information is obviously not serving us. |
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