Right... time for a serious answer... (also: why is this in 'senseless banter'?)
Soulmates? Are they possible?
Well... Yes... But (there's always a but, isn't there?). ONLY to a certain extend, of course.
First we'll have to define a "soulmate". If we drop all the religious, spiritual or in any way woo-woo ideas that float out there, you might simply define it as someone who you're happy with, and you're done pretty easily. Problem is, that, if you decide to do that, there are millions and millions of soulmates, so the entire idea of "soulmate" as in the romantic notion of "we were 'meant for each other'" (of which at least the feeling we'll just assume here) kind of disappears.
So what is a soulmate then?
When you have a certain personality, certain characteristics, certain ambitions and goals, certain wants and don't-wants, you are a certain way, right?
Imagine that there is a person that has all the complementary or coherent characteristics to the ones you have, the complementary personality, and complementary ambitions and goals. Imagine a person that is so much attuned to your personality, that you 'complete' each other. Could you not classify this as a 'soulmate'?
Example (in only one general area of life): if you do not take care of yourself very well, and you meet a person that does, she will take care of you. It sort of reaches a balance. In addition, you both learn about yourself in each other's "reflection" ("Oh, I never knew I didn't take care of myself enough... I'll just change so I become a better person"), and therefore, you bring out the best in each other.
If you, as a person who does not stand up for your ideals, meet a person who does stand up for her ideals, she will probably walk all over you. It is not healthy, therefore, not a very good relationship.
So, if you find somebody who perfectly matches your personality, your goals, your wants, etc., and with whom you bring out the best in each other, you could technically call this a 'soul-mate'.
The practical problem is that these persons might be very rare, if there in the first place, and the second practical problem is that people change all the time. Needs, wants, characteristics all change. So to find someone with whom the two of you can always be attuned, no matter where you are and where you go on a psychological level, might take one to have a special sort of mindset and psyche, that might indeed be very rare.
So... do soulmates exist? I'd say "yes". But is it very probable? I guess not. But then again: who knows... It's not like we've actually gone out and tried to look for 'em have we?
I'll just conclude this for myself here:
No matter what you think, it might be worthwhile anyways to look for the person 'of your dreams'. So I'd say that you first make yourself into the best person you can possibly be, identify the complementary or coherent characteristics of a person's personality, set up a list of things you absolutely want in someone, and look for him/her. Additionally, if you are in a relationship with a (at least normal) person already, there's a very high chance that you are in some way influencing each other psychologically (whether it be conciously or unconciously) and bringing each other closer to 'being the best person they can be'. Who knows... Maybe you can even deliberately 'shape' the two of you into soulmates...
So: whatever your views are on the matter: good luck
-CD
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